and unnecessary avalanche of texting and too much communication.
@JoeMendoza KISS (keep it simple stupid) you bottom, he (provider) top.
side by side, turtle
Do you realize the two of you must be very flexible for side by side, turtle or submissive doggy is easier
provider [4:00 PM]: "I can't see them on the plane but I don't do these sorts of things. If I fuck you, I'm in charge and your job as the bottom is to shut the fuck up and take it. A bottom should never stop the top for any reason unless you experience pain. But if he stops me for some bs like to change positions or to check if he is clean, I'm done fucking him and I'm not happy about his need to control the situation. Those dudes are tops and need to be fucking me. Bottoms must top in order to learn how to be a good bottom. The opposite is also true."
I understand the top is directing and in charge but c'mon! Besides he texted all of that! He should have replied.
"Yes, let's play by ear", "I'll keep that in mind", "no agenda, I don't like to do lists, we'll have a good time", etc. but not that way! It sounded like a hostage negotiation!
"I'm done fucking" was too bossy, besides what he does with others may not apply to you or that particular encounter