Escorts And Confidentiality

[BluDay]

I'd tell my priest (if I had one) or lawyer about it, not my escort.

 

Priests and lawyers have legal protections for cases when they are told of illegal activity, and clearly defined rules for when they have to report them. Escorts do not have these protections.

 

I also wonder (since I really don't know, I'm not an attorney) if, since reveling how they know of the confessed illegal activity would be incriminating themselves, can that be a 'protection'. I honestly have no idea of how the law would view that case.

[+ glutes]

The few times that a professional shared with me any information about his experiences with other clients, it was in a way that it was impossible to me to identify who he was talking about, and it was always from concern, never bragging or gossiping.

 

We have an escort who identifies, brags and gossips.

[+ José Soplanucas]

We have an escort who identifies, brags and gossips.

 

I am sure we have more than one. Those are the ones I do not hire.

But thats exactly my point. We are back to easily bitching on the pros, instead of examining our own practices.

[JTtorretto]

Kevin Spacey instead of preying upon the innocent but not wanting to come out he could have hired an escort.

 

What is the policy of escorts here regarding client confidentiality?

 

 

Whos ever said that Mr Spacey was NOT “hiring escorts”?

[+ Avalon]

Whos ever said that Mr Spacey was NOT “hiring escorts”?

 

My point was that instead of attacking the innocent, Spacey could have hired escorts. But it seems he prefers those younger than 18.

[HotWhiteThirties]

The few times that a professional shared with me any information about his experiences with other clients, it was in a way that it was impossible to me to identify who he was talking about, and it was always from concern, never bragging or gossiping.

 

Always when we talk about confidentiality in our hobby, we discuss escorts' indiscretion. I am glad that @Keith30309 brought to the table the other side of the coin. I think it is much interesting a conversation about clients' discretion. The limits for the escorts are pretty clear and the practice is, I think, pretty solid. If an escorts trespassed those boundaries, I am sure he would be burned alive here. However we clients are sometimes sharing extremely personal stuff about the professionals. The one thing that is broadly respected is discretion on their real names, as mentioned before. But besides that we are sharing all the time information that is not directly related to their professional performance, it is as though we are auditioning them not as sex workers but as perfect human beings and honest citizens. Are we fostering an unfair double standard?

 

I think that's nice and all, and I certainly agree with mutual respect with regard to client and provider. No question at all.

 

However, I do not think that the participants are coming from an equal standpoints to begin with, and therefore the standard can't be the same, and thus can't be uniformly applied.

 

The provider accepts numerous risks, no doubt, and should take all appropriate precautions. They accept payment for their time and assume responsibility for their persona, and should also have mind to be careful of the details they are willing to share with a client. They assure discretion and should rightly be held to such a standard. Not only erring on the side of discretion, in my book, but defaulting to it entirely. Why? Because in this case they are the professional, and are being compensated as a professional. (It's no different than in any other business - of which I own one - as the provider of my service the standard to which I am held is much higher than that of my customer - and rightly so. I accept it as part of my business.)

 

The client on the other hand comes from a myriad of backgrounds with a variety of experiences and perhaps limited understanding of how things work - or extensive understanding . This is the burden and risk that the provider must accept. The clients are not considered the professional, and to expect the same standard of the client as the professional, while certainly considerate, can't possibly be expected. It's simply not an equal starting point in my view. Consider that many providers appreciate and benefit from reviews by their clients. They are basically asking the clients to share details of their encounter with others. The provider's photos and other details are in the public domain.

 

All I'm saying is that, for me personally, absolute discretion and confidentiality are a requirement that I expect of the provider. And that is not an unreasonable expectation as they have been compensated in part to make themselves available to me confidentially. And while I certainly adhere to those concepts concerning those who I compensate for their time by not blabbing the details I may learn about them during our time, I don't think they can expect every client to behave in the same way. It's an occupational hazard for the provider, so to speak. At least that's how I see it.

 

But, what do I know ?

[TruthBTold]

Obviously there is nothing that is like the immunity that can apply to clergy, spouses, or doctors. The only thing that both clients and escorts have is trust and as others have noted that builds up over time. There are a couple of gentlemen whose real names I know and they know mine. On my part, I have the utmost confidence that that trust will ever be broken, unless we both know the reasons for it. For example, there was a time that I had to divulge the escort's name because of hotel concerns. However we both knew that there were going to be no repercussions as a result of it. And we knew that a hell of a lot of fun would be sacrificed because we did not minimally give our real name.