Eric Hassan

Is it possible that a LTR isn't the goal in these relationships that don't last? There may be nothing wrong with the people involved-something long term just wasn't the object.

i respectfully diagree that escorting long term doesn't benefit someone's mental health. mine is way better now then when i was in my last career. i acknowledge that some folks might have trouble after doing sex work for a while, but i dont' think that's a causation thing. i think some accountants have mental health issues after doing it for a while. some doctors, too. and i'm sure some lawyers definitely waitresses and probably teachers, too. what i mean to point out is that sex work is work and just like any job, you might or might not expereince a change in your mental health after doing the work for a while.
 
i do think that it takes a fair amount of vigilance and work to maintain one's mental health doing sex work. it has most certaibly changed my views on sex, my body, other bodies, relationships, etc - but i don't make that wrong and i do the work i need to do to maintain my mental health in the same way that someone else doing something else might. without intention, it probably won't happen!

it's definitely not tax-free. there's no way that all those credit card transactions are happening and the owners of OF/JFF are taking in that amount of money and nobody thinks about the performers. if a performer isn't paying taxes on something so easy to track and document, they're dumb - and looking for trouble.
 
also, i highly doubt that many of these guys are actually making a decent amount of money - if they were, they wouldn't constantly be putting their services on sale. on a daily basis, i see someone else who is supposedly "doing well" begging folks to join their half-priced OF.

i would cry tears of joy if i got a message like this - and i would answer all the questions without hesitation
 
being upfront is fine - it's when i get a message from someone i've never talked to before that says "what's your rate?" and nothing else - annoying partly because i link my website with all of this information on it already but mostly because you're a stranger and if you can't even bother to say "hello, my name is ___" than i wonder how much you actually care about what you're doing, and how nicely you'll treat me - i'm also quite likely to completely ignore the one word texts as @MrMattBig above mentioned ("avail?" "into")
 
i appreciate the efficiency of including your name, approximate location, in or out, days/times you're looking to meet, and any questions you have in your first text - it tells me that you think about what you're doing, you're interested in meeting me (not just lookinhg for a body) and that you care about YOUR experience - i mean, you're planning on spending a lot of money, don't you care about the experience even a little?

for me, using a stage name is part of the fun. i have a legal name. i have a porn name. i do a lot of writing and i have a third name for my writing. i also make music and i use a fourth name for that. they are all me but each one has strengths and concerns that the others don't have. part of my creative process (and sanity) is being able to embody these "characters"
 
i don't really mind if folx find out my legal name (or any other name) but i do love the name eric, and i love being called eric, but if someone wanted to call me by my legal name, i'm not interested in fighting that. and if i don't want to hear it, i can always shove my dick in their mouth.

I also think it's a great thing that if someone doesn't want to work as an escort that these platforms are available for them to make money. I don't begrudge anyone preferring to have sex with select men for money versus having a Rentmen ad and accepting a wider range of playmates. As a sometimes client (though, truthfully, mostly former client at this point) I also appreciate that some guys enjoy escorting and others would prefer not to do any kind of porn because they don't want images like that available online for the world to see.

I don’t subscribe to any of them nor do I know all that much about the OF and JFF phenomena, but it seems like a very saturated market. Almost every adult-oriented Twitter and IG user seems to have one or both accounts. It also seems like you need to subscribe to at least one before you can see who else is providing content. I’d like to browse the available content providers before subscribing to any of them.

However you want to spin it, the person you hire someone to be and the person they are outside the confines of your arrangement do not correlate. It may seem "silly," but it really is necessary for some escorts to mentally check in and out by using something as simple as a fake name. Blurring the lines of professional and personal in this industry isn't healthy for everyone.

There should never be an exchange.
Each party is free to share personal information as they see fit.
With that being said, please remember that if someone asks your name, it's just to be polite and have something to call you by. It does mean your legal name and social is required lol. Same with asking about work. It's just polite small talk. Doesn't mean your work location s and hours are wanted lol.
Just feel I have to put that out there for those that I had to change a fill field on my website that used to say "name" to "name, nickname, or alias"??‍♂️?‍♂️

It is a very customer unfriendly environment out there in terms of websites not showing any rates anymore, so obviously if I was a client looking to obtain services of other gentlemen, my first question would be about rates. It is absolutely reasonable to ask immediately and I always send my website URL where I list everything related to that.
 
The only time I would decline to see a client is if the client asks me how much I charge to perform certain sexual services. Since that's illegal, that's where the emailing ends, otherwise I always provide the infomation that is necessary for the potential client to determine whether he is interested in retaining my services or not.

i respectfully diagree that escorting long term doesn't benefit someone's mental health. mine is way better now then when i was in my last career. i acknowledge that some folks might have trouble after doing sex work for a while, but i dont' think that's a causation thing. i think some accountants have mental health issues after doing it for a while. some doctors, too. and i'm sure some lawyers definitely waitresses and probably teachers, too. what i mean to point out is that sex work is work and just like any job, you might or might not expereince a change in your mental health after doing the work for a while.
 
i do think that it takes a fair amount of vigilance and work to maintain one's mental health doing sex work. it has most certaibly changed my views on sex, my body, other bodies, relationships, etc - but i don't make that wrong and i do the work i need to do to maintain my mental health in the same way that someone else doing something else might. without intention, it probably won't happen!

in my frustration with text communictation, i've been someone who's bitched to my friends about one word texts, ignoring questions, etc and my friend have often reminded me of the same thing - that's SOP in the hookup/casual communication world in regards to texting and it's probably how some folx will approach hiring, hence the terse/inadequate communication
 
and i feel you @Trick - you're pointing out that it's not just clients that have room for improvement on their communication! i hope that you are able to frame it in terms of their problem, not yours, and perhaps a sign they may not be the right person for you
 
as an interesting(?) side note, every once in a while i bite and respond to a text message that i might not normailly respond to - i thought maybe the folx who send terse messages might be fine with terse communication in general, and maybe the attitude i'm rocking is costing me business - so, i got a text from this guy recently, someone i have never messaged with before that just said "hey" so i wrote "hey" back and he wrote (2 hours later) "you free?" and i wrote "nope" and he went off on my horrible customer service and how sorry he was that even bothered to look me up

That’s so true. For me, I was also very young when my forearm obsession developed. Even now, I get very turned on with the site of a hairy forearm beneath a rolled up shirt Sleeve. Add a nice watch and I’m all yours.
 
I’m a member of several online watch groups and the forearm pics are just like porn for me.

i love love love love love love love love love love when a guy leaves his watch on during sex or jerking off. for me, it's rare that a watch looks bad on a guy, and often they enhance the overall asthetic of the forearm, and that's pretty much all i need lol
 
also, i'm not sure, but i'm guessing that most watches these days are water-resistant enough that incidental fluids and lube are unlikely to damage the watch. i'm guess this has been mentioned in some of the other responses, but i haven't looked at them yet

I definitely agree that a nice watch on a nice forearm is really sexy and nice to look at. However I would just rather look at a bare cock (or one with a bouncing hand or in me) than one with multiple watches on it. To each his own.

We will have to agree to disagree. I think I mentioned that when I was a child looking at handsome guys-and I'm talking about when I was as young as 6 years of age or younger, I thought watches were ugly. And I think I remember actively thinking that I wish that the various handsome guys I saw weren't wearing a watch. Even today I sometimes think that about watch wearing guys-particularly guys wearing a gold colored watchbands or guys with those square smart watches.
 
Gman

You need a new roommate? ?

I’ve lost too many watches FF topping and I’m just not going to let it happen again.

There's something hot about a guy who wears a watch during sexy time.

There's something hot about a guy who wears a watch during sexy time.

Funny that you say if only there was some SOP for client-provider communications......your quote above is typically standard for human-human communications. I have found that true in non "working " hookups, selling/buying items, finding roommates, and other scenarios. I just expect this as the norm now whenever communicating digitally with anyone (text, email, even voice calls sometimes) and then pleasantly surprised and emotionally/intellectually turned on when someone communicates with well rounded responses.

i respectfully diagree that escorting long term doesn't benefit someone's mental health. mine is way better now then when i was in my last career. i acknowledge that some folks might have trouble after doing sex work for a while, but i dont' think that's a causation thing. i think some accountants have mental health issues after doing it for a while. some doctors, too. and i'm sure some lawyers definitely waitresses and probably teachers, too. what i mean to point out is that sex work is work and just like any job, you might or might not expereince a change in your mental health after doing the work for a while.
 
i do think that it takes a fair amount of vigilance and work to maintain one's mental health doing sex work. it has most certaibly changed my views on sex, my body, other bodies, relationships, etc - but i don't make that wrong and i do the work i need to do to maintain my mental health in the same way that someone else doing something else might. without intention, it probably won't happen!

i would cry tears of joy if i got a message like this - and i would answer all the questions without hesitation
 
being upfront is fine - it's when i get a message from someone i've never talked to before that says "what's your rate?" and nothing else - annoying partly because i link my website with all of this information on it already but mostly because you're a stranger and if you can't even bother to say "hello, my name is ___" than i wonder how much you actually care about what you're doing, and how nicely you'll treat me - i'm also quite likely to completely ignore the one word texts as @MrMattBig above mentioned ("avail?" "into")
 
i appreciate the efficiency of including your name, approximate location, in or out, days/times you're looking to meet, and any questions you have in your first text - it tells me that you think about what you're doing, you're interested in meeting me (not just lookinhg for a body) and that you care about YOUR experience - i mean, you're planning on spending a lot of money, don't you care about the experience even a little?

i respectfully diagree that escorting long term doesn't benefit someone's mental health. mine is way better now then when i was in my last career. i acknowledge that some folks might have trouble after doing sex work for a while, but i dont' think that's a causation thing. i think some accountants have mental health issues after doing it for a while. some doctors, too. and i'm sure some lawyers definitely waitresses and probably teachers, too. what i mean to point out is that sex work is work and just like any job, you might or might not expereince a change in your mental health after doing the work for a while.
 
i do think that it takes a fair amount of vigilance and work to maintain one's mental health doing sex work. it has most certaibly changed my views on sex, my body, other bodies, relationships, etc - but i don't make that wrong and i do the work i need to do to maintain my mental health in the same way that someone else doing something else might. without intention, it probably won't happen!

i have my BS and MS in occupational therapy and spent 14 years practicing before i left 5 years ago to go full-time in sex work. in my time as a practiciing clinician, i saw repeated funding cuts, new vague rules, limitations on treatment, changing (expanding) documentation needs, higher productivity requirements, and a general decline in the ability of professionals such as OTs, PTs, and STs to provide the best care possible because of these things. i eventually left the last company i worked for because after a significant medicare fine, the company laid off thousands of people, eliminated rehab supervisors and directors (a year before i had been a director and stepped down because i wanted to do more direct patient care, and i would have lost my job if i had stayed), and morale was super low.
 
what i can tell you as someone who made the career change is that the skills you have gained as an OT will carry you far. i always say that as an OT i had to walk into a room with a 90 year old lady who had never met me and was sick, and and in less than 15 minutes i needed to convince her to take off her clothes while i watched and scrutinized how she did it - if you can do that smoothly, you can handle almost anything. also, you've probably gotten used to knowing what 15 minutes feels like, or when an hour is up - you can imagine how valuable that is. also, you've probably developed a natural skill for making people feel comfortable, for having difficult conversations, for providing a complete experience in the time allotted, for setting goals and measuring progress, for finding humor in awkward situations, for keeping track of multiple people and changing situations over a perid of time, and coming up with solutions to problems and alternatives to typical ways of doing things. i regularly use the skills i developed as an OT in my work as a sex worker.
 
the flip side that i want to present is that sex work is not for everyone. if you're only running away from something (a changing healthcare situation) you might want to think twice - healthcare has forever been a shit show, and what seems like trouble now will become the new normal - when i entered the healthcare world, there were people then bemoaning a system that felt good to me. funding will come and go, rules will change, morale will drop and come back up - but people will keep being sick and getting injured. but if you are considering this choice because you are looking to something (a new opportunity to use your skills and interests), i wou;dn't hesistate to advocate for you giving it a shot. but do what i did - make sure you have your license and continuing ed up to par, and give yourself a year, then evaluate. you can always go back to OT if you find sex work is not for you, or not making you the money you need or want.