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And I was just thinking that I should be less kind and less polite in order not to be mistaken for a push-over, manipulated, or taken advantage of because the escorts know they can get away with it with a “nice guy”. I fear the world has become meaner and politeness and civility won’t protect us nice guys. But maybe I am just embittered on my way to being jaded. We‘ll see….

Do most escorts normally tell their clients when they are planning to retire or make some sort of announcement in their ads that they intend to do so?

It seems with technology now there are lots of things that you can do to edit a photography on an iphone. Are there methods or things to look for in an escort photo to tell if the pictures have been photoshopped, doctored, or edited? Particularly with dick pics? I guess angles and lighting can go a long way in enhancing reality. Can you make yourself look more muscular than you really are in a photo?

It seems there are some providers who will accept PayPal, Venmo, CashApp, or other money transfer services. Are others finding this convenient or do most people still use cash?

Does anyone have any experience with or can recommend a duo who would travel well together with a client? Any advice on how to secure such an arrangement?

I appreciate your responses in helping me put this situation in perspective. Sometimes, one feels like he is hiring in a vacuum. The providers usually have more experience generally in the hiring situations than I have, and I can easily be gaslighted into believing that I am either being unreasonable or that their behavior and expectations are quite the norm, as they take advantage of my mindset that I am fortunate to have them or as they exploit my avoidance of conflict out of fear they will move on.

I normally get up between 7 and 7:30AM. I don’t think that is particularly early. I don’t expect that he get up at 7, but he usually sleeps until about 10 or 10:30, goes to the gym and we might not start our time together until noon or even 1 o’clock. Sometimes I go out or exercise myself and return to him still asleep. Never has he awoken before me. We did discuss this, but it never occurred to me that I should have to put him on an hourly schedule. Of course, I agreed that he should be able to sleep at night and have personal time in the gym, but I didn’t think that personal time would consistently take up an entire morning.

I normally get up between 7 and 7:30AM. I don’t think that is particularly early. I don’t expect that he get up at 7, but he usually sleeps until about 10 or 10:30, goes to the gym and we might not start our time together until noon or even 1 o’clock. Sometimes I go out or exercise myself and return to him still asleep. Never has he awoken before me. We did discuss this, but it never occurred to me that I should have to put him on an hourly schedule. Of course, I agreed that he should be able to sleep at night and have personal time in the gym, but I didn’t think that personal time would consistently take up an entire morning.

I have hired a provider to go away with me, and we have done a few weekend trips together previously. When we travel together, I find that he sleeps in every day and upon waking leaves to spend hours at the gym or wherever. He usually says he’ll be right back, but I may not see him for hours until the afternoon, which troubles me as a morning person. He told me that I should know that he needs his personal time. Although I recognize that when traveling people may need time on their own or may need to attend to things, but if he got up earlier maybe half the day (which he is charging me for) wouldn’t be lost with his sleeping and exercise, especially on a trip that only lasts a weekend. Is this a reasonable expectation? Is he just trying to spend as little time with me as he thinks he can get away with while enjoying a free vacation? How should I broach the subject further or should I just move on?

Yes, it is a huge leap to think that, because @MeatHead wasn’t talking about Irish ghettos in New York or European Jewish ghettos. It was clear to whom he was referring and why he chose that reference in the context of his comment about “hood people.” He knew he was talking about Black people and how to convey it. His own race is irrelevant to that. The etymology of “ghetto” is merely a history lesson that might explain how it evolved to current usage, but @MeatHead was obviously not using the word in an historical context as that would be nonsensical.

No, it’s a coded dog whistle. Everyone knows of whom you speak without you mentioning race. That’s why the word works to convey the sense you feel you can’t say. You can thereby back out of it semantically when called on it. If you were simply speaking of behavior and nothing else, like drinking in the street and fighting, you wouldn’t have categorized the type of people, in your view, engaging in the behavior, let alone call them “hood people.” You would just describe the behavior. You chose not to do that and instead refer to where you thought they were from as being the hood or ghetto for one obvious reason — to convey a more powerful image, a racially loaded image, of the people without you having to say it explicitly.

“Crowded with hood people” sounds like it’s just a euphemism for there were too many Black people present for your comfort level at what you expected to be an almost exclusively white gathering — which many Pride celebrations are.

Although I am sure they are being truthful in your case, that is something escorts say to clients. Addressing the client as “Handsome” is Escorting 101. It can also be a way of not having to recall your name in that moment.

Do they know your real name?

How important to you is eye contact during sex? I like it, particularly in a position that lends itself to eye contact, but I have noticed that some guys, even then, close their eyes or look elsewhere. I remember once when a guy ordered me to look him in the eyes as I was blowing him. It was very hot. I think eye contact can be used to turn up the heat in a situation, and I am surprised how many guys seem like they are drifting off somewhere else with their eyes shut or looking somewhere else while doing the deed.