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I assume the post was meant to poke fun, too. However, Luca Guadagnino (and some of the actors) speaks to many of these issues in interviews on the internet. The word "gay" is not mentioned in the movie. Neither of the boy lovers says "I love you." No serious protagonist, either. Guadagnino says some Hollywood studio turned him down for financing because the mother needed to be more hateful and disapproving. He refused to make the movie others dictated to him. In fact, he specifically moved up the time frame of the story to early 1980's. Guadagnino wanted to capture a time just before AIDS struck, when life and minds were more free.

I assume the post was meant to poke fun, too. However, Luca Guadagnino (and some of the actors) speaks to many of these issues in interviews on the internet. The word "gay" is not mentioned in the movie. Neither of the boy lovers says "I love you." No serious protagonist, either. Guadagnino says some Hollywood studio turned him down for financing because the mother needed to be more hateful and disapproving. He refused to make the movie others dictated to him. In fact, he specifically moved up the time frame of the story to early 1980's. Guadagnino wanted to capture a time just before AIDS struck, when life and minds were more free.

Not well, according to Guadagnino. He says most sex scenes look contrived or gratuitous to him. If you can find the interview, he speaks quite frankly about this. I found his thoughts and artistic vision a true inspiration.

Not well, according to Guadagnino. He says most sex scenes look contrived or gratuitous to him. If you can find the interview, he speaks quite frankly about this. I found his thoughts and artistic vision a true inspiration.

Not well, according to Guadagnino. He says most sex scenes look contrived or gratuitous to him. If you can find the interview, he speaks quite frankly about this. I found his thoughts and artistic vision a true inspiration.

I'm surprised how bad it is. It's like these guys have no clue what to do. No chemistry. Almost makes me long for Kathy Griffin. Considering these guys are touring with some show, I'd thought they would make a better team. I know it's really cold outside, but watching them is kinda painful.

Luca Guadagnino said in a few interviews that the movie is not about gay sex. It's about love, first love, and family. He had no desire to shoot explicit sex scenes. He explains why in a number of interviews.
 
Hammer also says in an interview that he did not want his daughters being harassed in grade schools with photos of "daddy's dick," which is why he initially hesitated to take the roll. One has to assume that Guadagnino assured Hammer that his movie would be different from the book.

Luca Guadagnino said in a few interviews that the movie is not about gay sex. It's about love, first love, and family. He had no desire to shoot explicit sex scenes. He explains why in a number of interviews.
 
Hammer also says in an interview that he did not want his daughters being harassed in grade schools with photos of "daddy's dick," which is why he initially hesitated to take the roll. One has to assume that Guadagnino assured Hammer that his movie would be different from the book.

Luca Guadagnino said in a few interviews that the movie is not about gay sex. It's about love, first love, and family. He had no desire to shoot explicit sex scenes. He explains why in a number of interviews.
 
Hammer also says in an interview that he did not want his daughters being harassed in grade schools with photos of "daddy's dick," which is why he initially hesitated to take the roll. One has to assume that Guadagnino assured Hammer that his movie would be different from the book.

I'm surprised how bad it is. It's like these guys have no clue what to do. No chemistry. Almost makes me long for Kathy Griffin. Considering these guys are touring with some show, I'd thought they would make a better team. I know it's really cold outside, but watching them is kinda painful.

Much like Brokeback Mountain, I'm on my third viewing of this film. I can't seem to let it go. My heart wishes to cling to it. Thanks to all who posted the various links to fun and informative videos.

Much like Brokeback Mountain, I'm on my third viewing of this film. I can't seem to let it go. My heart wishes to cling to it. Thanks to all who posted the various links to fun and informative videos.

Did therapy for two years long ago to work through some personal pain. Best decision I ever made. Changed my life forever. Did psychiatry not psychology. I loved my therapist, an older gay man who had been in a monogamous marriage for over 50 years. He was a true inspiration. He really helped me see the light of day.

Did therapy for two years long ago to work through some personal pain. Best decision I ever made. Changed my life forever. Did psychiatry not psychology. I loved my therapist, an older gay man who had been in a monogamous marriage for over 50 years. He was a true inspiration. He really helped me see the light of day.

Did therapy for two years long ago to work through some personal pain. Best decision I ever made. Changed my life forever. Did psychiatry not psychology. I loved my therapist, an older gay man who had been in a monogamous marriage for over 50 years. He was a true inspiration. He really helped me see the light of day.

Did therapy for two years long ago to work through some personal pain. Best decision I ever made. Changed my life forever. Did psychiatry not psychology. I loved my therapist, an older gay man who had been in a monogamous marriage for over 50 years. He was a true inspiration. He really helped me see the light of day.

Well, enjoy that trip to Mars.
 
Older men's affection for the company of younger men (and vice-versa) has been going on for centuries. In some cultures, it's considered "normal." I doubt a media hyped "me-too" movement in the U.S. is going to end the allure and fascination. Many of these intense bonds are not fueled by predatory behavior. But I imagine the line can get easily crossed, depending on the motives and sexual appetites of certain individuals.

Exactly. In any he-said/she-said situation, "truth" is very difficult to ascertain.
 
At this moment, the "victims" are receiving mostly benefit of doubt. We'll see how long this lasts.

@Bearofdistiction
 
Since the site owner shut your other "vile" post down, stating a personal connection to the deceased, why on earth would you come on this thread displaying the exact same disrespect?

@Bearofdistiction
 
Since the site owner shut your other "vile" post down, stating a personal connection to the deceased, why on earth would you come on this thread displaying the exact same disrespect?

Good luck finding someone whose life hasn't been impacted by drugs in one way or another. As long as Matthew Rush isn't participating in this thread, you're left with speculation.

That is certainly unfortunate. I've endured my share of altered realities in my stupid youth, and I've lost quite a few loved ones to hard core addiction. My younger brother shot himself in the head to end his misery. In my honest, most sincere opinion, the perfect high for this gay man is a drug-free, full-on healthy, natural life. If I'm in pain, I want to feel the pain and work my way through it. This gay man can't be around drugs users and addicts anymore. If for any reason you have a desire to be in an altered state, we can't be friends.

Yikes! You really know you found someone who is just doing whatever for the money if he shows up with crusted fecal matter in the crack of his ass. I'm not sure where some of you guys are finding these so-called massage therapists, but that's not what I would call them.

Unfortunately, that kind of respect is getting more and more difficult of find.

When I was in my later teens, performing in community theater, it was pretty common for older gay men to "grab crotch," and prey on the younger boys. I was warned to watch out for certain men at cast parties, especially the parties that served liquor. The "grab crotch" guys did it as if they had some sacred right to do it. Add alcohol and cigarette breath to their assault, and perhaps you can imagine the dread I felt.
 
As a teen, I never liked having my package grabbed unprovoked. It wasn't sexy, because it was irritating. Even as an adult, I prefer a more gentle hand. I was not into guys older than I was. It took many years of maturing before I could figure all this out and decide how I wanted to behave and how I wanted to be treated.
 
I could see the "grab crotch" men of those days hating what's going on now. It puts them in their place and warns them. Lay off, and keep your fucking hands and tongues to yourself.