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I contacted him a few years ago when he first started advertising. At the time, he seemed quite full of himself, and requested that I send photos so that he could tell me my rate... apparently the rate varied depending on how hot you were. Needles to say, I passed. His ad seems much more professional now.

I look at this question a little differently...
 
I think that it's always difficult to discern from ads on the massage sites whether a masseur is really serious about massage or just an "Escort Lite." In my experience, if the masseur is serious, they will offer a table and if they're all about the extras, they'll do it on a bed.

I contacted him a few years ago when he first started advertising. At the time, he seemed quite full of himself, and requested that I send photos so that he could tell me my rate... apparently the rate varied depending on how hot you were. Needles to say, I passed. His ad seems much more professional now.

He's for real, but I wouldn't repeat.

He's for real, but I wouldn't repeat.

I've had a massage from him at his professional studio in Mission Valley. It was strictly legit, and pretty good. I was a bit disappointed that it didn't go further, but I think that if you contact him for massage, that's all you'll get.
I've seen him advertise on rentmen, so I think he's available for more and into heavy kink. He also pops up my grindr all the time, and I've seen him out and about. He seems to be putting on weight quickly, so if that's an issue for you, be aware of it.

I think it's a little bit creepy to reach out to someone who has just looked at your ad. I look at a lot of ads, but that doesn't mean I contact most of them.
 
Maybe it's just me, but if you reach out to me this way, you might get feedback that is more honest and less polite than you want. I might tell you exactly why I didn't respond to the ad, and it might not be flattering.

I think it's a little bit creepy to reach out to someone who has just looked at your ad. I look at a lot of ads, but that doesn't mean I contact most of them.
 
Maybe it's just me, but if you reach out to me this way, you might get feedback that is more honest and less polite than you want. I might tell you exactly why I didn't respond to the ad, and it might not be flattering.

I think it's a little bit creepy to reach out to someone who has just looked at your ad. I look at a lot of ads, but that doesn't mean I contact most of them.
 
Maybe it's just me, but if you reach out to me this way, you might get feedback that is more honest and less polite than you want. I might tell you exactly why I didn't respond to the ad, and it might not be flattering.

A VPN will work with Safari, but if you start your browsing session before activating your VPN, Rentmen may only recognize your original location and therefore show you the USA version without reviews. You can probably get around this by using a "private browsing" window (File > New Private Window) after turning on your VPN.

Here's a suggestion:
 
Bring along you cpap/bipap/apap (whatever) and rather than "having a talk" about what it is, just say "oh, by the way, I'm a loud snorer, but I don't want to keep you awake, so I brought along my cpap machine, which shuts me up. Just give me a nudge if my snoring bothers you, and I'll put it on."
 
This turns everything around and casts your cpap as something that you do out of consideration for him. It also downplays the medical importance of it, and opens up an opportunity for a conversation about it if he wants to go there.

Here's a suggestion:
 
Bring along you cpap/bipap/apap (whatever) and rather than "having a talk" about what it is, just say "oh, by the way, I'm a loud snorer, but I don't want to keep you awake, so I brought along my cpap machine, which shuts me up. Just give me a nudge if my snoring bothers you, and I'll put it on."
 
This turns everything around and casts your cpap as something that you do out of consideration for him. It also downplays the medical importance of it, and opens up an opportunity for a conversation about it if he wants to go there.

I'm never sure whether that is a diamond indicating an escort, or a crystal indicating drugs.

I'm never sure whether that is a diamond indicating an escort, or a crystal indicating drugs.

I don't understand what half of the profiles are indicating, so don't feel bad!
 
I would only get pissed off on Grindr if someone without indication (in either mine or his profile) reached out to me and engaged me in conversation etc. and then after making me believe it would be a consensual hook-up started to ask for generosity. That is where I draw the line.

I'm never sure whether that is a diamond indicating an escort, or a crystal indicating drugs.

For me it will be when the rate of new infections has gotten low enough, so that even if I were to get it (or transmit it) from any circumstance - whether a massage, or out to dinner, etc - I would not pose a risk of over-burdening the health-care system if I happened to be in the small minority of people who require hospitalization. We're not close to that point yet - if we're lucky, maybe in 6-8 weeks?

I don't think you're going to get a useful answer to this question.
 
Clients, especially those who value "discretion," would like to believe that providers don't keep any records, and there is no "little black book," digital or otherwise.
 
Some providers probably keep records with varying levels of detail about their clients. It's totally understandable that they would like to remember which clients to avoid, and it would be a good business practice to keep track of clients' likes and dislikes, and even personal details so they can easily make repeat clients feel valued.
 
Keeping these records is a good business practice. Disclosing that you do is not.

I don't think you're going to get a useful answer to this question.
 
Clients, especially those who value "discretion," would like to believe that providers don't keep any records, and there is no "little black book," digital or otherwise.
 
Some providers probably keep records with varying levels of detail about their clients. It's totally understandable that they would like to remember which clients to avoid, and it would be a good business practice to keep track of clients' likes and dislikes, and even personal details so they can easily make repeat clients feel valued.
 
Keeping these records is a good business practice. Disclosing that you do is not.

I don't think you're going to get a useful answer to this question.
 
Clients, especially those who value "discretion," would like to believe that providers don't keep any records, and there is no "little black book," digital or otherwise.
 
Some providers probably keep records with varying levels of detail about their clients. It's totally understandable that they would like to remember which clients to avoid, and it would be a good business practice to keep track of clients' likes and dislikes, and even personal details so they can easily make repeat clients feel valued.
 
Keeping these records is a good business practice. Disclosing that you do is not.

I don't think you're going to get a useful answer to this question.
 
Clients, especially those who value "discretion," would like to believe that providers don't keep any records, and there is no "little black book," digital or otherwise.
 
Some providers probably keep records with varying levels of detail about their clients. It's totally understandable that they would like to remember which clients to avoid, and it would be a good business practice to keep track of clients' likes and dislikes, and even personal details so they can easily make repeat clients feel valued.
 
Keeping these records is a good business practice. Disclosing that you do is not.

I don't think you're going to get a useful answer to this question.
 
Clients, especially those who value "discretion," would like to believe that providers don't keep any records, and there is no "little black book," digital or otherwise.
 
Some providers probably keep records with varying levels of detail about their clients. It's totally understandable that they would like to remember which clients to avoid, and it would be a good business practice to keep track of clients' likes and dislikes, and even personal details so they can easily make repeat clients feel valued.
 
Keeping these records is a good business practice. Disclosing that you do is not.

I don't think you're going to get a useful answer to this question.
 
Clients, especially those who value "discretion," would like to believe that providers don't keep any records, and there is no "little black book," digital or otherwise.
 
Some providers probably keep records with varying levels of detail about their clients. It's totally understandable that they would like to remember which clients to avoid, and it would be a good business practice to keep track of clients' likes and dislikes, and even personal details so they can easily make repeat clients feel valued.
 
Keeping these records is a good business practice. Disclosing that you do is not.

I don't think you're going to get a useful answer to this question.
 
Clients, especially those who value "discretion," would like to believe that providers don't keep any records, and there is no "little black book," digital or otherwise.
 
Some providers probably keep records with varying levels of detail about their clients. It's totally understandable that they would like to remember which clients to avoid, and it would be a good business practice to keep track of clients' likes and dislikes, and even personal details so they can easily make repeat clients feel valued.
 
Keeping these records is a good business practice. Disclosing that you do is not.

I don't think you're going to get a useful answer to this question.
 
Clients, especially those who value "discretion," would like to believe that providers don't keep any records, and there is no "little black book," digital or otherwise.
 
Some providers probably keep records with varying levels of detail about their clients. It's totally understandable that they would like to remember which clients to avoid, and it would be a good business practice to keep track of clients' likes and dislikes, and even personal details so they can easily make repeat clients feel valued.
 
Keeping these records is a good business practice. Disclosing that you do is not.