Yeahman

It’s Michael Lucas. I actually would hire him, if he was an escort, I like his porn.

I emailed him many years ago, and he wanted to meet. I never met him though. Not sure if he still would.

Did you plan to chat about it over the phone, discuss it perhaps immediately after the happy ending, or or just spring it on him while you are paying?

It seems that the consensus of this thread is not to bring it up at all. But like others have mentioned, if the provider needs me to book him flights, he'll likely have to share with me his real name and we can go from there.

I follow two providers’ IG accounts. They follow me too.

I assume that they know you are the owner of the IG account they are following.

Former provider here...i had one client tell me that he had found out my real name by researching. It creeped me out and with a few choice words, I threw him out of the apartment that I had at the time. That was the end of that.

 

If he wanted you to know his real name, he would tell you voluntarily.

So I suppose that you wouldn’t mind your clients following your social media accounts if you voluntarily tell them your real name?

I've actually figured out the real names of three people on hook-up sites, but haven't mentioned it to any of them for exactly that reason.

 

Long ago, there was a porn star who listed his phone # in an ad, and I reverse-directory-ed it and found that he was listed in the phone book with his address. Shortly after that I had some work doing surveys a block away and even though he wasn't actually in the area I was supposed to be covering, I took the opportunity to ring his bell (literally, unfortunately) and ask him the survey questions.

That's interesting. It'll be more interesting if you had hired him before you asked him the survey questions.

Met him only once. My thought too if I fly him to me, he’ll have to tell me his real name which I already know. But I guess I don’t need to tell him I know his real name.

Unless it's causing him problems that you know about, it's best to say nothing at all.

 

To admit to someone you were basically internet stalking them is usually socially frowned upon.

That’s a great point! I will be cautious for the benefit of both parties.

I met one guy a few years ago and through google search I found his real name on social media platforms. Should I tell him the next time I meet him? Will it have negative impact? I truly don’t know.

I follow some hot models on instagram. I'd like to know if they provide service if the money is good. I want to DM them, but not sure if they'll get upset. Anyone has such experiences getting those hot models who don't have ads on RM?

Warts are skin to skin transmitted. You'd be protected from getting internal warts, but skin around the dick is likely coming into contact with the skin of your ass, and you cpuld grt them on the outside. So get the shot if you haven't.

But it seems they only give HPV vaccines to people of certain age.

I talk to my doctor about Everything. He even knows I use providers. After someone sees your anal warts, there aren’t many secrets. And yes, he is gay. If you are not comfortable talking about your inner most secrets with your doctor, no matter how great you think he/she is, you need a new doctor.

But if one only gets penetrated when the partner uses a condom, chances of getting anal warts is pretty small, right?

@Yeahman talk to a Dr you trust about it!

Thanks. Do you or your friend have experiences getting it from the County level Health Department in Maryland?

a break occurred in the previous post when i replied to your questions - here they are again (hopefully without the break):

(1) So my guess is that when you are certain you won't be sexually active for a while, you will pause on the daily regimen, and switch to the 2-1-1 method?

 

i remain sexually active whether i am taking a daily dose of truvada (PrEP) or using the 2-1-1 method (aside from the covid-19 quarantine anomaly). i go off PrEP & switch to 2-1-1 when my work schedule is dense/hectic. my sexual behaviors adjust in response to the natural limitations of working 12-15 hr days 6 days a week. i have fewer partners, shorter experiences, don't use apps, i focus on men i know & the type of sex shifts to mostly bjs, rimming, jerk-offs, heavy petting, humping, make-outs all in quick heated bursts on a lunch break, at the gym, heading home after work, etc. there is less fucking & i stop bottoming b/c i do not have the time for preparation & penetration on the days i work. i communicate openly about 2-1-1, PrEP, my status, my intos and my time constraints.

 

below is an example of how i use 2-1-1:

if i am dating someone during a busy work phase, off PrEP & we agree to chill at my place on a friday night, i will take 2 truvada when we confirm our plans on friday afternoon & simultaneously set an alert on my phone for 24 & 48hrs dose reminders knowing it will most likely turn into a sleepover. if one of us cancels or we don't bareback i will either not take the remaining pills (no big deal) or stick to the 24 hour schedule and plan for fun on saturday/sunday. a lot can go down from a saturday afternoon until a monday morning.

 

on 2-1-1 it is recommended to take the double dose a minimum of 2 hours before sex, but ideally 24 hours before sex. after many lengthy discussions with my doctor about the reasoning & flexibly of the 2-24 hour pill-before-sex window we both feel very comfortable when i dose 6 to 18 hrs before sex. i integrated the 2-1-1 regimen years ago & it has been a very successful option for me during exceptionally busy times. it can also lead to getting back on the daily pill (PrEP) or being on truvada for 6 days or 10 days etc.

 

so i am still engaged sexually in a variety of ways without being on PrEP and the rigid time restrictions of my schedule support the break in medication without much risk. i also don't feel like i am a slave to PrEP. i have less anxiety if i am late taking a pill, miss a day or 2 days even or stop for a week and start again. i have a deeper understanding of how the medication works and works in my body. i feel more in control.

 

note: my doctor does NOT recommend barebacking on PrEP or 2-1-1. he recommends always using condoms with PrEP or 2-1-1 as the best protection against sti. my doc is gay and provides care primarily to the lgbt community.

 

(2) Did you have strong reaction to truvada when you first started on it? I have never taken any PrEP, so I'd like to know if I take it for 2-1-1, will it mess up my planned encounter.

 

nope. i did not experience any issues when i first started truvada or thereafter, however it was via a 28 day treatment of PEP prescribed under a completely different set of circumstances and with isentress. i remember feeling quite nervous about the possibility of a bad reaction to both meds, but i had little time to think before i took my first pill & larger distractions.

 

unfortunately, you won't know how or if it effects you until you try it. i have some concerns over your first dose of truvada being a double dose. will you have the benefit of bloodwork first to confirm your liver can handle 2-1-1?

 

(3) I read about people having horrible reactions to PEP. What was your experience?

 

luckily i experienced no side-effects from the 28 day combination of truvada & isentress.

 

i appreciate your openness and willingness to ask questions about sexual health; please let me know if you have anymore.

Thank you for taking the time to detail your regimen. It's very helpful for new comers and give us an idea on what options we have in moderating the regimen.

As for your concern about my liver (or kidney), I am still pretty healthy, and I think the doctors will do some basic lab work to make sure I'm Okay to take PrEP med. I definitely want to get protected before my next encounter to have peace of mind. But it'll have to be after the pandemic is under control.

Gotcha. You're going with the belt and suspenders approach. Very sensible.

Exactly.

If I may ask, are you considering using PrEP together with a condom to be extra safe since you only have sex once a year and don't want to take any risks? Or are you considering PrEP so you can have sex without a condom?

 

If it's the latter, risking contracting other STDs, such as herpes, during a once-a-year encounter (presumably with a stranger) seems like an interesting choice to me. Are you taking that risk because it gives you a better sense of intimacy?

Always safe only. Protected. Wrapped up.

Wise, wise words. Do not get your medical plans from a message board.

True. Always consult professionals before taking your med. But I still value member discussions.

The 2-1-1 method is more commonly used and accepted outside of the US. Many folks abroad say that our use of the daily pill approach is just another example of big pharma making sure that they can sell us more pills.. Not being a medical pro, I can't weigh in on the virtues of one approach verse the other. But as someone who has sex infrequently (twice or three times a month is a good month), I struggle to justify the daily pill regime and required frequent doctor visits.

2 to 3 times a month is pretty frequent. I only do it once or twice a year on average. So I have no reason to take it every day.

That’s the other side of the coin. HIV isn’t very contagious but is extremely virulent, killing virtually 100% of its host population.

And it is cunning and tricky, that's why there is no vaccine.

i didn't read the other replies; i am sorry if this was answered

it is truvada

i have taken truvada everyday & via the 2-1-1 method & PEP twice (i'll answer any questions)

i tested negative for hiv on 9/14/20

i go on and off truvada for a variety of reasons

there are a lot of politics around truvada (unfortunately/fortunately)

there is a race between the sexual health departments of the major american cities to get new hiv infections to 0% (this is absolutely possible if they can get everyone on PrEP)

there are serious concerns within the medical communities about 2-1-1 confusing patients who are taking truvada daily and it causing doing more harm than good

the inner city systems (doctors, directors, management, etc) have a huge investment of time & energy getting high risk people to take their meds at all (keep in mind they are dealing with a % of people who are having unprotected sex w/ countless people everyday, addicts, struggle with metal health issues, homeless, etc so it skews how they view everyone and treatment for everyone) - if you look at the stats PrEP is working within those communities - this matters for the health of our communities and for funding

notice the talk of a vaccine or cure is basically non existent

hospitals clinics etc told (tell) patients PrEP has no serious side effects this is very controversial and all i will say is check in with the major universities like UCLA and read the reports/clinical studies

i realize some of this is a tangential (sorry), but it is important stuff that is not discussed enough

(1) So my guess is that when you are certain you won't be sexually active for a while, you will pause on the daily regimen, and switch to the 2-1-1 method?

(2) Did you have strong reaction to truvada when you first started on it? I have never taken any PrEP, so I'd like to know if I take it for 2-1-1, will it mess up my planned encounter.

(3) I read about people having horrible reactions to PEP. What was your experience?

As long as you're comfortable doing that and he's receptive, that's awesome ?

 

So many docs don't keep up with where meds have gone (and are going). They're stuck in the 'take two amoxil a day and call the nurse on duty if it gets worse' ideology. That's why- for me- finding not only a gp, but also an infectious disease specialist has been the silver bullet.

 

Now I feel medically well-cared for and as an escort, that's perhaps the most important tool in our arsenal.

Thank you for being a responsible provider for yourself, your parents as well as your beloved clients.

They are different.

 

The biggest thing being that they metabolize in completely different ways.

Is it the case that Descovy has less side effect and equally effective on a 2-1-1 regimen?

I was trying to get started at Nurx website. But my payment failed. So I called them. The customer service told me that to get their assistance program, I need to meet the following requirements:

1. No insurance or under-insured and
   
2. An annual income of less than 60000.
   

Therefore, it looks like I won't be able to get it from them. I'll have to wait until the pandemic is under control to visit a local clinic and use my insurance. This pandemic is really killing everything. Not sure when it's gonna end.

If the price comes down to a couple hundred a month I would take PreP but as it is I simply don't fuck often enough to justify >$10,000 a year in healthcare expenditure.

otoh 2-1-1 seems like cutting it a little close to me.

Nurx's website says that 99% of their patients pay 0 dollars with or without insurance. I'm trying to get mine from them.

I just received a letter from Gilead stating they are discontinuing the Truvada co-pay assistance (in California at least) bcs there is a generic replacement. I have paid zero for my Truvada for a few years now with insurance and Gilead co-pay. Apparently there is a co-pay program for Descovy.

 

I’ve not seen much info on the generic Truvada? My doctor is a bit clueless about my lifestyle, but I like him and it’s fun educating him on these drugs, lol.

I would love to get Descovy because from what I read it has less side effect than Truvada. But I was told that they are almost identical.

COVID is much more contagious than HIV.

That's true, but people tend to recover from COVID and won't need lifelong maintenance in general. So, still want to be very cautious about HIV.