Ah, actor, I read your initial post and thought how right you were. The language didn't not put me off (I scarcely noticed it, having become inured to rough speech) until I read what others have said. Going back and re-reading what you wrote, I understand the subsequent posters point. Nevertheless, it does not diminish the fundamental truth of what you have said. Thank you for your honest rant - you sound like someone I would like to know. I wish we could stick this post at the top of the Lounge - we all need a little reminder about this serious business of aging and how to have a perspective on it that is affirming.