MikeyGMin

I happen to agree with you that there is a space in this industry for managers who are very much not pimps. They take on the work of answering all the many messages, screening clients and particularly provide benefit if there are language issues. I also agree that control is the key distinguishing factor -- not the arranging of the clients. However, you take it too far in proclaiming that none of us could really know what a pimp is. That's just silly. You don't have to be a drug addict to know what a drug dealer is. You don't have to have been molested to know what a pedophile is.

Way too short after all that buildup!

Now my little old man is wondering why dad is crying. Dogs have been one of my life's greatest pleasures and biggest heartbreaks. I can only hope he goes as peacefully. RIP Ben.

Derrick pulled it off in season 16 and Dan all the way back in season 10. They were both Puppet Masters but they remained loyal to a core that supported them in the jury. Their social game was good enough that when the opposing side was in power, they were not the target (Derrick) or could sweet talk themselves out of it (Dan.) They had very little blood on their hands so very little animosity in the jury.

Bump. Has anyone taken the plunge since he's been in Houston? He's reached out to me based on a prior communication, but I'm not getting a warm and fuzzy. I think the pictures are probably accurate, but no indication that performances up to par.

At least in Paul's first season he had the redeeming quality of being in an unfortunate early Alliance that made him the underdog narrowly escaping eviction each week. If I remember correctly he suffered the same fate. Making it into the finals but being hated by the jury,

Lol. There's not a man alive who doesn't like a genuine compliment. (Okay. There was poster here a while ago who couldn't stand any kind of comment good or bad.) I see a young man who has an absolutely PERFECT body -- for my taste. At some point I invariably take it all in with my eyes and tell him that he's perfect. He blushes and claims that he is not, but I can tell he likes hearing it.

The logistics of going to see someone you have never met are soooo much easier. As long as you are going to a city that has other escorts available to become Plan B, you also avoid the risk of putting all of your eggs in one basket. I learned this lesson the hard way. I had communicated with a young porn performer quite extensively through Twitter and felt like I had a good sense of his personality. Within hours of him arriving, one of the very things I found fun about him -- his quick wit and smart ass personality -- became very annoying. It was a disaster but I had all my eggs in that one basket and just had to grin and bear it.

I've always thought that James Purefoy was one of the sexiest actors out there. Ever since his small role in "A Knights Tale." The scene where he proclaims Heath Ledger a true Lord of the Realm and says, "My word is in-con-test-able!" Swoon. I've tried to watch everything he's been in. He was a sexy beast in "Rome."

Excellent! It's great to hear that you seized the moment and had a good time. Just sending messages to an Instagram hottie takes some balls, so you should deservedly be proud that you lived the "nothing ventured nothing gained principle."

New Yorkers are pussies if someone doesn't step up and check this guy out. :D:D:D

Someone -- either he or you -- is still being very coy about whether the young man will receive a "gift" for his attention.

I am hating on CBS right now. Big Brother is my absolute favorite show, but I cannot stomach watching anything with Omarosa in it. It physically repulses me.

Aahhh. That would be it. I always use the mobile version of the site on a mobile device. Good to know!

Well, yes and no. I think of them as personal messages. Of course the system admins can look at them, but I consider it extremely bad form to reveal the contents of a PM on the open board.

You are correct. I have never been able to figure out how to do it from a mobile device. Maybe someone smarter has figured it out, but it's very easy from a laptop.

That's funny. A Venezuelan friend of mine was just telling me the other day how much that annoyed him when he was in Costa Rica. One of my favorite things in the world to do is to get this Venezuelan, my Costa Rican friend and a couple Mexicans "discussing" who speaks the best Spanish after we've had a few drinks. It is hilarious.

These days it comes closer to meaning something along the lines of "babe." It's just a mild term of endearment. I suppose it could mean boyfriend if you say something like, "he's my boo" but it could just as easily mean "he's my close friend."

This. Unless you deleted it, you should still have an email in you inbox from the Web Master telling you that your review has been posted. You can reply to that email and explain the situation and they will undoubtedly delete it.

I ALWAYS strip completely naked. Seems to me that leaving your underwear on is almost signaling that you don't want that area touched, and it would lead to an awkward moment over when you take them off.

Not intended to be snarky, but the answer is simple. Because I can. There are beautiful young men -- who would have been out of my league even when I was their age -- willing to do the job. It's the ultimate luxury and I can afford it at this point in my life.

I wouldn't be shy about sending someone a PM in the manor described above. I think the complaints you may have seen recently were related to overly crude or graphic messages. I'm sure some guys love talking about every thrust and spurt that occurs, but you need to know your audience. I think "massage guys" have it particularly difficult because if you are inquiring about someone what you really want to know is how far he will go. That requires a certain level of trust that you might not have right away with the person you were contacting.

Clearly there is something going on that has skewed your experience. As @escortrod has been pointing out you seem to have a selection bias towards gay for pay, which in my opinion, means you are starting out with a group more likely to have issues. Also your age. I don't mean that as a put-down, but it means your early hiring days were a long time ago when the stigma was severe, so once again you were dealing with a group more likely to have issues and be desperate. Right now off the top of my head, my four favorite escorts all have stable lives, career plans either in the adult industry or in another career field. They don't have any drug problems and they all have health insurance and beautiful teeth. They are fit and healthy and know where their life is headed and living life on their own terms. There has to be a selection difference that makes your experiences so drastically different than mine. Edit: fixed numerous typos

I couldn't agree with you more. When it involves another person you don't have the right to be dishonest so that you can have your cake and eat it too. You don't have the right to destroy other people's lives because you don't have the courage to be honest. One of my nieces has just gone through the trauma of finding out that her husband was playing around with men on the side. I do have some sympathy for older guys who married young in an attempt to suppress their desire for men, but this little scumbag was only 25 years old when they married 5 years ago. There is no excuse in this day and age to go into a marriage with such an important secret.

Do some reasonable due diligence. Is his Instagram his actual name, can you find anything to verify that name and his address. If that all checks out, I don't see this as a particularly hazardous venture. People meet and/or hook up via Instagram ALL the time. As far as the expectation that he may have about compensation. You know what he looks like and he knows what you look like. Honestly evaluate the situation using the general norms of hooking up. He's a model with a great body. I assume he's young. Would you be competitive if meeting him at a bar? Or are you an average guy 20 or more years older than him? If it's the latter you should at least be prepared to compensate him if you are interested in having sex with him. If you've never said anything about being generous and he's never mentioned money, I would not bring it up before meeting him, but if things started getting heated I would certainly bring it up before the sex.