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I honestly don’t see what’s so complicated about this. If you’re no longer satisfied with his service, then stop hiring him. I get that finding a regular provider can be frustrating, believe me I know, but why continue working with someone who isn’t meeting your needs? The whole point of hiring is to get the services you actually want. You’re asking how to be gentle, but what you really need is to be honest with him and with yourself.

Yes, you're right. I guess it took me some trial and error for months to find someone that was as close to what I need from him, believe it or not that there's some 'sunk cost fallacy' situation happening here, and getting back into that trial and error again is a bit exhausting.
How to let this guy go gently?

I mean, he's a professional and that's what keeps me considering him. He doesn't do drugs, I can have a conversation with him, he's not a clock watcher and my ideal physical type. I've tried finding that locally and the guys are either high, or not provide a BFE. If he was able to cum consistently I would have no issues at all.

Any advice I could get on how to let go of a regular provider?
For context, we have been meeting regularly for the past 8 months or so, he lives in another city so I've flown him twice to mine, and I've flown to his twice. We've had about 5 overnights and some 3hour blocks in between, approximately 12 meets in total. He texts me throughout the week and we text back and forth, however for the past 4 or so meets I've not received the full share of what I need and when I recently talked about it with him, he said that me asking was 'off-putting'. During our last multi hour block, he was having issues performing and told me he wouldn't be able to get hard, so I paid for the hour and left.
Of note, what I've told him I need is a BFE with a passionate dickdown leaving my hole loaded. That's it. He's said he has issues cumming, and me asking about it is what's 'off-putting'. He feels like he's walking on thin ice when it comes to what I need. I told him I understand if it's difficult for him to do, but if out of the 12 meets we've had he's only came twice, without it even happening during overnights then that's an issue for me as I expect that consistently.
Right now he left a day or so ago back to his hometown and we haven't texted. I'm talking about high end rates (I've invested about 30k this year overall in those 8 months) and we had talked about a trip in January (an overnight) and right now I don't think he'll be able to perform or fulfill those needs so I'm not keen on meeting him again for those multi-hour sessions. Any suggestions on how to approach this? I don't want to lose contact and I would enjoy meeting if he's here in my town or if I'm back to his town, but I'm no longer interested in multihour bookings if he can't fully satisfy what I need. Thoughts?

I would get a massage but I can't remember the masseur I had last time...I want to say his name was Steven.  They're all pretty good...I'd just book a regular massage but find time before or after in your schedule to enjoy the locker room/sauna as well.

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I had the same experience with behind you several months ago.

Disinterested. Non engaged. On his phone immediately.  Mediocre massage. Maybe it was an off day, but I don’t plan to repeat. 

Communications clear, matches pics, massage B+ or better (in the nude), extras B, nice guy.

I have the opposite experience. Most of my regulars and favorites are in LA. I travel 2 weeks a month all over and have sampled the best (based on feedback on here) across the country and have never felt SoCal to be an outlier with quality or communication from masseurs. Happy to share my go to guys list in SoCal. 

Spent two hours with him. One of the better ones! 😈😋

I've seen him twice strictly for massage. Probably one of the best massages I've ever received. Looks like his pics. Nice man. Dont know how his escorting skills are but if they are anything like his massage skills... then I'd book him in a second.

He cancelled on me yesterday after initially postponing the appointment by 30 minutes earlier in the day. 

Mutual touch and happy ending 

Had a session with him today in Palm Springs. He does travel. but brings the whole set up. The massage was quite good and I'd definitely repeat. PM for any details.

I saw Chris last year and he was very handsome, kind and did a very good job. Nice touch and ended in a way how most of us would like it to end. 

Finally connected with Chris this evening after multiple attempts. I set my expectations low based on some of the reviews and left very pleasantly surprised. And satisfied. He is pleasant and friendly. Massage was firm and very skilled in my opinion. He wore a jock for the first half of the massage. Lots of physical interaction…. Will sleep well tonight!

I’ve had massages from both Chris and his Aussie husband separately. They are both very handsome with great personalities and strong massage techniques. Both gave HE with limited MT. I asked, but neither would go further. Regardless, enjoyed both and would book again.

Went a few times.  One thing I’d add is that he couldn’t be nicer.  Just a great guy.

Massaging you was such a pleasure for him that he decided to pay you for your time instead?
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Omg he doesn’t shut up during the massage

Another Latino who has landed in my area for the weekend (there are many visiting this weekend) that I'm interested in (because he's taller than 5'8").  Anyone have a taste of him yet ? 
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I met him yesterday in DC. So, so much fun.  Great kisser to start with.   Definitely hoping for a round two and I’d give him a strong recommendation! If you want more details pm me. 

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