This has got to be a big deal to most posters. I'm guessing some of the guys with nearly unlimited budgets can more easily 'move along' as it were. However, for my particular situations and interests, there are three big things in play, as follows: 1. Safety; since I'm into bondage and need a safe dom; 2. Comfort, since I usually don't relax enough to ejaculate and/or become sensitive enough to enjoy myself when I'm with someone for the first time. And, 3. Budget. Mine's simply not large (or as large as it used to be).
So I do a BUNCH of research here, and I watch for escorts that are consistent. I figure my budget needs to have enough in it for a minimum of two 2-hr sessions. Obviously that doesn't work when I travel (which is fairly rare). In NYC recently I had one experience better than I could have expected, and one that was disappointing. Having said that, the duds that I've had, have been more about chemistry (I think) or guys trying the bondage thing, but not being all that interested in it. A couple times I've had a bad flake experience; but I've also had to truly cancel at nearly the last moment, so I give a lot of grace in that area.
I go back to my regulars as often as I can; but I also am very excited about trying new flavors in escorts as well. But with copious research here.