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Beautiful skin art. Nice to see a well decorated temple.

Beautiful body art too!

It's interesting, missionaries and colonial pioneers actively tried to eradicate long-standing body modification and spiritual tattooing traditions in Indigenous communities around the world, viewing them as markers of savagery and inferiority.

Here are actionable strategies to shift the safety burden off your shoulders so you can get back to enjoying your parties. 1. Appoint a Co-Host or "Vibe Watch". The Fix: Recruit one or two trusted, regular attendees to act as designated co-hosts or safety monitors for specific shifts.The Benefit: Knowing someone else has eyes on the room allows your brain to switch from "manager" to "participant." Implementation: Offer them free entry, special perks, or simply appeal to their desire to keep the space safe. 2. Standardize a "Buddy System" for Newcomers. The Fix: Pair younger or newer attendees with experienced, vetted regulars for their first hour. The Benefit: This decentralizes the vetting and protective monitoring from you to the community. Implementation: Frame it as a welcoming committee rather than a surveillance measure. 3. Establish Clear, Shared Community Agreements. The Fix: Create a short, explicit code of conduct regarding age gaps, consent, and predatory behavior that every attendee must read and agree to before arriving. The Benefit: Clear boundaries empower the entire room to self-police and speak up when something feels off, reducing your workload. Implementation: Send this out via your event's group chat or email invite, and do a quick 2-minute verbal announcement before the party shifts into sexual energy. 4. Schedule Your "Off-Duty" Time. The Fix: Divide your event into structured blocks. For example, act as the host for the first two hours, then officially hand off the keys to a trusted co-host for the next two hours. The Benefit: Clear time boundaries allow you to mentally clock out and fully immerse yourself in the physical experience without guilt. 5. Invite me, I'll help 🙂

It's so delicious that we are using The Old Man in the Sun painting by Mariano Fortuny to represent an ugly old man. The painting itself is gorgeous. You can see it for yourself in Madrid. It's literally about honoring the beauty of the male body when it is not young and fit. Can you see how blissed out the undressed old man is. He is divine, almost literally. For me the debate is not about whether a hooker can turn down an old man. The big question is what kind of aging queen do you want to be? One who let's the world make you feel useless ugly depraved and worthless? Or do you want to be a blissed out old man who's happy to just be in the sun with his shirt off and imagine a world in which people admire and cherish him? Remember, every time someone posts a 411 asking if you've met an escort, and you respond by saying "he's too skinny" or "he's too old" or "he's just a pathetic photoshopped bottom well past her prime" what you are really doing is throwing up a shield around your own heart to protect yourself from the pain of hearing the comments directed at you. Choose to love yourself. This world says you are slowly becoming more worthless. You are not! You are amazing. Love you guys.

Curious, has anyone here been a sub or dom (paid or unpaid) where the word f@g was used as a slur. It can be insanely hot to some guys. And I'm so happy for that.

When I'm traveling I use #2 with a healthy dose of kindness and honesty... "Hey there! Saw your ad on RM under "MonsterBussy2000". Love your pics and appreciate your playful listing. I'm looking to hire you for a 2- hour session Saturday evening around 8pm. I'm not 100% sure about my schedule yet, but wanted first to see if you might be available to host and ask what your 2 hour rate is. Looking forward to sharing more details of what kind of session I'd like to have with you. Talk soon sexy!" And I'll send that to my top three or four candidates.

Fair warning to everyone who escorts and everyone who hires escorts... "eventually this kind of playing-with-fire habit is gonna get you behind bars." Hiring people for sex is "not a lifestyle that most civilized countries tolerate. " The laws criminalizing us are fucking disgusting. Revolution might be our best hope. https://cbs12.com/news/florida/29-arrested-operation-county-line-prostitution-sting-jacksonville-sheriffs-office-intercept-task-force-clay-county-sheriffs-office-human-trafficking-world-cup-florida-news

I was lucky enough to $pend time with him when he was in SF. Without going in to too much detail (i don't want anyone's pearls to snap off) he trained me how to do certain acts in bed that i still enjoy to this day. He's a sweet, beautiful, talented man.

Totally part of the appeal!!!! Ahhh remember high school?! I wish i was getting hired by sexy older men back then!!

And not to veer the conversation too far back on topic but this dude's ad is chef's kiss! And he even shows ID! Let me know if you've been with him.... https://rent.men/Yourlocalbottom And thank you too all the guys DMing on topic!

There is an undercurrent of revulsion here to the scenario of a 50-year-old man having sex with a 16-year-old boy. And I'm not giving you legal advice here, but if you're in Michigan or one of 30 other states and a 16 year old boy on his birthday shows you his ID and proves that he's 16 and you see his birth certificate and you absolutely know that he's 16 and he wants to sit on your dick then you absolutely legally can. It is probably very dangerous to hire him because then you run afoul of a lot of other server laws. Some of you might be disgusted by the image of a 16 yr old boy and a grown man, but trust me this whole forum bathes in things that a majority of Americans think is pretty disgusting and unethical. I think it's okay to cast stones sometimes because I hate false equivalencies. But I think it's important to not fear monger. Being disgusted with each other is of course acceptable and indeed commonplace on this board. Further reading.... https://okeefelaw.net/sex-crimes/age-consent-michigan/

You do all know that the age of consent is 16 in the majority of states in the United States. Right?

Years ago my therapist and I worked on a similar issue. He really helped my recognize that for many gay people, people-pleasing stems from growing up in environments where acceptance felt conditional. It is a survival mechanism—often called a "fawn response"—developed to stay emotionally and physically safe by predicting others' moods, hiding authentic feelings, and avoiding potential rejection. Hiring escorts, as opposed to regular hookups actually helped me get more comfortable asking for what i want. I still have a few survive memories of providers essentially saying "eew no!" But it's gotten better in my head.

Fuck Fascism! Rise up! Scholars like Robert Paxton emphasize that fascism relies on a "compensatory cult of unity" and the subordination of individual interests to the state. So for example any legal behavior, lifestyle, or cultural practice that falls outside the rigidly enforced norms of the state can invite harassment or violence from both the state and civilian informants.

You're right I could ask. But if they say "no stalker I'm not showing you my effing ID, are you effing stupid?!?" Then what?

Luckily, it's not an affirmative defense in California. Meaning the accused doesn't bear the burden of production or proof. Innocent until proven guilty baby! Gotta love at least that part of this 250 yr old country.

I love the screen name. Brilliant word play that works on multiple levels. Pretty guy. Pretty big guy. Big guy. Big Afro guy. Mix because he's Colombian.

Not sure how I'd go about seeing valid ID, but in California at least actual and reasonable belief that the person is over 18 is a defense if they turn out to be younger. The hiring part is actual the more illegal thing. But I guess most of us on here are law breakers.

I'm in California, but travel around the US.

Exploring a dad son kink recently and was wondering if you all could recommend any US based (US raised probably) providers who look under 21. As long as they are over 18, their actual age doesn't matter. Age shaving is fine as long as the look the part. Looking for providers who were "a good boy" for you. Thanks!

So many new beautiful Black men. ❤️‍🔥

I just finished an hour with Apoloman at his hotel in San Francisco. What follows is an unnecessarily long and detailed thought dump. Short version: He is beautiful, fun, and great in bed. One of the top five providers I have hired in my 25+ years of hiring (out of 150+ providers). Are his pictures accurate? Yes, except he is not as shredded. He is still breathtakingly beautiful, has abdominal muscles, and a very built body! You can tell he works out 5-7 times per week. But if you explicitly want him at the extremely low body fat percentage he is showing in his pics, you’ll have to wait for his next deep cutting cycle. As for his face it is exactly as pictured. It is rare I get romantic about providers, but him looking into my eyes and smiling at me is surreal. It is like getting with one of those Calvin Klein model I have always fantasized about. He looks 28 as listed in his profile. Is he friendly? Yes. I asked if we could start by talking and he was comfortable answering my open-ended questions about things he had put in his profile. I am a huge fan of porn where the cameraman/director is talking to the beautiful star as the star undressed and strokes. I did that with him, and he was very fun to talk to. He smiles and even told a few jokes. I confess my dream guy is a sweet humble sexy midwestern corn fed American boy. Apolo (that is not the name he goes by in person so feel free to ask him and he’ll share what to call him) is from Argentina and English is his second language. If you try to have a long conversation with him, he will occasionally not understand or use the wrong word, but he is sweet and self-confident about it. If you are an immigrant to the US or grew up with them, I suspect you’ll have no problem making yourself understood. We shared some detailed fantasies and memories with each other, so don’t be shy if you like that kind of stuff. Any weird vibes or hiccups? None. The initial text communication was effortless. He shared with me that he often goes to bed at a reasonable hour and wakes up at a reasonable hour, so your midnight texts might not be answered until the next day. I shared with him my general stats without him asking and he did not ask for a picture or deposit or anything unusual. When I got there, he did not ask for money up front and offered me water. He did not watch the clock, but I did. I generally don’t like to overstay the hour, but he was telling a me a story and so I ended up leaving a few minutes later that the allotted time. He asked for $400 and I paid in cash, plus tip. He said Venmo would have been fine too. And he’ll tell you what hotel he is staying in. You can check out the reviews. I’ve been to it numerous times with other providers. It is clean and cute. What about the actual time spent in bed? Divine. I don’t know what is allowed on this forum so if you have questions about his stamina, performance, positions, endowment, hygiene, etc. please DM me. But I had no complaints in any of those departments. His profile said “ask me” on the topic of protection and I did because I don’t enjoy condoms and don’t use them with providers. We discussed the whole active/passive thing, and we synched up perfectly in that regard. My nipples are sensitive, I showed him the pressure I like and he tended to my chest expertly the whole session. What if I want him to take control and ravish me? I don’t know, we didn’t do that. But we talked about Dom Sub stuff, and he confidently shared with me that he can Dom. He doesn’t do “crazy” stuff. Stigmatizing language aside, I think you can lovingly and directly ask if he will do something with you and he’ll let you know. Nothing surprising was on his “crazy” no-fly list. @Chancealot mentioned that Apolo ghosted him. Chancelot has been on the site for 4+ years with 400+ posts. I don’t know him, but I trust he is a good human and his experience alone kept me from even considering Apolo for a long time. I don’t think we are the measure of our worst day on the job (I have no idea if Apolo ghosts often or just that once) and so I decided to give Apolo a chance. And who am I kidding, the possibility of him being real was too much of an incentive for my heads and heart. My guard was up the whole way over to his hotel, but evaporated within 2 minutes. What Apolo did to Chancelot is not ok, and so far, Apolo has treated me with kindness. Is @Dinoes glowing review fake? I dunno. Like many of the folks on here, I don’t usually pay any attention to reviews from clients who join, post, and leave. But my experience was consistent with the Dinoes’. Well except I was not passive with Apolo in any of the connotations of that word. Why is he in Cleveland or New Jersey or Delaware or some small market? I feel silly now that I asked him this. Like I was waiting to catch him in some suspicious answer. Anyway, ask him if you care. It is a very normal reason. Nowadays when he is NYC, SF, DC or whatever big market he is for hire. @montroyal mentioned that Apolo was “Very standoffish, no personality.” I don’t know Montroyal and I can say that Apolo was lush with personality during our hour. With me he was not “bitchy” (sorry for the misogyny in that, but there is not a good synonym) or distracted. I hired him on a mild sunny Sunday SF afternoon; I was the first client of the day (not the last of the day he let me know) and maybe I just got lucky. But know that if you also get lucky, you’ll meet a sweet sexy funny genuine man. Why the fuck did you write all this? I think it is because I was so ready to believe he was fake or mean or disappointing. The hurt part of myself was banging around pretty loudly telling me to not waste time. But another part of me took over the executive function and urged me to give it a try. I’m 53 and still excited for what life has to offer, but it is not just going to come sit in my lap, I have to go find it and put it in my lap. I hope you hire Apolo and I hope you have a blast. And if a part of you is scared or jaded, I hope it goes well and I hope he helps heal that part just a little. And of course, DM me for the naughtier bits. Love you guys!

I've met him a half dozen times and he's one of my favorites. Great body and a pleasure taking and receiving. Sweet and adventurous. A very punk vibe which i didn't realize I'd love until we were cuddled up together talking. He really is a surfer and has lots of other fun interests. He's got a really down to earth artsy masculine vibe. Hope you guys get some time with him. https://rent.men/Surfer_XXX