BoyOnABoat

I’ve aged out of twinkhood, but I still often encounter older men who are self-conscious about their age or the gap between us. Recently, a guy paused during sex to ask, “I don’t look too old, do I?” I told him no, but given the context and timing I didn't stop to reassure him further or dig into it.

As a provider and in my private life, I always struggle to express this plainly: yes I am genuinely attracted to older men -- and no I am not just saying that for money. 

I’ve aged out of twinkhood, but I still often encounter older men who are self-conscious about their age or the gap between us. Recently, a guy paused during sex to ask, “I don’t look too old, do I?” I told him no, but given the context and timing I didn't stop to reassure him further or dig into it.

As a provider and in my private life, I always struggle to express this plainly: yes I am genuinely attracted to older men -- and no I am not just saying that for money. 

Indeed. One can always tell if you're with a guy who's enjoying himself. But different ways for guys to "enjoy themselves:" Some are turned on just by the intensity of the client really being turned on by the escort. Others are turned on by the money. Some like the social interaction, others are caring and compassionate people and really enjoy helping, providing a service. Some are just horn dogs and would screw a tomato. 
Whatever the reason, I for one am thankful that there are younger guys available to be with older guys like me. What a joy it is to lay down with a beautiful younger man!

More often than not, it is disingenuous lies or half-applied truths. as is much of this "kind" bs in "open" spaces. I guess it's a sin not to expect people to be shifty and not pose for social kudos. 

I’ve aged out of twinkhood, but I still often encounter older men who are self-conscious about their age or the gap between us. Recently, a guy paused during sex to ask, “I don’t look too old, do I?” I told him no, but given the context and timing I didn't stop to reassure him further or dig into it.

As a provider and in my private life, I always struggle to express this plainly: yes I am genuinely attracted to older men -- and no I am not just saying that for money. 

I’ve aged out of twinkhood, but I still often encounter older men who are self-conscious about their age or the gap between us. Recently, a guy paused during sex to ask, “I don’t look too old, do I?” I told him no, but given the context and timing I didn't stop to reassure him further or dig into it.

As a provider and in my private life, I always struggle to express this plainly: yes I am genuinely attracted to older men -- and no I am not just saying that for money. 

I’ve aged out of twinkhood, but I still often encounter older men who are self-conscious about their age or the gap between us. Recently, a guy paused during sex to ask, “I don’t look too old, do I?” I told him no, but given the context and timing I didn't stop to reassure him further or dig into it.

As a provider and in my private life, I always struggle to express this plainly: yes I am genuinely attracted to older men -- and no I am not just saying that for money. 

It makes me wonder like, who all is really booking? RentMen has been quieter than ever. I keep the ad up for my reviews and advertising travels: but a recent browse thru my nearest major city area, there’s 50 guys advertising (17x 3 rows on Rent.Men) with the World Cup matches in town. And this is a place that has historically never really been that consistent in terms of bookings. A few years ago, that number was probably only around 10 or less on most days. So how is 500% more escorts doing any favors? It’s a fucking joke 🃏 
 
Across the board: I feel most men browsing for sex aren’t actively seeking the paid sites as much. And in case someone thinks “the more escorts the better for the clients”, well there’s a caveat to that. If there’s dozens of options, would it make it harder to find the right one? If a client can’t keep up with all the options and just wants to contact a bunch and play on the phone, that can easily earn a bad rep down the line. And on a site with multiple options but no rates, how many times are clients having to text around and ask for prices?
And without leaving the topic of prices: I understand some have their budget, but I’m having to turn down some bookings simply because they want something that is only going to break me even or less. Like I stated above, doubling up on clients when it’s already fewer to go around is more speculation than reality. So setting up an in-call session in a city an hour away from me or where hotels are running $100/$200 a night: $200-300 isn’t always going to cover the bases. 
 
And in case there’s any doubt: I’ve done the lower rates, made exceptions, etc: it doesn’t always mean more visits or more regulars. 
Also I want the idea that every advertiser is seeing multiple clients in a day to be understood. That is mostly the reality for masseur guys who tend to welcome higher volume but also have prices that may reel more people in. I personally don’t have the desire to see 4-5-6 dudes in one day, or cum so much that it hurts. Nor do I want to “withhold” cumming every time, because I have more clients to see that day.
I’m been working towards a lower volume, more streamlined experience.

He is a real unicorn. …as advertised 

I’m older than @PhileasFogg and I regularly see two twinks, 25 and 23. They think I’m in my early 50s lol. Any sense of age difference is utterly absent.

I took three to St John a couple weeks ago.  Their combined age was 5 yrs more than my 63 yrs
I’m with youngest one of those guys right now in Santa Monica and I’m more that 3x his age.
Age is a number.  So many other factors weigh into the chemistry and vibe.   I am healthy, in good shape, energetic…and I treat them as partners in our travels and not chattel 

In Seattle, hotel prices are through the roof and Pride is the weekend after next. There are a few hotties visiting, but not sure how they’re paying for the hotels. For example, the Marriott Courtyard neat Seattle Center is $490/night!

The napkin math of "just get 2-3 clients a day and charge them all $300 /hour" does not match the reality of getting a consistent stream of clientele. 

The napkin math of "just get 2-3 clients a day and charge them all $300 /hour" does not match the reality of getting a consistent stream of clientele. 

The napkin math of "just get 2-3 clients a day and charge them all $300 /hour" does not match the reality of getting a consistent stream of clientele. 

I've always wanted a gum-job. I have only heard great things about how it feels.

Also in my experience every man's body is a little bit unique. I have met a lot of older men who are up front apologetic about how their body currently works due to some surgery/injury/whatever that has happened in the past.

This stuff never really bothers me and I am well-aware that in time my body will change and get quirks as I get older, too. I think anyone who would give you a hard time is a little insecure or has not yet had any sort of injury that can check their ego. 

One twinkish guy in New Orleans had a breakdown at my house admitting to a gambling addiction then asked me for help.  Not a drama I sought participation in.  After I found him a GA meeting the next day, he started sharing his location with me asking for accountability…but when I confronted him as he’d be at casinos, he’d make up lie after lie.   So I asked him to stop sharing his location which he refused to do…even likely knowing it revealed much more about his other vices and addictions as well.  He’s subsequently fallen to newer lows and has continued to spiral.  But fortunately, we’ve gone a year without him bothering me. 

I thought BB was default until a recent trip to Europe. I was in Spain and fucking raw still seemed to be not quite the standard with a lot of guys. I learned from someone that it was a little bit harder to get access to PrEP/Doxy there so a lot of guys still played with condoms. 

I never used them in any of my encounters there, but I think the BB == default is operating under the assumption that men have easy access to preventative care. 

I thought BB was default until a recent trip to Europe. I was in Spain and fucking raw still seemed to be not quite the standard with a lot of guys. I learned from someone that it was a little bit harder to get access to PrEP/Doxy there so a lot of guys still played with condoms. 

I never used them in any of my encounters there, but I think the BB == default is operating under the assumption that men have easy access to preventative care. 

I thought BB was default until a recent trip to Europe. I was in Spain and fucking raw still seemed to be not quite the standard with a lot of guys. I learned from someone that it was a little bit harder to get access to PrEP/Doxy there so a lot of guys still played with condoms. 

I never used them in any of my encounters there, but I think the BB == default is operating under the assumption that men have easy access to preventative care. 

In my opinion 100% true.

Todays bareback porn is like fentanyl. Speaking from personal experience, it has messed up my brain so much, that if a scene has two very hot guys in it and they use condoms, I immediately stop. I use to watch both vintage porn and contemporary porn videos with condom usage without issue. But somewhere between Treasure Island Media was coming into the mainstream and Sean Cody switching to bareback thanks to Truvada, my mind switch. I remember a scene with Jarek and Raymond from SC, the part near the end when Jarek came all over Raymond's greasy butthole and just the look of his thick ropey cum then the piece de resistance when he shoved his beautiful thick long tool back into Raymonds hole...it made me cum so hard and so much, my entire room smelled like starch for days. Something just switched in my brain that day. 
A year after that video, I had my first bareback encounter as a bottom; this was with a 8.5 inch thick tool. Tore me up so bad, I bled and had to go on emergency PEP. Thankfully didn't contract anything. But I have always had a love/hate relationship with condoms. Guys have considered me to be on the bigger side and I never really had a good fit or experience with condoms. They either slip off or kill my erection. But if a partner or provider insist on it, I wear it. I will say this though, bareback orgasm is on another level. You can have an intense orgasm with a condom, but based on my experience, it feels controlled and neutered to some extent. 
One of my most memorable BB experiences happened a couple times last year in the fall and its just so unforgettable. It creates an unbelieveable connection with your partner you never forget. 

Hey, just weighing in here (as that's my profile)! I've just had my first experiences with guys from RM and they've been really fun. I'm eager to meet with men in the CoM community too. So anyone please feel free to hit me up!

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I had correspondence with a man out of state who made a request along these lines.
He acknowledged upfront that it might come across as rude, and then explained that he had been attacked by a group of Latino men decades ago. He said my appearance reminded him of them, described my look as “scruffy,” and said it was the least sexy a man could be. He then asked that, if I visited, I change how I dress and groom to better suit his comfort.
Setting aside that I’m not even Latino, I found the framing uncomfortable. There’s a difference between a light, reversible request, like specific clothing or grooming for a scene, and asking someone to alter their overall appearance based on a personal association like that.
For me, presentation is intentional and part of how I express myself. I think it’s important that both provider and client can show up feeling genuinely comfortable and attracted to each other as they are. If the baseline attraction isn’t there, it makes more sense to find a better match than to try to reshape someone to fit a preference.