Njguy2

Seriously, this is getting out of hand. People literally create profiles just to leave a “review”. Ridiculous. 

This is how I know a provider cares about my satisfaction. I’ve said those 4 words to some providers who were in a hurry to finish the session and I could not get their hands and mouth off my dick.  But the good ones?  They’d slow down and change things up with just the slightest nudge or cue from me.

This can sometimes be an issue with me depending on the provider, mood, or how recently I came. When this happens, I have no problem saying that we need to take a break, and even breaking contact (pulling out or guiding them off or away). Never been a problem, and providers have been more than happy to make sure I'm getting the desired experience.
So, I would provide some direction along with those four words, eg. "I come very easily, so we may need to slow down or back off at times."
 

If I see you for extended visits- weekends or longer- for years, then you're a regular.
It's not just about the time or money spent, for me it's do we know each other?

A regular client eats lots of fiber

Times per month?
I hired someone regularly (usually once per month) for a period of years and I certainly considered myself "a regular."  I also considered myself a regular of a guy whom I only saw a few times per year when he was in my area.

'Hey escorts, what makes you work for free'
I'm sure the replies will be incredibly meaningful, insightful and inspirational.

This! YEARS ago one of my oldest friends shared that too with me. I was dubious - not really believing the old wives tales about big feet, big nose, hat size, etc. - I mean you are going to run into well hung men that have those attributes, but it’s no guarantee. But she swore by the nail beds.
 
I started to take notice after being with one blessed man, and looking at his nail beds muttered “damn her!” lol  After him, I kept track for a bit, and she was right.
BBD 

This may seem weird, but I’ve seen to notice penis size correlates with finger nail length.  I don’t mean how far they grow out, but actually the bed of the nail.  The longer the nail bed, the bigger the peepee.

In most walks of life, if the other person doesn't bring it up, you shouldn't either.

I’ve had this happen. I think I’ve written about it previously but I’ll mention it again here because it’s relevant.
I did an outcall one time to a client and his young daughter was with him when he answered the door. In fact we used the room she had been playing in for the massage. The client had intended we use a garage (integral to the house, a townhouse over 3 stories) but it wasn’t suitable so he moved the session to the ground floor play / tv room. As I was setting up the table he asked her to “go upstairs to mummy while daddy has his massage”….
Once she was gone I checked with him that he understood the nature of the service, as in we’d both be naked and it would include sexual activity and he confirmed all ok. He’d clearly seen my advertising etc so couldn’t have been in doubt but given his wife and daughter were upstairs and knew he was having a massage I did wonder…
What’s worse is he didn’t even lock the door and during the session I could hear them upstairs. I asked him if this was ok and he was adamant we’d not be disturbed.
I didn’t meet the wife, or daughter again fortunately as I think it would be even worse to see them afterwards. The client behaved like it was all routine…maybe it was a turn on for him because it certainly didn’t seem to inhibit him…he was hard as soon as he got naked. 
I really don’t mind if there’s others in an adjacent room. I’m also fine if they know what’s going on. I’ve done live shows and workshops including having full sex and things like being a demo model for the use of sex toys so it’s not a problem to me. I also have clients who are married and they both have massages from me while the other one watches.
However in every situation it’s been agreed beforehand. It’s just polite and respectful to ask, and of course some situations such as the one above where I knew his daughter was upstairs are very disconcerting. He should have told me that might be the case when booking. 
I think that for most people they want discretion and privacy in such situations. If you as a client have any circumstances where your place isn’t going to be private then it’s best to let your provider know then he can decide. The default expectation both ways is of privacy. 


 

Yes you should have told him your roommate was there. Reverse the situation. Would you be comfortable if you were going to his place and unexpectedly found his roommate there?

If I went to someone’s home, expecting to be alone with the person and see that other people are in the house without being told, I too would leave. It would not feel safe. It’s weird that you wouldn’t tell the therapist that you had a roommate or think that you should’ve. Would you have appreciated walking in to the masseur’s studio and encountering a roommate or spouse he failed to mention? 

In my opinion, the issue with deposits is that they only benefit the provider, offering no protection to the client. Deposits place all the risk on the client, creating an undesirable unilateral condition.

You might try exchanging phone numbers, or give him yours. Unless he is being monitored by a pimp or trafficking org, you could work something out by text on Google translate.
I don’t know who is being trafficked and who isn’t, but I think it’s reasonable to assume this guy is either best case underpaid or worst case trafficked, especially in light of the costs of living in NYC. If you keep seeing him at the spa, consider tipping him generously in the room so the tip doesn’t make its way to a potential trafficker’s pocket, and leave another small tip at the front so they are not suspecting funny business. Say you spend $150 total. That’s low for 90 mins in NYC with extras you like. You’re still getting a deal.  You could spend $200 and not be crazy for doing so. More than that will get you into private erotic masseur territory, so maybe not bother with the Asian spa at that point. Something between $150 and $200? What do others think?

Wow and I believed them all when they said they were virgins. 

You’re very strict! I understand why given the model you operate. My model is different so I can go along with it a few times because it doesn’t cause me any hassle (they cancel before the day so I’m not incurring costs etc. By the third time they cancel with some lame excuse I usually say to them that if they’re anxious then to talk to me.
These clients tend to be inhibited, usually not out, often exploring their sexuality. Their chat reveals they have a lot of misconceptions about gay or bi sex. I don’t want to be difficult to them; one day they might actually pluck up the courage to come for a session and that would be fantastic for them. I like helping clients with their sexuality and helping them to be comfortable with their sexuality. Those kind of clients are lovely because they’re so appreciative of what you do for them. 

My experience is that most guys (not all, but most) will offer a "session rate" as @MikeBiDude called it. Typically, I'll ask "what are your rates for one, two, and three hours?" It gives them the opportunity to offer a "session rate" without me having to ask about a "discount." 

Sorry but it’s gone. You fell for his talk. There’s lots of debate on here about deposits, so I won’t add to it but I will say that if you’re given a ‘family crisis’ type story to justify sending money then the best and only sensible thing to do is say “I hope things work out for you” and then end the conversation and find a more professional provider. 

Hello all, this is Matthew, the owner of this profile .. I was, indeed, hacked!  It's absolutely embarrassing the way this person was conducting themselves and I hate one of you lost money, but glad it was only one and it was only $50. Thank you so much to my loyal clients that reached out to let me know about this!! I was not in New York (been at my home in Charlotte, NC since returning from my last trip to Chicago in early March), and they changed the phone number and email - so I wasn't getting any notifications. The support on rent masseur is not great, so I don't understand how this happened! But I was able to recover control and change the password.  I've been in the industry over 8 years now and take pride in my work! Many clients all over the country can attest to this, and I always conduct myself in a professional way! I have not ever required a deposit to see me, my work speaks for itself when you experience my session!! I do have the Venmo name they used and will be reporting it. To the gentleman that unfortunately got scammed by this dead beat - I will gladly credit you this as a discount should we ever meet!
These are the two profiles I have, and it's the same NC phone number on both
mattydeuce on RentMasseur
RENTMASSEUR.COM View my profile on RentMasseur.com  
https://www.masseurfinder.com/massage-therapists/34915/
 

Hasn't happened in awhile, but if a guy needs to shower, I tell them to shower. 
I'm not precious about it. 
That's the kind of shit a grown adult should know to do before meeting up. 

The massage itself is great so honestly I’m fine either way! I always let him take the lead and enjoy being surprised. Not knowing if it’ll happen or not is part of the fun for me. 
 
I escorted for three years starting in college and a bit after I graduated, and while the line of work wasn’t quite the same I can sort of relate to his side of the business. Work is work ultimately and I wouldn’t take anything personally. 

This is great news…. 
No one wants to be walking around with a hard dick, and then not remember what to actually do with it….. 

You can ask, but don't be shocked if the experience is affected.
It's why I never continue a conversation when someone begins negotiation.  I thank them and move forward.
If you get your price, that's great, but it always going to be the elephant in the room with any escort with decent business sense.