Not providing services agreed

[+ JEC]

Met with a provider a few months ago now, we communicated (I thought) completely and clearly before our meeting....but he did not provide the services agreed.

 

I'm all top and was looking for bottom....after email exchanges agreed to 2 hours. I was at a hotel in my home town due to a work thing that weekend requiring me to stay close to the office.

 

Provider showed up and said he can't bottom because "I'm not clean down there". He was also more effeminate than his "jock" profile, and was wearing heavy (gross) cologne.

 

Since I was at a hotel in my home town and near work I did not want to make an issue or have something potentially turn into a scene, so I went with the flow, got some oral....but otherwise could not wait for the time to end.

 

What would you do if a provider did not provider the services agreed to up front?

[Guy Fawkes]

Hand him two fleet enema bottles and point him to the bathroom. If he declines, invite him to leave.

[marylander1940]

Met with a provider a few months ago now, we communicated (I thought) completely and clearly before our meeting....but he did not provide the services agreed.

 

I'm all top and was looking for bottom....after email exchanges agreed to 2 hours. I was at a hotel in my home town due to a work thing that weekend requiring me to stay close to the office.

 

Provider showed up and said he can't bottom because "I'm not clean down there". He was also more effeminate than his "jock" profile, and was wearing heavy (gross) cologne.

 

Since I was at a hotel in my home town and near work I did not want to make an issue or have something potentially turn into a scene, so I went with the flow, got some oral....but otherwise could not wait for the time to end.

 

What would you do if a provider did not provider the services agreed to up front?

 

Hand him two fleet enema bottles and point him to the bathroom. If he declined, invite him to leave.

 

 

Do hotels provide enema bottles? I don't know but I'm sure there was a nearby CVS or Rite Aid.

 

When it comes to his cologne, ask him to take a shower.

 

Was he too effeminate? Put a hand on his mouth.

[LaffingBear]

Or get up, put your clothes on,, and leave.

 

Time and again, I read about clients taking some perceived "high road" or acting out of fear of harm or embarrassment. Following through on sessions that they know will be disappointing. In reality, the manipulators and scammers are relying on your cooperation.

 

Really, what kind of scene could he make? Start screaming? If you're leaving, who'd notice your involvement. Is he going to call the front desk and say "Im a whore, and my John won't pay!" Call 911?

 

If you have genuine reason to be afraid of physical violence, pay and leave.

 

Ive had maybe six occassions to not follow through. Two were easy because the rentguy was disgusting. The other four generated that pit-in-my-stomach. I took a breath, and got the guy out. One required very minimal manhandling.

 

Dont choose to be a victim.

[Strafe13]

Or get up, put your clothes on,, and leave.

 

Time and again, I read about clients taking some perceived "high road" or acting out of fear of harm or embarrassment. Following through on sessions that they know will be disappointing. In reality, the manipulators and scammers are relying on your cooperation.

 

Really, what kind of scene could he make? Start screaming? If you're leaving, who'd notice your involvement. Is he going to call the front desk and say "Im a whore, and my John won't pay!" Call 911?

 

If you have genuine reason to be afraid of physical violence, pay and leave.

 

Ive had maybe six occassions to not follow through. Two were easy because the rentguy was disgusting. The other four generated that pit-in-my-stomach. I took a breath, and got the guy out. One required very minimal manhandling.

 

Dont choose to be a victim.

 

The OP was the one with the hotel room, so he couldn't just leave. But I otherwise agree with your sentiment that the escort in this scenario likely relied on the client's sense of politeness and decorum to get away with not performing as had been communicated to him.

[+ FrankR]

Met with a provider a few months ago now, we communicated (I thought) completely and clearly before our meeting....but he did not provide the services agreed.

 

I'm all top and was looking for bottom....after email exchanges agreed to 2 hours. I was at a hotel in my home town due to a work thing that weekend requiring me to stay close to the office.

 

Provider showed up and said he can't bottom because "I'm not clean down there". He was also more effeminate than his "jock" profile, and was wearing heavy (gross) cologne.

 

Since I was at a hotel in my home town and near work I did not want to make an issue or have something potentially turn into a scene, so I went with the flow, got some oral....but otherwise could not wait for the time to end.

 

What would you do if a provider did not provider the services agreed to up front?

 

Perhaps you could politely point out your previous agreement and suggest that you meet at a later time when he is ready. At this point you should be walking to the door to show him out and make it clear you would like him to leave. Clearly you won't agree to meet again as he has proven to be untrustworthy, but at this point your goal is to get him out of your sight. I am sure many of us have been there. Then, you do what I do: take two deep breaths, have a large brandy, admit to yourself that sometimes life sucks and write a review on this site so others don't fall into the same trap... We thank you in advance!

[LaffingBear]

The OP was the one with the hotel room, so he couldn't just leave. But I otherwise agree with your sentiment that the escort in this scenario likely relied on the client's sense of politeness and decorum to get away with not performing as had been communicated to him.

I have gotten the rentguy out of my hotel room twice and out of my home and my vehicle once each

 

So "get up and leave" was my poor choice of words for suggested actions. Perhaps "stand your ground" would have been better.