Thank you all for your suggestions. Special mention to @Benjamin_Nicholas who I respect immensely because of your torrid, very colorfully-described sexcapades! I have learned to enjoy bottoming, and have come to expect it as part of my sexual encounters (except the unplanned unprepped ones ) I am able to relax and take my time in taking a large one in, which usually means me being on top, and using a lot of lube. And once my body has gotten accustomed to it, there's really nothing quite like the sensation of cumming while passionately deep-kissing a sexy man whose cock is fully inside you. Everything is fine afterwards, until I have to go to the bathroom the following day, and my ass feels raw and painful. It gets better the subsequent days. Perhaps I do need to do it more often in order to develop a "callous". .