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Some critics are saying it's the best thing to hit HBO in years. Can't say I agree with that. By watching analysis videos on YouTube, I just found out what really happened in the end. It was not very clear to me, and now that I know, I have to say the entire thing is very sad. Who needs sad right now? I hate to say it, but I don't think the story makes a lot of sense. I wish more gays would see it so we could talk about it here. It's the kind of drama that's worth talking about, since the subtext is man-on-man connection. There really is no way to talk about this story without giving away spoilers.

I meant nothing personal. Apparently, the issue is very real. Lots of pages come up if you Google "older man smell." https://www.verywellhealth.com/old-people-smell-11922651 My eyes aren't trained yet. I miss a lot of details these days.

I thought he looked sexy as hell, and I was certainly glad I had the chance to see it all. However, the photos were taken without his permission, and that has to be an awful feeling. I imagine for him it feels like a personal violation.

Do you have Old Person Smell? The Deli thread was getting way off course, and this is an important topic for all gay men.

I just finished it. Unlike anything I've ever seen before. Not sure I liked it after all. Perhaps something went over my head. Difficult to discuss without spoilers. I have a few questions. Seeing Jason Bateman in his underwear was a bit shocking. I admire his bravery. I liked the bonding, soul-searching aspect of the relationship, but I would have loved it more if they experimented. The experiment could have failed, but at least we would know they tried. Having a love connection does not mean it has to be sexual, or expressed sexually, but straight guys experimenting is always an interesting subject, IMO. (Can you tell I'm gay?)

Failing to find something great to watch at night, I decided to re-watch The Wire, with subtitles on. Given what this show teaches about the actual drug trade, it is mind boggling to me why any sane person would ingest any of these illegal substances. Unless you know the chemist, you can't possibly know what you are putting into your body.

I didn't realize they resumed the print edition in 2020. I hear former archived issues are more valuable than anything they have today. I remember when Justin Bieber complained to Ellen DeGeneres about the paparazzi capturing him naked. He said to her how disappointed he was that he wasn't able to keep that part of him private. He shrugged his shoulders and said, "There's nothing I can do about it now," but I kind of understood what he meant, and I was sad for him. Once your naked self gets exposed to the world, there is no taking that back. The public gets to own the visual, forever.

I support that.

What's the incentive for straight guys to pose nude there? Does Playgirl of today have any money? Do they have clout? What is there to gain for a straight guy?

I wasn't comparing. You missed the point. Also, a regular massage is nowhere near the same thing as a sensual one. If the customer has any desire for sex during a sensual massage -- I don't care how little or how much sex -- then it's incumbent on him to not only respect himself, but to respect the provider as well. This really is simple courtesy. I have two very close friends, hot guys, who have been sexually charged and active for longer than 30 years. On game night, when the subject comes to hygiene among men, boy do they have some stories. I find it shocking, too. How can any gay man be so dense and out of touch?

Ever had an anoscopy? How much do you respect your doctor, or yourself? If the expected massage is sensual, I would think it common sense to be as clean as possible. No different than a scheduled hook-up. I don't go to a sensual massage appointment without douching first, just in case the guy wants to play. I'm not the type to request things. I like the mystery, and I don't care about sex, as long as the massage is good. I've never needed to take a dump upon visiting a massage therapist. But nerves can play a role in how our digestive system works. Far too often horny men don't pay attention to their diet, and don't think to prepare properly for such an encounter. The last thing I expect from a masseur is for him to take viagra. That strikes me as very weird, and oddly demanding. Last but not least, I'm dead on arrival with certain foul odors. Some men never learn how to properly clean themselves, and I'm talking every orifice. What is a service provider supposed to do in these unfortunate circumstances?

In a former life, I had a nice body. Regular gym goer, very active lifestyle with a very happy relationship. Everything seemed to change after 50. Partner died, and family genes caught up to me. Every doctor's visit seems to come with a new surprise. I'm still here. Just suffering from a little ptsd. I've never been. Too late now. The sun and high heat are no longer my friend.

And then having an orgasm with the help of good porn. That sounds like fun. However, this is not the time in my life to be naked in public. I've lost count of the times I watched the series. Too many great production qualities to talk about. LOL. Mine are white, and do I dare admit I iron them after washing.

I had my doubts, too, but when I questioned my friend, he was adamant it was true. My friend is a good-hearted, successful businessman, and not the kind of person to make up things. Not wanting to be too pushy, or too pessimistic I dropped it. In a situation like this, without having a chance to question the escort, it's difficult to know the whole truth.

I have a younger artist friend who is dating a sex worker he met in Europe. Europe is the sw's home address. The sw has an ad. He also has a U.S. passport. The last time he tried to visit NYC, he was refused entry, and had to do a return flight immediately, at his own expense. TSA told him his name is on a list. I don't know all the facts, but something was said about not letting sex workers into the country to make tax free earnings. Elections have consequences, more than ever before.

I haven't read the whole thread, but I saw this smother video recently and thought it was pretty hot. If it's been posted before, my apologies. https://justthegays.com/video/266093-troy-uses-his-ass-to-smother-kyles-face-while-jordan-jerks-off-jordanxbrandt-troyxbrandt-kylexbrandt-042609/

I don't think I believe that for a minute, especially in this specific realm. So many men do not know their limits, and testing limits can lead to a lot of trouble. Once you've crossed the line, I don't see how one can turn back. Certain fantasies can be like an addictive drug, except this one has far more reaching consequences.

I can't read minds, and others here have more experience with marylander1940's posting intent. Furthermore, marylander1940 has responded. I'm just saying, if the intent was to collect and provoke ridicule, I could see more obvious ways to create a click-bate subject. I'm also trying to say that a conversation about marketing types has its place on this board. I realize it could attract members who like to ridicule, but the conversation should be free to take place nonetheless. We are mostly adults. The 1-3% of providers, who clearly stand out in the crowd, make for interesting insight and analysis. These discussions cause us to think about a lot of things.

It was an attempt at humor, not to be taken seriously. Although, at this point in my old, dilapidated body, any provider who gets erect after seeing me naked qualifies as a sex god.

I don't remember specific details, but I will never forget the public beating Jude Law took after appearing nude either in film of via paparazzi photos. I'm not even talking about gay forums. The ridicule was coming from everywhere, even Yahoo chat spaces. I always thought the guy was hot, so I truly felt sorry for him, and sorry for the far too numerous assholes poking fun at him. We live in a cruel world, which is why I appreciate every good moment I have left. Well, if you weren't born with great genes, and your social skills suck, there's only so much any of us can do to compete with the sex gods. There must be a lot of unhappy gay men out there who are displeased, looking for ways to feel better about their situation. What if your physically not considered attractive, and you're living in the closet? Isn't this a common category of customer for sex workers? It must be a wonderful feeling to have that intimate moment with a fantasy guy. But once the appointment is over, you have to go home and live the life you secretly dread. I'm not trying to excuse rude or uncivil behavior. But I suspect there are a lot of unsatisfied gay men out there, dreaming of happiness, who can't afford the going hourly rate.

Are we talking body shape or penis size? Are there different kinds of measuring up that are more acceptable? Gays here are "measuring up" every other thread, and I don't see anyone questioning it or being offended in any way. Where does one draw the line when it comes to "public evaluation" when the ads are motivated by so many photos? Again, is the same not true for cock size, and the endless threads on that subject? For gay men and the subject of sex, isn't cock size the first "valid" test to pass? I guess after awhile, those of us who don't look like porn stars, are old, or have average-sized cocks, are going to feel beaten down by public evaluation. Maybe this is just one more example of a beating, and there's a limit to what we all can tolerate. I'm having a difficult time trying to parse these differentials into coherency.

Perhaps. If only we all would think before we speak.

I have no idea who marylander1940 is, but I'm having trouble seeing a "troll" attempt in his simple, matter of fact question. A troll effort isn't that obvious to me, and it bothers me that a moderator would jump to this conclusion. (Maybe there is something I don't know.) Here lies the problem with judging words on a platform like this. I don't know the percentage, but I assume many people who hire sex workers do so in large part based on looks or type, and if porn star looks act as any litmus test, Mr. TxDaddyBear might have a difficult time getting hired by Falcon Studios. We can all agree that while there may be a market for TxDaddyBear, based on ads, he falls into less than 1% of types. Given what is obvious about ad offerings, is marylander1940's question really harmful in any way? Have any of you ever been to a marketing meeting at any corporation? These types of questions have to be asked if you want to keep your job.

Free speech has always had an ugly side. When I consider the alternative, I wouldn't want it any other way. At least when someone behaves like a pathetic asshole, you know where that asshole stands. I prefer to know the naked truth about an individual. Then I know whom to ignore. I agree. Personally, I don't like rude incivility. I have experienced a little of that on this board. I choose to ignore it. There is so much valuable information here, and a lot of it is fun and funny. IMO, the positives far outweigh the negatives. No place is perfect.

It sounds like you've never been to a social event with professional hairdressers and make-up artists. A fine line may exist between analyze and criticize, but who knows where that line is? Do people really need an invitation to critique aesthetics? Isn't damning a bad weather day a critique on aesthetics? I think of all the YouTube videos now where unknown people have become Joan Rivers playing fashion police at red carpet events. Critiquing aesthetics is an industry, and not just as it relates to fashion. Gay men are notorious for critiquing aesthetics. Women, too. So many work in creative jobs, it's second nature for them to critique. It can be a job requirement. I have been to so many game nights or Thanksgiving celebrations where most of the social conversation is critiquing aesthetics. So often, friends talking amongst friends will shoot the shit. I'm sure providers know exactly what I mean. Yes, it's slightly different from an online board experience like this because most of us are not friends. We're anonymous people writing to chat about sex workers. IMO, talking about the looks of a sex worker is no different than talking about the looks of our favorite actor, porn star, or our latest boyfriend. There may be a kinder way of sharing or expressing opinions, but holding them back would make life dull and boring.