There's a new service out called 'kinkbnb' that's just like airbnb but for kinksters. I found a couple places out here in LA I did not realize existed. Give it a try for your area!
#1 reminds me of a particular S&M practice that would be better discussed on the Fetish Forum. I don't participate in it myself, but from all I've heard, 'riding the pony' is interesting and intense . . .
I'm not sure I classify as fat, but (in my opinion) my stubborn and persistent large gut is unattractive (at least it would be to me). Want to send me some of these ripped guys??