Eric Hassan

These are good questions, and I think you know that the best person to talk with and clarify answers is the escort. I would advise anyone who has any kind of concern when meeting with an escort - whether it's an hour or overnight - to do one thing and remember one thing. TO DO: bring your spirit and be your true and genuine self TO REMEMBER: there is no right or wrong - you can't fuck this up I think most on this forum would attest to the brightness of your spirit and you are a careful, considerate, thoughtful and self-expressed member of this community. BRING THAT. Ask questions, get answers, then allow yourself to ENJOY yourself and the lucky guy. Also, I second @escortrod's endorsement of Pure For Men. I use it and love it. I am routinely clean enough that if a spontaneous fuck were to come up, I would feel comfortable getting poked. I still prefer to clean so I remove all doubt and that process is much easier now that I use PFM. Have fun, dude. You've got this.

Chad Allen piqued my pre-pubescent interest. I didn't get the sexual attraction, I just knew I wanted to be friends with him. Billy Warlock (on Baywatch at the time) raised my interest in the male body. I was still unaware I was gay but knew something was different. Cliff Parker was the man who convinced me I could be gay. I saw his spread in Advocate Classifieds and was convinced; prior to that moment I wasn't attracted to the gay guys I saw in porn and was bummed out to be gay because the guys weren't as cute as Chad and Billy. Now, Kristen Ritter is my spirit animal, I get a boner for forearms, and Chad Allen is gay. Yay.

I think mindset helps. Find a way to completely fall in love with his dick. Find that zone in your head and then let it guide you. Remain connected to the guy, remain connected to your love for his cock and you'll blow his mind.

Got it! I think @LivingnLA has great advice, and I second his post - especially the part about taking it easy and accepting your limitations, which may evolve over time or may remain fixed at a certain point.

Did he want you to deep throat him?

Like @mike carey said, this incident is about the client and not you. You don't have to take it personally. I have a friend who says that sometimes, you literally pay for your life lessons. Think of this as a $60 lesson that sometimes you'll get stiffed and that you don't need to see this client again. You don't need to do anything differently moving forward but now you know it could happen. Big hugs to you!

As an escort, I don't want to "ruin" the experience by counting money in front of the client, but I also don't want to be short-changed and find out after I've left. On the first visit, I always appreciate it when my client either verbally confirms the rate when he pays, takes @ArVaGuy's approach and counts the money in front of me, or takes the approach of @nycman and offers the money then excuses himself for a moment. Once this transaction goes smoothly the first time, I feel much more assured and am not likely to count the money in front of the client. That's me, and your provider may have his own reasons, but I don't think it's something to take personally. It was your first visit and, as providers, that first visit is our time to vet you as a real-life client, just as it's your opportunity to test us out in real life. A little extra caution - on both parts - is warranted and not personal. If you enjoyed the experience, let that be the thing that sticks with you.

YUM x 5 @honcho you're like my forearm watchdog - I need to take you with me when I'm out and about to make sure I don't miss a thing! I recently registered a site as a sub-site of my own site just for forearms ... I can't wait to get that up and running!

They did ... and thank you for bringing them to my attention!! WOOOOOOFFFFFFF The blondish guy by himself is incredibly hot. I love that bit of hair on the distal ulnar aspect of the forearm - always gets me weak! And on the back on his hand. When I see a guy with a little bit of fuzz on the back of his hand I go NUTS! @marylander1940 - thanks for posting! and @honcho - thanks for bringing them to my attention - I need to pay more attention to these threads!

I have a Spotify account - actually have the family plan as well!! I've thought for a while about creating playlists to share with people - like my 'fuck music' playlist.

Abbey Road is brilliant, particularly the run from "You Never Give Me Your Money" through the end of the album. I do wish they had stopped at "The End," and put "Her Majesty" somewhere else on the album. And, like @rvwnsd, I like to put on a mix of chill tunes. I use Spotify and have a Duck Tails channel that is AMAZING for chilling out and for screwing around - lots of Twin Shadow, Wild Nothing, Craft Spells, and so on - lots of reverb, phasing, and delay seems to be a good formula for music for getting busy.

I have such a hard time listening to it because of the breathing. I have a sensory processing difficulty that makes it hard for me to isolate sounds and when I hear the breathing, it slowly becomes all I can hear and then I start envisioning lungs and people on respirators and ... well, it just ends up not being sexy.

That sounds painful.

I love music and I often like music playing during the more intimate times of my life - especially albums that you can play straight through and they take you on a journey. I'm curious about what other folks on this site like to play when they're playing. Lately I've really been digging "Since I Left You" from the Avalanches - there's something about it that's super sexy to me. I've also always been a fan of The Future Sound of London, and any of their Environments or Archives releases are great, mostly instrumental albums for sexy times. "Holy Fire" from Foals is also another great choice, IMO. What do you like to play?!

I have heard some of the same things about Zak - fortunately, years after he and I stopped having sex in my head. I might have still stuck around, though, hoping he might need to take out some aggression on me. I feel the same way about Gallo. He was hot at first - and like @pitman said - the definition of "barrel-chested" (there was a movie in the 90s with him as some sort of cop/detective and, at one point, he was in suspenders and dress pants with his big old hairy chest and big fat uncut dick, standing over some dude on his back on a desk with his mouth open - that made me cum repeatedly and directly contributed to my wearing of suspenders). Later on, he became a product/cog in the wheel and yeah, that wasn't so exciting.

When I was younger, I was totally into Cliff Parker, Zak Spears and Anthony Gallo. Especially Cliff - more pre-surgery/steroids than post- but still ... WOW. (Somebody please tell me they hired him and he was amazing.) I was also 16 and this was back before you could google "age of consent."

I'm so sorry to hear about this situation. It sounds like it's incredibly rough. I'm glad that you felt you were able to turn to us. I, too, am supportive of you and your husband going to marriage counseling - if that's something he is willing to take on with you. Either way, it sounds like it might be helpful for you even if he doesn't wish to attend. It sounds like clear communication may have helped this situation not get escalated. It also seems like there isn't a clear and open space for that. I hope you can find that. Please let us know if there is anything we can do to support. And though we don't know each other, I welcome you to reach out to me if you need a shoulder to lean on.

I think you'll find a lot of value to participating in the forum but you might want to wait longer than a few weeks to make that determination. Also, clients won't always tell you how they found out about you or where they've checked you out. That's OK - that's their business. To me, the value of participating in this forum comes from the change to be part of the community. This is a chance to let folks know who you are and what you're about.

I'm all about getting good deals for the medication you want/need, even when that means using online pharmacies based in Canada or Mexico. PrEP, however, is an exception - to me, at least. Taking PrEP requires that you get regularly tested for HIV to make sure you're still negative and also requires monitoring of kidney and liver function - there's a possibility of side effects that may require brief breaks from taking the medication, or may mean the medication is contraindicated. I think it's a bad idea to fuck with that - it seems very unwise to me to be taking a medication to prevent infection with HIV without knowing that you are indeed negative and to risk possible damage to your kidneys or liver from ongoing, unmonitored use.

Thank you!!! His arms are AMAZING!! Speaking of which - I was in Puerto Vallarta this week on a big gay vacation and there were some good arms (and wonderful, inspiring, sexy, smart) men there. On our last night I had dinner with a group of friends and we ended up having a nice conversation about forearms and other fetishes. So fun! Thanks for the heads up, @honcho !!

Levi Cash is a-fucking-mazing. Blond dudes with furry forearms totally get me going!

I don't know opera well, but have enjoyed it every time. I enjoy being challenged by the music I listen to - I like art that I don't always quite get initially, but that grabs my ear and keeps me by it's side until suddenly something opens and this whole new world of beauty is right in front of me.

Sam is a great guy - I worked with him in a couple of TIM flicks and he's sweet and fun.

Thanks! I'll PM you. RE: Chad - he was doing a lot of broadcasts on Periscope for a while, but I've not seen him on there lately. I would definitely hire him - and I would be a very very very easy hire. He would only need to wear a polo shirt and sit there. I'm interested to hear all the feedback about Marco Rossi. I was a big fan of his in the early 2000's. I lived in Palm Spring at the time and had a fuck buddy who was friends with him - he offered to introduce us, but it never panned out, largely because I didn't want to potentially ruin the fantasies I had about him by meeting him in real life. Seems like I made the right choice, unfortunately.

I had no clue that he escorted. Do you know if he is still escorting? I have had the HUGEST crush on him for years. His arms totally hit every button on my forearm fetish checklist, and I would gladly pay him just to get to sit next to him, chat, and touch his arms! Someone else mentioned Cliff Parker. Another one of my long-time crushes with amazing arms! I wish he were still around. Otherwise, most of the porn stars I would want to hire for intimacy are straight-identified (Chad White, Brick Danger, Levi Cash, Jordan Ash, Ramon Nomar, JMac, Mick Blue all come to mind) and probably not going to happen or they are gay-identified and I just would want to have lunch with them.