this is a part of the adventure of getting a massage from a guy; a couple of years ago, I scheduled a massage with a guy in London; he advertised as giving sensual massages, but then he listed his boundaries: no sex, no kissing, no oral; I remember thinking, well, OK, that's fine. when I arrived at his apartment, he began by undressing me slowly and then started kissing me; and we definitely had sex, including oral; it was a delightful experience; I am thinking that he gave the boundaries in order to give himself latitude to either observe them or do what he felt he wanted to do