Suggestion: filter search providers identify as T or VT or V. Further peruse each filtered profile, elimate anyone extra well endowed (to your liking, but would suggest go with 7in or 7,5in and not too thick), further elimanate anyone advertise as 'alpha' or 'dominant', and lastly pick providers you are attracted with and list each of them in this post with hope someone here might be able to provide 411 on any of them (best would be 411 post on each provider separately, with clear subject name).
You will likely get more response this way.
IMO easier to find a gentle top than a hardcore one. But to be safe, just tell the providers directly on what you want.