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I have always avoided PNP and have avoided hiring anyone who listed it as an option (although there have been a couple times that I either missed it being listed or the escort added it afterwards.) I am concerned that PNP has become so much the default in hiring escorts, particularly in major cities, that sex is almost ancillary to the drug use. From what I have heard, most escorts and/or their clients engage in it, and for most escorts it’s the exceptional client who does not want to engage in chemsex. Escorts can make more money, have longer sessions that go on and on, as they can keep charging the client for more and more time, since the client is willing to pay anything to maintain his high at that point. Most of their time together might not even be spent engaged in sex. A concern that I have with engaging someone who has listed PNP in their ads and may provide party drugs to their clients is the risk of them being a target of law enforcement, not because of the prostitution, but the drug use. That seems to me to be the more serious concern for law enforcement since the escort could be the conduit to major drug suppliers, and in the attempt to crack down on drug suppliers (which the current administration seems to at least talk a lot about) escorts could get caught up in drug stings that reveal clients as collateral damage to the drug investigation. So even if a person lists PNP as simply just one of many services they are willing to provide, but does not engage in that with me, I worry that the fact he engages in it at all with others indirectly puts me at risk, too. That being said, to avoid escorts who provide a PNP option to clients leaves few options for hiring, particularly among the top, high-demand escorts and adult entertainers in NY, Miami, and LA. Even those who don’t list PNP, sometimes provide it. There is much talk of the escorts who charge $1K or more per hour as charging exorbitant fees, but that surprise assumes all you are paying for is companionship and sex. At that price level, there is often the option include certain other “parTy” favors, etc. So what is a non-partying, potential client to do?

A bad president can be quite problematic…

I heard this term used in a sexual context but was afraid to ask what it meant, out fear of seeming old and out of touch. Does anyone know what skinting is? Or better yet, have you ever skinted someone (skinted with?) , whether it be “hardcore” or not?

Hypothetically speaking, how does one get introduced to this scene and can a provider be hired to organise and guide it?

And I was just thinking that I should be less kind and less polite in order not to be mistaken for a push-over, manipulated, or taken advantage of because the escorts know they can get away with it with a “nice guy”. I fear the world has become meaner and politeness and civility won’t protect us nice guys. But maybe I am just embittered on my way to being jaded. We‘ll see….

Do most escorts normally tell their clients when they are planning to retire or make some sort of announcement in their ads that they intend to do so?

It seems with technology now there are lots of things that you can do to edit a photography on an iphone. Are there methods or things to look for in an escort photo to tell if the pictures have been photoshopped, doctored, or edited? Particularly with dick pics? I guess angles and lighting can go a long way in enhancing reality. Can you make yourself look more muscular than you really are in a photo?

It seems there are some providers who will accept PayPal, Venmo, CashApp, or other money transfer services. Are others finding this convenient or do most people still use cash?

Does anyone have any experience with or can recommend a duo who would travel well together with a client? Any advice on how to secure such an arrangement?

I appreciate your responses in helping me put this situation in perspective. Sometimes, one feels like he is hiring in a vacuum. The providers usually have more experience generally in the hiring situations than I have, and I can easily be gaslighted into believing that I am either being unreasonable or that their behavior and expectations are quite the norm, as they take advantage of my mindset that I am fortunate to have them or as they exploit my avoidance of conflict out of fear they will move on.

I normally get up between 7 and 7:30AM. I don’t think that is particularly early. I don’t expect that he get up at 7, but he usually sleeps until about 10 or 10:30, goes to the gym and we might not start our time together until noon or even 1 o’clock. Sometimes I go out or exercise myself and return to him still asleep. Never has he awoken before me. We did discuss this, but it never occurred to me that I should have to put him on an hourly schedule. Of course, I agreed that he should be able to sleep at night and have personal time in the gym, but I didn’t think that personal time would consistently take up an entire morning.

I normally get up between 7 and 7:30AM. I don’t think that is particularly early. I don’t expect that he get up at 7, but he usually sleeps until about 10 or 10:30, goes to the gym and we might not start our time together until noon or even 1 o’clock. Sometimes I go out or exercise myself and return to him still asleep. Never has he awoken before me. We did discuss this, but it never occurred to me that I should have to put him on an hourly schedule. Of course, I agreed that he should be able to sleep at night and have personal time in the gym, but I didn’t think that personal time would consistently take up an entire morning.

I have hired a provider to go away with me, and we have done a few weekend trips together previously. When we travel together, I find that he sleeps in every day and upon waking leaves to spend hours at the gym or wherever. He usually says he’ll be right back, but I may not see him for hours until the afternoon, which troubles me as a morning person. He told me that I should know that he needs his personal time. Although I recognize that when traveling people may need time on their own or may need to attend to things, but if he got up earlier maybe half the day (which he is charging me for) wouldn’t be lost with his sleeping and exercise, especially on a trip that only lasts a weekend. Is this a reasonable expectation? Is he just trying to spend as little time with me as he thinks he can get away with while enjoying a free vacation? How should I broach the subject further or should I just move on?

Yes, it is a huge leap to think that, because @MeatHead wasn’t talking about Irish ghettos in New York or European Jewish ghettos. It was clear to whom he was referring and why he chose that reference in the context of his comment about “hood people.” He knew he was talking about Black people and how to convey it. His own race is irrelevant to that. The etymology of “ghetto” is merely a history lesson that might explain how it evolved to current usage, but @MeatHead was obviously not using the word in an historical context as that would be nonsensical.

No, it’s a coded dog whistle. Everyone knows of whom you speak without you mentioning race. That’s why the word works to convey the sense you feel you can’t say. You can thereby back out of it semantically when called on it. If you were simply speaking of behavior and nothing else, like drinking in the street and fighting, you wouldn’t have categorized the type of people, in your view, engaging in the behavior, let alone call them “hood people.” You would just describe the behavior. You chose not to do that and instead refer to where you thought they were from as being the hood or ghetto for one obvious reason — to convey a more powerful image, a racially loaded image, of the people without you having to say it explicitly.