I think most people here have provided excellent suggestions and advice. For me personally from my most recent first provider experience, I would confirm with the provider what you want to happen before meeting up with them. I was nervous and let him know it was my first time as well. Their RM profile put that they were into kissing on their profile but when it came to me asking if he kissed during the encounter, he said he didn't do it. Just be upfront about what you want and get your moneys/times worth.