MikeyGMin

No...killing people is my department, not MGM's.

Fuck! Where have you been all my life? Thank you! Next question: what is the meaning of life? And don't tell me you'd have to kill me if you tell me.

Yes, you silly boy, you missed my memo. Being behind in you email is not an excuse...
 
Plus or minus 10 years is a "normal" age range. Anything more than 10 years...one of the dudes is old and one of the dudes is young.

How do we define young or old? Isn't that relative or did I miss the policy guidelines?
 
I will date (and most likely bed) a man of any age as long as they are mentally mature, and I find myself physically attracted to them and intrigued by their personality. You'd be surprised how hard it is to find maturity, attractiveness, and personality in the same package - so age becomes irrelevant (in my eyes). I've dated the range from early 20s to 70s. I'm currently dating a 39 y/o who meets all 3 of my criteria and I'm, for the first time ever, dating someone near my age. I'm acknowledging this reality as I write this post, and it feels a bit odd. We'll see how that works out!
 
PS - For those wanting an update, yes, it is Sexyseatmate from the MIA-LAX holiday flight. Thank you, cuspids!

I don't really agree. It doesn't need to be a lack of self-esteem that makes you acknowledge that the vast majority of young guys are not interested in older guys. So if your idea of success is scoring with young guys, outside the escorting world, it's just a fact of life that you have to come to terms with. I think what's really key is to not let that be the determining factor in your happiness or self-satisfaction. Those are the guys who make themselves miserable and let it impact their self-esteem.

I don't really agree. It doesn't need to be a lack of self-esteem that makes you acknowledge that the vast majority of young guys are not interested in older guys. So if your idea of success is scoring with young guys, outside the escorting world, it's just a fact of life that you have to come to terms with. I think what's really key is to not let that be the determining factor in your happiness or self-satisfaction. Those are the guys who make themselves miserable and let it impact their self-esteem.

His Twitter handle is @JasonKingPhoto. He's a West Hollywood photographer and organizes stripper circuses around the country. He doesn't do porn or escort. He's just a really cute guy who is leading quite a life. (At least looking from the outside in.)

Billy Santoro (as mentioned), Kyle Kash, JJ Knight, Scott Riley, Hugh Hunter, BJ Adia, Wesley Woods, Alexander Mecum, Derek Atlas and Kurtis Wolfe are porn guys that I have followed. Even though it's a Twitter app there is no nudity allowed. If it gets reported, the guys get put in timeout. However, Billy has gotten away with a LOT.
 
They vary in frequency and interest. Sometimes it's a new toy and the guys get bored of it after a while, and I have gotten bored of some of them. Wesley is fun, and Alexander and Kurtis don't broadcast a lot, but I always watch them.
 
Non porn but fun include: Tempest DuJour, Jason King, and Lance Bass.

Half empty, plus the glass is cracked and dirty.

But many of the m/m novels written by women focus on how sex feels, smells, tastes as well. The emotions during such scenes aren't about love but lust or maybe protectiveness or how well the top is being served if the characters are into kink. Not that there aren't some books by women that go pretty far in the sentimental direction - there are - but a lot of male-authored books seem episodic and meandering.
 
To the extent the gender of the author is known, I find sex scenes written by men, whether straight or gay, boring, perfunctory and very much insert tab A into tab B. If you're going to write them like that, why bother? From what you're saying, that may be authentic, but it's not exactly scintillating reading. And really? Little goes on in the minds of both participants during a blow job, hand job, frot, or anal sex? Wow.
 
I've read a lot of them too and still find a wider variety of looks, personalities, body types and careers in m/m romance compared to m/f, but lately I've read more m/f because there's more of it, it's less expensive, and the review site I got m/m recommendations from is defunct.
 
I also forgot to mention Alexis Hall. Despite the name, Hall is a dude, though he identifies as queer, not gay. I've read his columns and blog and a short story of his but none of his books. I started reading For Real but stopped because I realized it required more sustained concentration than I could muster at the time.

1. If it's well-written and reasonably accurate as to physiology, why does it matter? (I acknowledge that there are sometimes reasons to quibble with some of the psychology and ways in which romance is thought of, but it's also true that not all men are unsentimental and unromantic, just as not all women are sentimental and love traditional romance.)
2. The female readership may be predominantly straight, although there are no good or definitive studies, but a not insignificant number of the most well-known, prolific authors identify as queer (bisexual, lesbian, trans or genderqueer, if the specifics matter). Ones I can think of off the top of my head:
 
K.A. Mitchell (lesbian)
Harper Fox (lesbian)
Josephine Myles (bisexual)
Alex Beecroft (genderqueer)
Erastes (bisexual)
Aleksandr Voinov (trans)
James Buchanan (trans)
 
I haven't read all these authors, and I don't feel the same about all the ones they've read, but Mitchell, Beecroft and Fox are among the best there are. I enjoy Myles' stories, just not as much as the others; Beecroft writes mostly historical, while I prefer contemporary, and leans toward the more descriptive/flowery end of the spectrum of writing style.
 
CS Pacat is a woman. So is Josh Lanyon.
 
But an even more important point is this: there is no longer an impenetrable barrier between gay and straight love stories. Increasingly, romance novelists are writing so-called "mixed" series: ones where some of the couples are m/f and some are m/m or f/f. Where one character is bisexual and doesn't feel that changes because of the gender of the person they're with. They are writing trans characters in relationships with cis characters, both same and oppsite sex. They are writing asexual characters. They're writing genderqueer characters.
 
One New York Times and USA Today bestselling writer is currently working on a manuscript about a character who heads a tech firm remarkably similar to Apple who is as irascible as Steve Jobs and as gay as Tim Cook but who has a son and is closeted. She's already written a secondary f/f romance in one of her historical novels set in Victorian England. She has tweeted her support of gay rights, an analysis of the opinions in the Obergefell case (as a former clerk to Justice Kennedy, she has insight into this most of us don't have), and told people that if her stance on social issues bothers them, they would not like her books.
 
This expansion is driven by female and trans male writers, editors and publishers, not by cis men. I think it constitutes social progress. Maybe you don't.

Mercy Celeste and Kade Boehme are two of the better female writers. For my taste.

This is too funny. I have only owned up to this guilty pleasure to a few of my closest friends. You are right that they are completely light reading, but after a day of thinking, it's nice just to relax. I signed up for Kindle Unlimited because I was going through so many of them.
 
Yes, they are fluff pieces but I highly recommend the "Something Like Summer" series by Jay Bell. It's a good but fairly typical story of Ben and Tim's young love and difficulty coming out. It's told from Ben's first person perspective and Tim does not come off particularly well. He ends up breaking Ben's heart.
 
However, this is where it got interesting for me, the next book in the series "Something Like Winter" is the same story told from Tim's perspective. It's different enough that it doesn't get boring, but I thought it was really interesting to see where Tim went and what he struggled with.
 
I understand your shame. It's like stuffing your brain with cotton candy, but I always have had a thing for sweets.

Yes it is... And you can tell. Especially the sex scenes.

This is too funny. I have only owned up to this guilty pleasure to a few of my closest friends. You are right that they are completely light reading, but after a day of thinking, it's nice just to relax. I signed up for Kindle Unlimited because I was going through so many of them.
 
Yes, they are fluff pieces but I highly recommend the "Something Like Summer" series by Jay Bell. It's a good but fairly typical story of Ben and Tim's young love and difficulty coming out. It's told from Ben's first person perspective and Tim does not come off particularly well. He ends up breaking Ben's heart.
 
However, this is where it got interesting for me, the next book in the series "Something Like Winter" is the same story told from Tim's perspective. It's different enough that it doesn't get boring, but I thought it was really interesting to see where Tim went and what he struggled with.
 
I understand your shame. It's like stuffing your brain with cotton candy, but I always have had a thing for sweets.

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+1
 
That's two of us you can count on.

Mike: You should visit Austin sometime :-)

Ditto. I have a regular that I see every few weeks. I love our time together, I love everything we do together. I really care about him as a person and would be there for him if he ever needed anything. I love our arrangement but am always conscious of the boundaries.

I agree Greg. Thank you. Life is messy and full of grey areas. Either party can be foolish, manipulative, naive, predatory or anything else. Young guys don't "deserve" to be hurt anymore than the older guys "deserve" to be taken advantage of.

I agree Greg. Thank you. Life is messy and full of grey areas. Either party can be foolish, manipulative, naive, predatory or anything else. Young guys don't "deserve" to be hurt anymore than the older guys "deserve" to be taken advantage of.

I agree Greg. Thank you. Life is messy and full of grey areas. Either party can be foolish, manipulative, naive, predatory or anything else. Young guys don't "deserve" to be hurt anymore than the older guys "deserve" to be taken advantage of.

Sadly.. that would be the ideal.. but we all know in reality... its guilty until proven innocent.

Tonyko, you assume that one can only be genuinely attracted to hotness and youth, and everything else is forced in order to obtain $ome benefit.
 
And are you talking about men only here? Guys are indeed wired to value those things, but haven't you met guys who are also genuinely turned on by fame, sexual experience, musical talent or whatever? Also, the 34 to 74 example is extreme. How about 34 to 50?
 
And that's just men. For the other half of the world, it's a completely different ball of, er, fluff.

Why is attraction based on looks more valid than attraction that based on fame, status, power, or whatever?
 
They're two sides of the same coin. Sic transit gloria mundi.