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Ok. Let's look at THAT. What feels like systemic racism about your dating history ? 🤔 There are definitely people who fetishize ethnic groups with little interest in the challenges of crossing the aisle to learn about other people's culture in a relationship.

Are all your friends from LA ?

I wasnt referring to escorts. I was talking about my random hook ups with straight-identifying friends-of-friends.

NYC is a giant candy store. There's people from everywhere here. Moving isn't likely going to solve your problem. Maybe you're looking in the wrong places ? Hook up sites are for hooking up. Dating sites for dating. Sexually active people sometimes forget about "normal" ways to meet people. You said you're not sexually attracted after a friend's-first relationship. Maybe start looking at THAT. Why is a "friend" sexually uninteresting ? What is in that sexual connection that isn't satisfied when someone is already there with you ? Are you expecting too much up front ? Looking to be swept off your feet romantically and sexually ? As we mature we realize that's not always going to be our destiny...so we settle for what works and makes adjustments in life to keep it working. Hollywood often fills us with unrealistic goals in romance.

What happened ? Did you fly him on Spirit ? 🤣

Handsome. Seems to have quite a repertoire of sexual satisfaction available..including "electro stimulation".

You're a class-act @BaronArtz

I think the overarching principle is that everyone agrees on is that you need to provide some down-time for your friend to be "off the clock". Yes. You're paying him to be attentive, but you're hiring a human, not a robot. We all need time to decompress and disengage from others. All the rest should obviously be discussed up front so there are no feelings of your expectations being dashed. But communicate what you would LIKE, not what you EXPECT. Let your friend have some input about his limits.

I suppose it depends on the facility. Some are rather clinical and others can be quite luxurious. I placed an elderly friend in one that feels like a four star hotel with beautiful facilities like a cocktail lounge with live music, pool, game room and two dining rooms and a rooftop deck..as well as on-site beauty salon. Various levels of care are offered. Independent living/ assisted living and memory care. Seems that maintaining two separate homes is going to be expensive. Although the issue of a dog will indeed limit your choices (but not preclude every one ).

I've always said, the best BDSM doms are those who started out as a sub.

Personally...I prefer to mention a few basics upfront: "I'm a top". "Wild over mild"...etc. and then see where the provider naturally takes things. Gives me a better sense of their natural inclinations...and skills. Then afterwards discussing any special role play that I may want to schedule for a separate meet. I can tell you from much experience that giving someone a script doesn't always work whether you're paying a pro or hooking up with a rando. Best to check how adaptable someone is before getting too specific.

I haven't eaten chicken nuggets for decades...but if there's honey-mustard sauce WHY would I dunk one in ketchup ? 🤢 As far as the burger....yes. I forgot another appropriate use. Ketchup, mayonnaise, lettuce, tomato and cheese with a potato bun...is the correct way to serve a burger.

It truly is. There are so many delicious sauces served all over Asia. Ketchup is however, perfect with Pomme Frites. Otherwise it doesn't belong on your food.

This is an example where an upfront deposit might make sense. (As much as I'm opposed to sending money to randoms). If you want to spend time discussing your session..that's reasonable. But you're on the clock.

I'm curious why you're not both moving. I recently moved an elderly friend into a facility in Fort Lauderdale. There are a lot of couples there. Many don't seem to NEED the care...I'm thinking just preparing for the inevitable so it's not a burden later in life.

Yummy. Good find. Makes me wish I were a bottom. 🍑

Because eggs are disgusting without spice. I use jalapeño sauce on my eggs. Ketchup is a bizarre default for Americans who lack global culinary experiences.

In the end...it's all theater. Same as the gay guys who want providers to kiss them and pretend they actually like you. None of this is necessarily real...you just need to get into the head-space to want to believe...and want to pay for someone to help you get there.

Absolutely. That joy did not pass my notice. But I know these gentlemen were incapable of that sense of joyfulness outside of their safe-space. Most of my younger gay friends have no problem enjoying a mainstream venue to hangout / make-out / hook-up etc. with same sex partners. They aren't afraid to grind on the dance floor with another boy while their female friends watch and cheer them on in his sexual pursuit. To me ..this is a far more evolved community that should be more comfortable because they enjoy a more diverse system of emotional support. Not just other gays.

I have been in multiple situations over the years where I ended up in a sexual relationship with a man who was described as emotionally vulnerable for a variety of reasons.( Death / break ups / traumatic military experience ) I wad accused of being a "groomer" because these man were straight but I eneded up sleeping with them on a regular basis. I don't agree ...and they ALL came on to me...not the other way around. But my point being that their fragile emotional state left them vulnerable. Thus the accusations of "grooming". That was 20 years ago...so maybe the term has evolved over the years to be more specific to pedophiles. I just know I've been accused several times and none of these young men were under 18.

When I was in my late 20s I identified as gay and this is when I explored gay-only destinations. Just saying ...the only thing that was common in these places was a sense of shame. I think gay men of younger generations have moved past that.

I do, in fact, prefer straight presenting sexual partners. I have often been accused of "grooming" straight friends and associates. So my understanding is that grooming is defined as manipulating someone into a sexual relationship when a power imbalance is in place. Doesn't need to be a minor. Can be anyone who's vulnerable.

I don't like lying to people. "Thanks for reaching out but I am no longer interested"...seems the most direct and honest response without being mean and without all these lies. (I am dating/ I moved etc).