ralphwinter

I would agree that the reviews at RM are worthless, or at least not of great value. This thread was a real eye-opener. It never made any sense to me why almost all the reviews at RM were five stars. How could that be? That would be statistically impossible. Even if a provider was really good, most customers would rate them as four stars or five stars, but never five stars 100% of the time. But now it makes sense. RM removes the bad reviews or anything less than five stars. I guess if even few less-than-five star reviews make it through the censors, it is an indication that the service of the provider is variable. And the number of reviews is an indication of their longevity or number of customers. I have found this website (Companyofmen) to contain much more useful information. Thank you to whoever hosts or owns this website. You provide a valuable service that is not offered by RM or any of the other escort services.

Kxev---Thank you for sharing. I totally agree with those who say that for some CNC is acceptable and healthy. Getting raped is not an uncommon fantasy for gay men. But I also want to validate your experience because so few others have and because I do not think your experience is isolated. I know men who have CNC fantasies and try to live them out and they are rooted in real life abuse (for example, repeated rape of his 10 year old self by his drunk dad). For these people turning away from the CNC fantasies and cultivating mutuality in relationships, finding pleasure in sex that is not abusive is healthy for them physically, emotionally, psychologically and spiritually. For the sub, CNC can lead one to very dangerous men and permanent physical damage. As the Dom, he can cross the line into real rape and assault and psychological trauma in the search for a greater thrill. I'm glad that you realized CNC was not for you and have taken a different path.

He is unreliable. I texted him with my interests (pulled directly from the list of interests in his profile ). We agreed that I would rent a room at a hotel in city X in SE MI. I confirmed our meeting the day before because I had to drive 1 1/2 hours one way to city X. Right before I got to the hotel, I texted him again double-confirming our meeting place, time, and our activities, at which point he unilaterally backed out. He said he actually preferred to meet in city Y, 30 minutes away (after him telling me to rent the room in city X), and suddenly some of the items on the activities menu were things that he said were clearly off-limits to him (after he had no problem with them when I mentioned them in my very first communication to him, and they were items on the interest list in his profile). There was no, "Can you drive a little further to this other city which is more convenient to me?" or "Can we just do items a and b on the activities list rather than items a, b, c, and d?" I would have gladly done it "his way", but the door was just slammed shut. His prerogative of course, but that makes him a game player and time waster and dishonest. He was very polite about it, but the result was the same nonetheless. The most charitable review is that he is a poor communicator and doesn't read his text messages carefully or think twice before agreeing at first to meet. It cost me the drive time and gas to Southeast Michigan and several days of high hopes and planning to get there to meet him.