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Ok, so I'm not really a grindr user, probably only for less than a year now. I just started using it since when I moved here in the US. Finding hook ups is hard especially to an asian guy like me. And I'm the type of person who doesn't send face pic for two reasons: first, I'm paranoid about everything concerning privacy. Even if it's like an expiring photo or something. And second, I have a lot of body insecurities, from head to toe. 

So, finding somebody who would agree to meet up anonymously is like very rare. And I chatted with this one guy who seems to have a decent description in his profile and he's black. I've never had a BBC before so like my excitement is through the roof. My first rookie mistake that day was agreeing to meet up in his place and not mine. My thoughts are like, what if he's a scammer or thief that can rob me? Somethin like that. So he told me his address, and when I got there, it seems like your typical grandparent's house. When I saw him, he looks decent and like your typical bear body type. So when he saw me, he didn't say anything at all, he just signaled me to keep quiet and go straight upstairs. That means he lives in his parent's house.... And ok I entered the door, which btw is unhinged from the wall, and I saw this horrific dumpster like garbage everywhere. It seems like a college dorm room x10000 omg... He said sorry for all the mess and I was pretending to be ok. But it's like a huge turn off for me. Luckily when he undressed, that's when I saw his huge snake, like porn like dick. I'm afraid that I couldn't DT it. I'm a side btw. And it's directly posted in my profile that at most, I do everything except anal, receiving and especially giving. I discussed it with him prior, but still, black guy like him with that kind of dong, must have high hopes at the back of my mind. When I first sucked his dck, it had an unpleasant taste to it, but I kept thinking that I dreamed about trying a black dck before so I should just suck it up, literally. He said I should undress too so he could suck my dck, but I said it's really asian size, and I wasn't getting hard because of all the mess.. So when he saw it, he kinda got disappointed. My personality is, I'm a people pleaser, so when I saw his face, I just suddenly offered to do more kinky stuff like rimming him... So he turned around and he had a really huge ass, like you could really get suffocated. And yes, I tasted sh*t, and almost gagged.... Oh god, I said to him, can you maybe wash your down there for a bit.... So he went to the bathroom and when he got back and I continued rimming him, it still tastes like sht mixed with like an old spice cologne or something. Then I asked him, did you put something in there? And he said he used an old spice type of body wash..... Oh god, I just said to him, maybe you could turn around so I could continue sucking his dick.... Luckily, I think my mouth already got rid of all the musty odor and weird taste from his dck, so like back to a regular tasting dck. Yeah, then he probably got turned on by that so he started forcing me verbally to be anally fckd. It was like a good 15 mins before he gave up... I mean, even if I agree, hypothetically, to get drilled that day, a lot of messy stuff had already been done that was kinda of a turn off for me. So I went back to sucking his dck and him watching a porn in his phone, when all of a sudden, his phone rang, I think it was like the bank calling him and literally the girl on the other line said he had to pay like a negative balance or something from his credit card, which he declared missing. After the call ended, he started kissing me and asked if he could borrow some money for me... At this point I thought, I might get beaten up if I wouldn't give him any money. But I said, I just paid my bills and had sent money to my parents etc... He was asking as well if he could live in my place temporarily, which I said is impossible because I have a roommate... So he went back to concentrating on his porn and me getting him off. After that, he insisted to cuddle and started asking me again about borrowing some money, which at this point, I just made up some stories just so he could get the hint that I am not gonna lend him anything. When I went home, we just texted our good byes with each other and all that thank you stuff but like 3 days later, he texted if he could meet up again. Btch I blockd him.. I can't. We both got disappointed. 

Yeah sending your personal photo had something to do with it. Either he's not into you or something worse. Which shouldn't be the case because legit MTs shouldn't base accepting clients with their faces. That's what grindr is for... 🙄

On 12/12/2023 at 10:45 AM, rhh33 said:

Have you been to MovieThon on Rt. 22 in Union?

Says on the review the admission fee is expensive, didn’t even know there’s supposed to be a fee? And are there gloryholes or something? 🤣

1963 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣

He's visiting here in NJ right now. Any info about his massage specialties? 

Thanks 

https://www.masseurfinder.com/massage-therapists/42295/

Why is it so hard to find providers or masseurs or gay spas in NJ? I always end up travelling to manhattan just to find some male providers. Especially of you want to find something during night time. The closest open spas you can find are infested by female masseurs which are sketchy and at the same time, it feels like the police would stop by anytime for a raid 😂

Any cruising spots in NJ? I've tried some like those cruisy arcade booths, tried korean saunas and not a fan, can't stand staying inside the heat haha... Just let me know if you have any hidden gems that I could go to... 

An example of this thai dom's "sub" torture I was telling you about. I forgot I bookmarked it from twitter a long time ago. Can you guys imagine trying extreme bondage torture? 😂

I've asked this before, but do you guys know a spa in nyc or nearby that has providers knowledgeable in sensual massage with edging as part or their ritual? Let me know please. Tnx

Yeah, or an actual sensual massage as well. Back in my country they do, but here in the US, I barely hear anybody who provides edging, lingam session. 

47 minutes ago, BobPS said:

You get what you pay for and quality is remembered long after price is forgotten. Hiring a provider is not like Walmart.

Preach.. Hahaha! 

Any provider who's offering budget friendly services? We can even skip the massage part, no need for that haha! NY/NJ located here. Hopefully somebody could reply 😅

@sumdud13 WHY won't you share where it is? 😂 Oh well, they always do have a release at the end I believe. Been there twice and the exact same thing happened. Like it's the SOP of the whole session. I'm already "immune" to the same old rub and tug stuff so I find it a bit boring.. But anyway if it's like a once in a blue moon situation for you then you would really appreciate an ending like that... 👍

@Aa11aa did you verbally request for that slow edging thing before or during the session, or is it like spontaneous? 

Anymore info on Why not men's spa? I've had a good massage and the masseur had a good "hand technique" during the HE part. But that was like a walk in scenario, I even forgot to ask the guy's name. Some asian guy... And the cashier/possibly owner was also an asian guy so I was also wondering if maybe they're all asians? Can't find any 411 of their spa. If there is one, please tag the link. Thank you 🙏

@Peter Eater kinda like baiting right? 😂 I guess we'll never know not until we've been one of the provider's regulars. But still, he has good reviews from rentmasseur so maybe he's really good with the tantra and healing part.. 

... so basically, twink appreciation thread? 

@guyfouryou in all fairness, even though I did not achieve some sort of sexual climax 😂, I felt relaxed and even though it sounds absurd, I feel like I was cleansed in some way. I felt lighter.. Though the body connection thing that we did, I did end up having blue balls 😂😂😂😂 that's why I'm a bit curious if he can do more than the "healing" aspect of the session 🤣 anyways he's also a sexy looking guy. Not for everybody but I think he knows his target market... 

Are you a psychopath of some sort if you get horny from seeing other people in pain or getting tortured? But like in a sexual way actually. I don't particularly watch gruesome stuff that almost violating. Anything as long as there's consent is kind of my kink. 

I love waching bdsm videos or subs that are tied up. That's why like back in my highschool or college days, one of my fave pornsite is men on edge. But it got boring for me. I mean don't get me wrong, I like seeing it, being the watcher and all but submitting myself to it or picturing me as a dom, I don't think so. So yeah, basically bdsm, slave, torture, those categories actually always gets me off. So to give you an example, there was this one japanese video wherein he was tied up on all fours I guess but part of his body was soaked in a well or water something and they kind of tortured him by putting needles in his nipples. As he screamed every time a needle was inserted I was like so excited... And I was thinking, maybe I'm a bit psycho.. I think the video is still around in some porn sites.. 

One other example which is my favorite, I found it from my favorite twitter account. It's private so you have to follow him. I think it's a thai channel. The dom is kind of an old big guy and his subs are mostly twinkish to hunks thai guys. I love the fact that he has this whole home set up with lots of equipments and even like a big ass wheel or a specific contraption for p*nis to torture his guys. But one upload of him like a long time ago (it was already taken down I guess) is where the guy was like on all fours tied up, I think the sub's d*ck was tied up as well and then he placed an acrylic box with a hole perfect for the d*ck and balls to be placed. So basically the dong was erect the entire time, and then he showered like a good amount or big red ants inside. At first I was like screaming and I keep on closing my eyes cause I feel like it's all over me as well... The horror... Hahaha! But when the sub started to scream and moan in pain at the same time, dayuum hahhaa it got all my blood flowing and then I started stripping and jacking off as well, next thing you know, all of my energy was like drained.... 

Do you guys have the same fetish when it comes to like pain and torture? And what is like the boundary between like fetish and violating? 

5 hours ago, CuriousByNature said:

Have your nipples always been this way, or is this a recent development?  Is it both equally, or is one more inverted than the other?  There can be many reasons why nipples are inverted, and it is probably good to consult a physician who can advise on the cause and whether or not solutions exist.

Yeah it has always been this way, and yes both of them actually. Though again there are certain instances wherein they pop haha! Like if they got stimulated in a good way. Though is it like a medical condition or something? 

I love a good nipple play. But I don't know why mine's inverted. Even if it's like cold out. There are only certain times wherein my gum drops are on full display 😅 am I the only one who has this kind of issue? And is this fixable? 😂

My first ever "Erotic" massage was back in my country and it's so lame that it was a literal rub and tug situation. I was a late bloomer back then and still a virgin even though I was about to finish college. It was not my first sexual awakening, but I think it might be like the second time I was touched by a man so for me, it was an exciting and erotic experience. My sexual life back in high school and early years of college were only filled with gay porn and reading erotic stories/confessions and in one of those sites that I follow (almost similar format to this one) I've read about how it can be thrilling to have "happy endings" in massage parlors. Some would do the thing inside the massage place itself, some would do outcalls, but the most popular is that they would do it in some cheap motels (which can be found everywhere in my country). I tried to learn the SOPs of how can I have a successful erotic massage just from reading reviews and asking those people who have done it... In my hometown, every spa or massage parlor has masseurs or "providers" that are willing to do HE (actually in our country, it was called extra service or ES 🤣). 

So I tried my first ever massage at a place nearby and without any knowledge of who to pick but just the hopes of scoring a good one. They asked me if I'd pick a male or a female therapist and I said male.. The bombastic side eye that the receptionist made, at that time felt weird, and I didn't understand it at first but when I got used to like the massage parlor and escorting scene, I understand now how shady that means if you're reserving for a male masseur if you're a man as well (I mean at least back then in my hometown) so but I proceeded with the typical stuff. So when I was inside the room, I didn't really understand at first if I should be fully naked or keep my undies on. My virgin ass self back then kept my undies on and covered the towel in crotch area. I was laying on my back when the masseur came in and said to me I should face down and lie on my stomach. Maybe the masseur was thinking "what an amateur"... But then ok he positioned me and started doing my back. He didn't really concentrate on it that much and then he started massaging my ass cheeks down to thighs..I was so nervous that time that I think I asked him if it's necessary, but then he said "it might have oil stains" or what ever so ok I removed it like in the most virgin like manner that made him ask "is it your first time doing a massage?" so I just said yes actually.. And then he made some small talk asking where I live, or what I do etc... And then I noticed that he concentrated on doing my ass cheeks and inner thighs to almost like the most stimulating strokes that I had (at that time). His dong was definitely touching the sole of my feet which made me even horny. So I think when I laid on my back, I already have like a slight hard on as to which he was just smirking... That's when he started to position at the head of my bed with his dong positioned on top of my head. He first did the head massage and proceeded with the chest massage... It was the first nipple play or stimulation that I had... It was the first time that I had it and I almost came with that alone. But that's when the negotiation began. So idk here but in my country, some  "providers" base their rate on the "services" that they will provide. Since I'm a newbie at that time and haven't even had any "oral" experience, I settle with having a mutual HJ in which the therapists in my hometown always call "lingam" even though it wasn't legit. But after the negotiations, he did what was asked and I came with several shots fired (I always c*m a lot idk why) but at that time, it was the most stimulating and most orgasmic unloading that I had (probably because of the mood and first time doing it in a massage place) as they say, you will never forget your first time 🤣 Ironically, this massage parlor is beside a church. 

That's the first ever erotic massage that I've had that made me a massage or maybe an HE addict.... And I've had a lot of massage/spa sexual encounters that will always be memorable to me 😂 I actually wanna share some but I don't know if there is a thread for that... 

I was just reading from another thread that a provider was asking him for details of the client including pics and social media. I really find it weird and in a way discriminating. I mean I get that sometimes providers have to protect themselves just in case that's why they can ask some details but asking for stats of your physical appearance and race or whatever, is too much. It means that the provider is picky... Come on, it's not a grindr date... You're supposed to be doing your job. 

Otherwise if you encounter this kind of provider? Just find somebody on tinder or grindr or whatever, and it's FREE ❤️

9 hours ago, mcskill said:

Texted. Got asked to fill out form for personal info (email, social media, etc) so he can check to see if we will be a good match. Says in his text that if I don’t like to share then we probably wont be a match. 
 

Maybe that is his way of checking if client is of his preference/type. Providers these days are quite creative. Although it didn’t sit right with me that I have to do this while I’m the one paying for the service. He looks nice and mature from his profile though. 

I didn't know that providers are supposed to not accept clients if it's not within their preferences.... Hmm idk... I'm new here on this site and in the US in general, but that's why I'm into hiring, I don't like getting rejected the grindr way.. Technically we're not in a dating situation.... It's just so weird... 

Hope these guys visit NY soon 😭