You just think with your big head, perform some due diligence, arrange for a meeting in a public place like a Starbucks for your first meeting. Following those guidelines I don’t think I have yet to be “catfished”. I have been stood up at Starbucks 2 to 3 times but I have never had anyone who actually showed up - not been the same person as pictures they presented online and via text. I have Skyped and FaceTimed on rare occasion.
Seeking arrangements is absolutely not for everyone! It takes work, patience, and a lot of messaging, phone calls, a lot of work. Many of the client types on this board do not enjoy “the hunt”. I happen to enjoy it. If it sounds like too much work, then a traditional Rentmen gentleman is probably your best choice.