Your posting instantly reminded me of a heated exchange I once had with a drinking buddy. I told him that because I regard a man as "hot" does not mean that I desire him. My "buddy" told me that it is not possible to think a man is hot without wanting to get into his pants. It was downhill from there. I, too, am most attracted to Asians, and when I was seen noticing a non-Asian, I would get hit with "why are you looking at him, he's not Asian." Then I would have to school the person that for me Asian is a preference, not a requirement. Boy, how I miss "The Web" Asian bar that was on East 58th Street in New York City.