ThroatCummer

I'm going to write you guys a story here that's very applicable to these forums that I have refrained from telling. Mostly because you don't want to give everyone hope and my situation is probably pretty unique and rare. Backstory: I'm a 47 year old gay guy who had never hired before or considered it up until about four years ago. I am very masculine and cool and comfortable. For reference, a bigger guy (5'11, 255#) but carry it well. Handsome face and usually attracted both women and men. I'm not fucking paying for sex is what I always thought. Spent my life in IT and rode the crypto wave a decade ago. I founded my own company and built it with my then partner at the time. It was crazy successful but tore us apart emotionally. We separated and I moved out. When the company was crashing down and almost bankrupt, I was drinking every single day and didn't leave my house for a week. Didn't shower and shave. I was a mess. For many reasons, I lost all my friends. I had lawsuits against me and couldn't go hang out at the bars. My lawyers said I couldn't talk about everything and my entire social world was with my partner. If I walked into a bar, people would be like "how's work? how's your partner?" and I just had nothing. So I stayed home. After a month or so of this, I wanted a person. Someone to just hold me and tell me life would be okay and to just have raw sex with and unload everything in my balls as much as possible, because at least that would feel good for the moment, right? Escort: So I jump on Rent Men. $300 per hour. Had a guy come over. It was decent, I got off, and he went away. Not great not bad. Tried it a second time, same thing. At least I had someone with a pulse. Third time, I was in New York city which is amazing for escorts and I decided okay, let's do this the right way. I have a list of 20 requirements I want. Handsome as fuck, masculine, square jaw, deep voice, a body like you just walked off a stage. Just raw dripping testosterone... and that's a little hard to find right. But that's when Trevor walked into my life. Paid for an hour. We met up and guess what? Didn't even have sex or get off. Just talked and I was too nervous and shy because I had never been around someone like him before. A day after we met up, he texts me and says "You know I do overnights, right?" and so I paid $2,400 for an overnight and it kind of changed my life. I had been a top my entire life and never got fucked, but this dude railed my lights out and I LOVED it. I didn't understand why or how guys bottom until him. So I go back to NYC and we do it again. Then again. After a few meetings, he basically looks at me and is like "What are you doing with your life?" -- I think he could see the depression and me not taking care of myself. My gut reaction was "I'm not paying you to question me like this!" but it sat with me. I kept thinking about the question. I wound up hiring him for a trip out of the USA as a 4th person for a group of three of us. It was a lot of money but worth it. Fast forward a year and he actually made me a better person. I woke up in the morning and thought "What would Trev do?" so I hauled myself out of bed and showered and shaved and hit the gym. Then did it again. I realized that I am not just paying Trev for sex, but the value is flowing both ways. I'm getting more out of this then I am paying. Jose: So I am back in Boston and lonely. But I am doing better. I have more energy, I look better, and I see the sun and the good things and natural energy takes over in all my interactions during the day. I don't want or need a boyfriend or a relationship and that's why I was hiring, because they go home afterwards. But I am horny and bored on a Friday night. There's a new escort in town I haven't seen so I get him over for an hour for $300. He leaves but there was a real connection. I text him after and ask if he has plans the following night, and he said he can come back. I offer $2000 for the night. .... and he doesn't leave. We sit on the beach watching the sun come up together. He lives in Miami and says "Come to Miami and stay with me." Well wouldn't you know I had a conference in Miami that Wednesday, already had an Airbnb booked with work people, and flights planned. I say what the hell and take him up on the offer. I walk in the door to his apartment and it's clean, and comfortable, and feels like home. We spend the next week together each night. No payment. Nothing. Passionate sex. But more than that, an actual connection. I go home and tell him to come back to Boston and go to Ptown with me in two weeks. One year later, I asked him how many people he invited to his house before. He said nobody. His house is his temple and he doesn't bring clients back. Fast forward almost two years and I am now living in Miami at his place. My company went bankrupt and I lost everything, and he's here paying the bills supporting us. He said "I don't care how much money you have, I would be happy eating a sandwich with you in the room with nothing" We are getting married soon. Lesson: I'm writing this to show people that escorts are also humans. Will this happen to others? Probably not. But beyond the business transaction, they are also people with their own problems, their own life, and their own desires. I happened to find someone who was single, available, open, and fell in love with me (although I didn't know it at the time). But at the end of the day, what really matters is will they be there for you when you have nothing and the money runs out? In my case, yes. He was there to pay some of the bills and give me a place to live. That's how you know it's genuine and authentic. As far as Trevor goes -- those types of escorts are just magic. You can pay for sex, sure. But sometimes you can get so much more if you open yourself up and let it in. It isn't always about sex. He and I still keep in touch. He doesn't escort anymore and is back in Canada living his fulfilling live off of Rent.men. He will be back at some point and if you have the chance to hire him (he is easily searchable on here), don't walk, but run at the chance. He's fucking awesome. So that's my story. It feels good writing it. Not looking for any validation, just something to share. Be good guys.

My partner is an escort and from Colombia and I am a gringo from Boston. When we travel back home to Cartagena to see his family, I literally let him do everything and I don't speak or negotiate. A cab ride for me is $25, for him the same cab ride is $5. lol It's amazing how economies and capitalism and humans work. No matter where we are or what the situation is...

My current partner is an escort and this is his world. We are putting some of that extra money into opening a business for him (I am an entrepreneur) because he has other skills and it's something he would wake up every day and jump out of bed to do. The depression (and drugs and lifestyle) is just too much and he's an amazing person.

You say EXACTLY what you just posted here in the first paragraph. After you've engaged and went back and forth once or twice, you write that. Any provider worth your money will have zero problems and will love to know that to make your experience better. One bit of advice is find someone over 30 years old. Generally speaking, and there are exceptions, these guys have the experience in handling all types and will make it worth every penny. Good luck!!

Boston also suffers from a lack of providers in general. Not may visit for work (as escorts) and there isn't much variety, especially for the size of the metro area, you would think it is more like New York or Miami but it really is not. I speak from someone who hired when I lived in Boston and could never find the right ones and also as someone who has a partner now who is an escort, so. He frequently will travel to Boston because the work there is good for him (very jacked late 30's latino) and he can make a lot in a short amount of time. So to any escorts reading this, go. The only issue is hotels tend to be crazy expensive so that will eat into profits a lot if you don't have a regular client base or pre-planned meetings.

YES! This is what I was trying to say.

I didn't say it the right way, you're correct. At least I think we're talking about the same thing. My point was that the supply and ease of doing this work in europe (and south america, asia, etc.) makes those rates much lower than the USA. You know how much fun you can have with the hottest guys in Rio for pennies on the dollar?

Yea, I have noticed and seen that European prices in general are fractions of what they charge here in the USA. Very good looking, very well established escorts, all for $150 to $200 per hour (USD) and sub-$1,000 overnights. Capitalism. Supply and demand. That's basically it.

I've born and raised and live (part time now) in Boston. $300 to $350 is standard nowadays. $2,000 for an overnight. Some will be higher based on their "status" if they're well known etc. I have found one or two lower around $200-$250 but they're locals who are a little hard up for work.

That's some magic sauce right there. Follow what this guy says and you'll have an amazing time. My favorite english teacher owned a couple golf courses and drove a brand new Mercedes 500SL Convertible. He taught my 9th grade english class for $23k per year because he loved to teach. My favorite escort has a government job and a pension and a ton of money. He does it because he has a killer body, loves to please others, and wants to share it.

To echo some of the comments above, I took one of my escorts on an overseas trip because I needed a companion -- sex was not the primary focus at all. I am the Founder of one of my companies. The CEO that I hired and his son were planning a trip to a specific country they hadn't visited before that I really, really wanted to go and see myself. None of my friends were around to make the trip last minute and it was going to be an epic adventure and three is just an odd number so we needed a 4th person. My regular escort who I had known for a while and done tons of overnights with was free so I asked him if he wanted to be the 4th in our group. The CEO and his son had no idea, they just though he was a friend of mine., This escort is really, really good and can get along and manage in any situation and the trip was a complete and total success. Comfortable all around, great times, a thousand pictures, it was freaking incredible. Yes, the escort and I had sex a few times during the trip, but the main goal was literally just to have someone to run off and do things with with the CEO and son were doing their own thing. So yea, it does happen. Also, this trip was to one of the last places on the planet where there is no modern stuff. Think: No Uber, no credit cards (Visa/MC don't work), no Google maps, nothing we all take for granted. You can probably guess it. To your question: We negotiated a rate that was much lower than his hourly or overnight. I was offering up the opportunity to see a country that hardly any Americans ever get to visit, and we had built a rapport over time where we were comfortable enough with each other that it wasn't "work, work, work, sex, sex, sex" all the time. It was legit a life adventure. Some people would spring at the chance and do it for free just having the flights/hotels/expenses paid. I did all that and gave him some on top. It was mutually beneficial to us both and a great business transaction with lasting memories. It was very helpful that we liked the same things like going to the gym, having some similar interests, and common stuff to talk about. It was like having a best friend along for the ride... and CEO and son to this day still ask about him. LOL

You're not thinking about intangibles. There are plenty of escorts out there who receive weekly or monthly deposits in their bank accounts just for texting and talking and sharing pictures of their daily life. Don't underestimate the number of people will pay to have a pretend boyfriend.

I can tell you about three: 1. Immigrant. He does it as a way to supplement his income for family purposes. All of his extra money goes back overseas to his family and he recently paid in cash for a huge 4 bedroom house for his mother and his brothers and sister in his home country. 2. Born and raised citizen. He has a very, very good government job with a big salary and benefits and a pension. He does it as a way to supplement his income to travel the world and buy those little "extras" that even a job like his full-time job would never allow. Think: second vacation home, bigger retirement nest egg, and a boat. 3. Immigrant. He does it to work less hours. He had regular average paying jobs here in the US, but was only getting by after paying all his bills and expenses in a high cost of living city, but it required busting his ass working on his feet more than 60 hours per week. Escorting allows him to match the salary of his legit work but only put in a fraction of the hours he would otherwise have to work, thus more free time to pursue hobbies and non-work stuff. Why work 5-6 days a week for 10 hours a day when you can work 2-3 days a week for 4-6 hours a day? All three of them don't "need" this type of work so they can be very picky about the clients they engage since they have non-escort options to make money and sustain their living. For all three, I would consider them "people pleaser" types who truly get off on making others happy and building connections. That makes all of them really, really phenomenal escorts. That help?

LOL. True. See most think they're for people, but they're really for information and products. (This is my wheelhouse) If I invent the new iPhone, and I am Steve Jobs, and I am shopping it to AT&T and Verizon and Motorola and suppliers or whatever, I have them sign NDAs. So if they take the secret and make their own, I can sue them and own half their company. That's really what an NDA is useful for. It's useless when it comes to sex and people -- in general. Sure there are exceptions and we can debate that all day.

That's what most people don't realize. NDAs are meaningless unless one of the two sides has tens or hundreds of millions to lose. lol

This is a great discussion and love @Simon Suraci's comments here. What I think we need to remember is that escorting is like any other business. There is someone selling a product and there is a person buying the product. The sellers (escorts) are like Amazon and every other business. Their customers review them, they get stars, written reviews, and their reputation needs to be impeccable in order to stay in business. They need to touch (pun intended!) reach customer in the right ways to make them come back. Word of mouth is everything as well. But individual customers are never reviewed by Amazon or Target or the restaurant down the street. Other than the airlines, there is no master database of blacklisted customers somewhere. Yes, Amazon can ban a customer or a restaurant can refuse to service. But the other restaurants in town all still needs business, so they aren't going to turn away a paying customer just because that customer had a problem with another restaurant. Each business will form its own opinion on each customer that walks in the front door. Yes, if a person decides to fuck with every restaurant in town, they will eventually run out of places to eat and word will get around. But make no mistake, one of these is the service/product provider and one of these is the person paying. Amazon, restaurants, the barber shop, or escorting. It's no different. Mr. Number can help escorts decide not to engage a person but it's 1000x easier for the customer to get a new number than it is for an escort to change their entire business name, profile page, reviews, and location. It kind of sucks to read but it's just the reality.

It means you have something he wants. Does he have something you want? Talk and figure out the answers to the questions above.

A few weeks ago, I found BTR on the AS and we were able to make it NRES along with LOQ. It was PRLD.

How do you handle this? Do you always ask this question before you quote a rate? When quoting a rate, do you say: $300/hr condoms, $350/hr bareback? Typically the BB question, in my experience, comes up after rate and dates or time is settled and sometimes even in person and not beforehand. If someone tried to add $$$ to their quote/rate after the fact, I would be really turned off. If this is truly your policy, and that's your choice and completely fine, I would expect that your profile description mentions the fact you charge extra for bareback.

I'm like 95% top and like getting my dick sucked more than anything in the world, like legit my favorite thing ever. That said, you put the right dude in front of me and I'll suck his cock for an hour like my freaking life depended on it.. Depends on the energy and the swagger in general, it's not even looks dependent sometimes.

As someone who has travelled out of the country with a few guys and had it go really well, here's some questions you need to discuss before you go anywhere: 1. What time do you normally wake up and go to sleep? Are you a morning person or night-owl? 2. When do you generally like to go to the gym, mornings, mid-day, afternoon? 3. Do you eat three square meals a day or just one huge one and when is that? 4. What interests you about [travel destination]? Is there something you want to do there? 5. Should I take the lead on making all the plans or do you want to be a part of it? 6. Do you have a contact in case anything bad happens to you? (This is crazy important; I went to a really disconnected mostly third world country with one of my guys -- a place where if he was put in the hospital I couldn't even make a phone call without making it a huge issue) Those are just some to get you started. There's more, but it's a good base.

I want to dislike this and want to poke holes in it, but it is really true. I think everyone should be who they are and just forge a path through the world as best they can and be supported by others. Love, family, all of it. Respect each other and leave everyone you meet in a life a little better than you found them. But I still want that big, built, deep voiced, testosterone dripping, alpha dawg who doesn't give a fuck and just wants to spread his seed everywhere. That's hot and that's never going to be not hot. 🤣

I'll keep that in mind. Not really looking for short and fat though. Want big and muscular. Know you, someone who will start throwing punches and kick my ass if I get their pronouns wrong. That's kinda hot.

Yes, he is reaching out to get more business. That's normal and okay in some regards although some clients hate it. Your appearance should NOT matter. In fact send him a pic of you now and make a side comment "I have a lot more hair now than when we met before - hope that's cool" and he should be fine. If he isn't, then he is someone you don't want anyway. You're overthinking this. If you want to see him again, do it. edit: I meant to say appearance should NOT matter. Added NOT.

No. Instagram doesn't have geo-location searching since it's not really for that. Even if you search a city name in the search, it will only pull accounts with that word in the profile name. So not sure if there is another solution but out of luck on that one.