MrMiniver

I've got a ton of really bad stories but one involved a male model who I flew out from LA. He really thought A LOT about himself. Spent 4 days with me, wouldn't kiss, would barely touch. I realized it was a bust and he wasn't my type. In the car ON THE WAY TO THE AIRPORT he said "you know what? I actually thought about kissing you in the hot tub last night." I did everything I could to not laugh out loud. But ... it gets better. He said he thought we "were very compatible and he wanted an arrangement." Yes he was that clueless. I played along -- knowing I would never see him again -- and asked him what he wanted. He said $90,000 to get his MBA and that he would be "mine, exclusively for 18 months."
I said sure ... and dropped him off. I immediately erased and blocked him from my phone and email.

As the person who started this thread more than a year ago, I decided to take a look at what's been posted. Tons. And lots of it good. As for me? Well, one of the reasons I've not been on here for a long time is that I met someone from Seeking Arrangements. And we've been in a "relationship" since late summer of 2016. I had quite a few good experiences and quite a few bad ones (including some really clueless guys). Then in last summer of last year, I came upon a 25 year old guy on the site. He's 4.5 hours from Manhattan. He's 25, putting himself through college at a very good school, teaches gymnastics, and has his own training business/gym. He's very self-sufficient, has been on his own since he was 19. Comes from a solid middle class family who live upstate. He called himself an "alpha with a heart." Loves older men, can't relate to young people his age. And he does physique competitions. We texted for a couple days, I thought it had promise so we agreed to meet halfway at a hotel. Because of his limited schedule he said he'd have to leave in the middle of the night to get back for a client appointment at 6 am ....
 
So we met. It was non-stop talking for 3 hours as we instantly got along. He was very masculine, very alpha. At one point, he said "get over here" and he got on top of me and we stated making out and fooling around. We went to dinner and then settled in to watch a movie in bed. He was obviously very tired (he seems to be going 24/7) and at one point he fell asleep. I let him sleep. I thought it was clear that we had made a connection and that I would be interested in an arrangement with this guy. I was sound asleep and then around 3:30 I felt movement. I figured he got up to leave. I was half asleep when -- not saying a word -- as he was leaving he leaned over me and kissed me on the forehead. I thought this is a keeper.
 
We spent several weeks back and forth texting -- he unsure if he had the time to do this but wanting to -- but I felt there was something good here. So we eventually settled on a week to go to my lake house. We discussed money and we were all set. By the end of the first day, it was clear something was going on. I wanted to say something, he sensed it and said go ahead. I told him it was crazy but I really liked him and it would be a real fantasy to date. He said "why do you think it's a fantasy ...."
 
It's 7 months later, and we're still together. We realized that week we had a real connection and decided we should be together. No money has ever exchanged hands. I've tried helping him out from time to time but I usually have to be some money in his jacket pocket or something. He really doesn't want it but I know he could use it. He's very drived, goal oriented, ambitious ... we haven't had a cross word or argument. Our only real conflict is that because he's so busy we don't get to see each other as much as we'd like.
 
I wake up each day thinking this is too good to be true but then I get a text in the morning saying "good morning sweetie, have a great day, love you ..." and I realize that it is really happening. He's basically a younger, way hotter, more masculine version of me ....
 
So I'd have to call Seeking Arrangements a success for me. I didn't find what I was seeking there (something uncomplicated) but I think I've found something much better. I have no idea how long this will last but I'm very happy for right now.

As the person who started this thread more than a year ago, I decided to take a look at what's been posted. Tons. And lots of it good. As for me? Well, one of the reasons I've not been on here for a long time is that I met someone from Seeking Arrangements. And we've been in a "relationship" since late summer of 2016. I had quite a few good experiences and quite a few bad ones (including some really clueless guys). Then in last summer of last year, I came upon a 25 year old guy on the site. He's 4.5 hours from Manhattan. He's 25, putting himself through college at a very good school, teaches gymnastics, and has his own training business/gym. He's very self-sufficient, has been on his own since he was 19. Comes from a solid middle class family who live upstate. He called himself an "alpha with a heart." Loves older men, can't relate to young people his age. And he does physique competitions. We texted for a couple days, I thought it had promise so we agreed to meet halfway at a hotel. Because of his limited schedule he said he'd have to leave in the middle of the night to get back for a client appointment at 6 am ....
 
So we met. It was non-stop talking for 3 hours as we instantly got along. He was very masculine, very alpha. At one point, he said "get over here" and he got on top of me and we stated making out and fooling around. We went to dinner and then settled in to watch a movie in bed. He was obviously very tired (he seems to be going 24/7) and at one point he fell asleep. I let him sleep. I thought it was clear that we had made a connection and that I would be interested in an arrangement with this guy. I was sound asleep and then around 3:30 I felt movement. I figured he got up to leave. I was half asleep when -- not saying a word -- as he was leaving he leaned over me and kissed me on the forehead. I thought this is a keeper.
 
We spent several weeks back and forth texting -- he unsure if he had the time to do this but wanting to -- but I felt there was something good here. So we eventually settled on a week to go to my lake house. We discussed money and we were all set. By the end of the first day, it was clear something was going on. I wanted to say something, he sensed it and said go ahead. I told him it was crazy but I really liked him and it would be a real fantasy to date. He said "why do you think it's a fantasy ...."
 
It's 7 months later, and we're still together. We realized that week we had a real connection and decided we should be together. No money has ever exchanged hands. I've tried helping him out from time to time but I usually have to be some money in his jacket pocket or something. He really doesn't want it but I know he could use it. He's very drived, goal oriented, ambitious ... we haven't had a cross word or argument. Our only real conflict is that because he's so busy we don't get to see each other as much as we'd like.
 
I wake up each day thinking this is too good to be true but then I get a text in the morning saying "good morning sweetie, have a great day, love you ..." and I realize that it is really happening. He's basically a younger, way hotter, more masculine version of me ....
 
So I'd have to call Seeking Arrangements a success for me. I didn't find what I was seeking there (something uncomplicated) but I think I've found something much better. I have no idea how long this will last but I'm very happy for right now.

I've got a ton of really bad stories but one involved a male model who I flew out from LA. He really thought A LOT about himself. Spent 4 days with me, wouldn't kiss, would barely touch. I realized it was a bust and he wasn't my type. In the car ON THE WAY TO THE AIRPORT he said "you know what? I actually thought about kissing you in the hot tub last night." I did everything I could to not laugh out loud. But ... it gets better. He said he thought we "were very compatible and he wanted an arrangement." Yes he was that clueless. I played along -- knowing I would never see him again -- and asked him what he wanted. He said $90,000 to get his MBA and that he would be "mine, exclusively for 18 months."
I said sure ... and dropped him off. I immediately erased and blocked him from my phone and email.

I've got a ton of really bad stories but one involved a male model who I flew out from LA. He really thought A LOT about himself. Spent 4 days with me, wouldn't kiss, would barely touch. I realized it was a bust and he wasn't my type. In the car ON THE WAY TO THE AIRPORT he said "you know what? I actually thought about kissing you in the hot tub last night." I did everything I could to not laugh out loud. But ... it gets better. He said he thought we "were very compatible and he wanted an arrangement." Yes he was that clueless. I played along -- knowing I would never see him again -- and asked him what he wanted. He said $90,000 to get his MBA and that he would be "mine, exclusively for 18 months."
I said sure ... and dropped him off. I immediately erased and blocked him from my phone and email.

As the person who started this thread more than a year ago, I decided to take a look at what's been posted. Tons. And lots of it good. As for me? Well, one of the reasons I've not been on here for a long time is that I met someone from Seeking Arrangements. And we've been in a "relationship" since late summer of 2016. I had quite a few good experiences and quite a few bad ones (including some really clueless guys). Then in last summer of last year, I came upon a 25 year old guy on the site. He's 4.5 hours from Manhattan. He's 25, putting himself through college at a very good school, teaches gymnastics, and has his own training business/gym. He's very self-sufficient, has been on his own since he was 19. Comes from a solid middle class family who live upstate. He called himself an "alpha with a heart." Loves older men, can't relate to young people his age. And he does physique competitions. We texted for a couple days, I thought it had promise so we agreed to meet halfway at a hotel. Because of his limited schedule he said he'd have to leave in the middle of the night to get back for a client appointment at 6 am ....
 
So we met. It was non-stop talking for 3 hours as we instantly got along. He was very masculine, very alpha. At one point, he said "get over here" and he got on top of me and we stated making out and fooling around. We went to dinner and then settled in to watch a movie in bed. He was obviously very tired (he seems to be going 24/7) and at one point he fell asleep. I let him sleep. I thought it was clear that we had made a connection and that I would be interested in an arrangement with this guy. I was sound asleep and then around 3:30 I felt movement. I figured he got up to leave. I was half asleep when -- not saying a word -- as he was leaving he leaned over me and kissed me on the forehead. I thought this is a keeper.
 
We spent several weeks back and forth texting -- he unsure if he had the time to do this but wanting to -- but I felt there was something good here. So we eventually settled on a week to go to my lake house. We discussed money and we were all set. By the end of the first day, it was clear something was going on. I wanted to say something, he sensed it and said go ahead. I told him it was crazy but I really liked him and it would be a real fantasy to date. He said "why do you think it's a fantasy ...."
 
It's 7 months later, and we're still together. We realized that week we had a real connection and decided we should be together. No money has ever exchanged hands. I've tried helping him out from time to time but I usually have to be some money in his jacket pocket or something. He really doesn't want it but I know he could use it. He's very drived, goal oriented, ambitious ... we haven't had a cross word or argument. Our only real conflict is that because he's so busy we don't get to see each other as much as we'd like.
 
I wake up each day thinking this is too good to be true but then I get a text in the morning saying "good morning sweetie, have a great day, love you ..." and I realize that it is really happening. He's basically a younger, way hotter, more masculine version of me ....
 
So I'd have to call Seeking Arrangements a success for me. I didn't find what I was seeking there (something uncomplicated) but I think I've found something much better. I have no idea how long this will last but I'm very happy for right now.

As the person who started this thread more than a year ago, I decided to take a look at what's been posted. Tons. And lots of it good. As for me? Well, one of the reasons I've not been on here for a long time is that I met someone from Seeking Arrangements. And we've been in a "relationship" since late summer of 2016. I had quite a few good experiences and quite a few bad ones (including some really clueless guys). Then in last summer of last year, I came upon a 25 year old guy on the site. He's 4.5 hours from Manhattan. He's 25, putting himself through college at a very good school, teaches gymnastics, and has his own training business/gym. He's very self-sufficient, has been on his own since he was 19. Comes from a solid middle class family who live upstate. He called himself an "alpha with a heart." Loves older men, can't relate to young people his age. And he does physique competitions. We texted for a couple days, I thought it had promise so we agreed to meet halfway at a hotel. Because of his limited schedule he said he'd have to leave in the middle of the night to get back for a client appointment at 6 am ....
 
So we met. It was non-stop talking for 3 hours as we instantly got along. He was very masculine, very alpha. At one point, he said "get over here" and he got on top of me and we stated making out and fooling around. We went to dinner and then settled in to watch a movie in bed. He was obviously very tired (he seems to be going 24/7) and at one point he fell asleep. I let him sleep. I thought it was clear that we had made a connection and that I would be interested in an arrangement with this guy. I was sound asleep and then around 3:30 I felt movement. I figured he got up to leave. I was half asleep when -- not saying a word -- as he was leaving he leaned over me and kissed me on the forehead. I thought this is a keeper.
 
We spent several weeks back and forth texting -- he unsure if he had the time to do this but wanting to -- but I felt there was something good here. So we eventually settled on a week to go to my lake house. We discussed money and we were all set. By the end of the first day, it was clear something was going on. I wanted to say something, he sensed it and said go ahead. I told him it was crazy but I really liked him and it would be a real fantasy to date. He said "why do you think it's a fantasy ...."
 
It's 7 months later, and we're still together. We realized that week we had a real connection and decided we should be together. No money has ever exchanged hands. I've tried helping him out from time to time but I usually have to be some money in his jacket pocket or something. He really doesn't want it but I know he could use it. He's very drived, goal oriented, ambitious ... we haven't had a cross word or argument. Our only real conflict is that because he's so busy we don't get to see each other as much as we'd like.
 
I wake up each day thinking this is too good to be true but then I get a text in the morning saying "good morning sweetie, have a great day, love you ..." and I realize that it is really happening. He's basically a younger, way hotter, more masculine version of me ....
 
So I'd have to call Seeking Arrangements a success for me. I didn't find what I was seeking there (something uncomplicated) but I think I've found something much better. I have no idea how long this will last but I'm very happy for right now.

As the person who started this thread more than a year ago, I decided to take a look at what's been posted. Tons. And lots of it good. As for me? Well, one of the reasons I've not been on here for a long time is that I met someone from Seeking Arrangements. And we've been in a "relationship" since late summer of 2016. I had quite a few good experiences and quite a few bad ones (including some really clueless guys). Then in last summer of last year, I came upon a 25 year old guy on the site. He's 4.5 hours from Manhattan. He's 25, putting himself through college at a very good school, teaches gymnastics, and has his own training business/gym. He's very self-sufficient, has been on his own since he was 19. Comes from a solid middle class family who live upstate. He called himself an "alpha with a heart." Loves older men, can't relate to young people his age. And he does physique competitions. We texted for a couple days, I thought it had promise so we agreed to meet halfway at a hotel. Because of his limited schedule he said he'd have to leave in the middle of the night to get back for a client appointment at 6 am ....
 
So we met. It was non-stop talking for 3 hours as we instantly got along. He was very masculine, very alpha. At one point, he said "get over here" and he got on top of me and we stated making out and fooling around. We went to dinner and then settled in to watch a movie in bed. He was obviously very tired (he seems to be going 24/7) and at one point he fell asleep. I let him sleep. I thought it was clear that we had made a connection and that I would be interested in an arrangement with this guy. I was sound asleep and then around 3:30 I felt movement. I figured he got up to leave. I was half asleep when -- not saying a word -- as he was leaving he leaned over me and kissed me on the forehead. I thought this is a keeper.
 
We spent several weeks back and forth texting -- he unsure if he had the time to do this but wanting to -- but I felt there was something good here. So we eventually settled on a week to go to my lake house. We discussed money and we were all set. By the end of the first day, it was clear something was going on. I wanted to say something, he sensed it and said go ahead. I told him it was crazy but I really liked him and it would be a real fantasy to date. He said "why do you think it's a fantasy ...."
 
It's 7 months later, and we're still together. We realized that week we had a real connection and decided we should be together. No money has ever exchanged hands. I've tried helping him out from time to time but I usually have to be some money in his jacket pocket or something. He really doesn't want it but I know he could use it. He's very drived, goal oriented, ambitious ... we haven't had a cross word or argument. Our only real conflict is that because he's so busy we don't get to see each other as much as we'd like.
 
I wake up each day thinking this is too good to be true but then I get a text in the morning saying "good morning sweetie, have a great day, love you ..." and I realize that it is really happening. He's basically a younger, way hotter, more masculine version of me ....
 
So I'd have to call Seeking Arrangements a success for me. I didn't find what I was seeking there (something uncomplicated) but I think I've found something much better. I have no idea how long this will last but I'm very happy for right now.

From which side?
 
I joined, filled out my profile, paid my $70 and then started searching for "sugar babies" -- an awful term -- and started getting messages myself. There are a few problems with the site in particular body type. The choices are basically average, a few extra pounds, slim, overweight and athletic. So almost all the guys choose "athletic" which can range the gamut.
 
I asked for more pics, went to email and see how it went. I had a couple of false starts -- guys who seemed interested but then backed out at the last minute. But I do feel it was worth it for where I ended up.
 
There are some sugar babies who have been on there 5 or 6 years. There are some escorts as well although that seems to be discouraged.
 
Happy to answer any other questions.

I have to stop looking at him or I might not be able to look at another guy ever

While I don't care, that is an extra little bonus. I watched some of his youtube videos and he comes across as rather shy and sweet. And he's smart, too!
Sigh. Unrequited love/lust really sucks

Well, I thought the whole thing sounded kinda lame but I had a little time on my hands so I created a profile. I can't say I found much in the first few days: twinks, fakes, flakes, the usual assortment of game players. Then I met a guy who is an aspiring fitness model based in Toronto. I took a leap of faith and flew him to New York. Well, we just spent the better part of the past 10 days at my place in CT. It was amazing. He's 23, ripped, beautiful, and for this initially visit all he wanted was his airfare and other expenses covered.
 
So, perhaps, it's not a bad site after all. It was worth the $70 initial fee.

Once again you're generalizing. Looking for love? Not in a million years. I think specific financials should be spoken of in person. I would never make an agreement online or on facetime or skype. Too many variables. But the expectation on both sides should be understood before meeting.

What exactly would you think I'm up to? The idea of compensation never came up. He never raised. Was I supposed to?

Well, I thought the whole thing sounded kinda lame but I had a little time on my hands so I created a profile. I can't say I found much in the first few days: twinks, fakes, flakes, the usual assortment of game players. Then I met a guy who is an aspiring fitness model based in Toronto. I took a leap of faith and flew him to New York. Well, we just spent the better part of the past 10 days at my place in CT. It was amazing. He's 23, ripped, beautiful, and for this initially visit all he wanted was his airfare and other expenses covered.
 
So, perhaps, it's not a bad site after all. It was worth the $70 initial fee.

That's just not fair. No mere mortal should be allowed to look that perfect. He really unbelievably stunning. And I agree, he's even hotter in his selfies.

I never give out any real personal information until I've established some sort of ongoing thing with that person. I wasn't born yesterday.

So glad to see her out and about. She's a national treasure. I adore her.

I think the very nature of a "daddy" relationship is that the daddy is going to be "more into you" than "you into him." If you're looking for someone you're "into" it sound like you need a boyfriend, not a daddy. To an extent, just like an escort, you're supposed to be playing a part and providing a service in exchange for "help" of some kind. If you're going to get hung up on whether you're "into" the guy or not, then it's clearly not for you.

Seeking arrangments is not a catch all for one type of situation contrary to what this poster thinks. Many of the guys on that site are escorts looking for sex, some are looking for monthly things, some are looking for little support, some are looking for a lot of support. It is what you and the other party make it and not some preconceived thing that is ordained by the urban dictionary.

It was 9 days on and off and I gave him time on his own whenever he wanted it. Some of the guys on the site are background checked. As for him, he gave me his real name and I checked his social media profile and stuff like that. We skyped several times before meeting and I was very comfortable.
 
I realize I probably lucked into a very good -- and perhaps unique -- experience. I wouldn't want anyone to get the impression that it is like that on that site all the time. I had to wade through a bunch of cancelations, the guy who insisted on me having every conceivable thing to suit his insane vegan diet, and the plethora of twinks. But I did strike gold eventually.
 
But it is just one man's experience. I'm sure others have bad ones to go with the good one.

From which side?
 
I joined, filled out my profile, paid my $70 and then started searching for "sugar babies" -- an awful term -- and started getting messages myself. There are a few problems with the site in particular body type. The choices are basically average, a few extra pounds, slim, overweight and athletic. So almost all the guys choose "athletic" which can range the gamut.
 
I asked for more pics, went to email and see how it went. I had a couple of false starts -- guys who seemed interested but then backed out at the last minute. But I do feel it was worth it for where I ended up.
 
There are some sugar babies who have been on there 5 or 6 years. There are some escorts as well although that seems to be discouraged.
 
Happy to answer any other questions.

If that's success, count me OUT.

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Because, as a critic once said, if you are going to put yourself on stage and do all sorts of things to your face (when part of what you are selling is your appearance) then you have to expect to be reviewed for your appearance. Especially when you look so freakin' BIZARRE!

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Because, as a critic once said, if you are going to put yourself on stage and do all sorts of things to your face (when part of what you are selling is your appearance) then you have to expect to be reviewed for your appearance. Especially when you look so freakin' BIZARRE!