Mutual Touch

[Eddie Morales]

Hi everyone,

 

I haven't received my first massage yet but I had a question about mutual touch (when it's permitted). In your experience, how far will a masseur let you take it? I imagine it involves caressing their torso or butt as they massage you, but anything else? I know this would depend on the masseur obviously, but what if you lightly pinch his nipple? Or stroked his manhood? Is it appropriate to ask ahead of time? Also, would it be appropriate to touch them before the massage? Or ask them to let you undress him? Again, not to sound too naive, but I'm not sure yet what the etiquette of this massage world is haha. Thanks!

[desertguy1954]

The questions that you bring up, should be talked about with the masseur that you are wanting to hire. The amount of touching if allowed varies from each masseur.

[510guy]

I do ask if they are okay with mutual touch but don't ask all those questions you did. I like to see different masseur so I face this often. I just lightly touch them, when it gets to manhood I say do you mind. Sometimes they need to get into the mood or let it get into the flow and let it come naturally, he will give you hints oftentimes.

 

You will get a sense as to what they are okay with. My bit of advice is don't start out with grabbing and pulling. Some masseur during the massage prefer you to just lightly touch them as they want to focus on the massage, it might be more towards the end they allow more intimate touch. Don't over think it then you won't relax. Let it come naturally.

[+ Tarte Gogo]

Hi everyone,

 

I haven't received my first massage yet but I had a question about mutual touch (when it's permitted). In your experience, how far will a masseur let you take it? I imagine it involves caressing their torso or butt as they massage you, but anything else? I know this would depend on the masseur obviously, but what if you lightly pinch his nipple? Or stroked his manhood? Is it appropriate to ask ahead of time? Also, would it be appropriate to touch them before the massage? Or ask them to let you undress him? Again, not to sound too naive, but I'm not sure yet what the etiquette of this massage world is haha. Thanks!

 

I don't like discussing it, so I always go with light touches at first, and observing his reaction, until it is more obvious touching, and if/when he drops the shorts and shows you an erect penis, that is a pretty clear indications that you can touch it. Go light on it first.

 

If you want to suck his manhood, that is usually not part of the "default" mutual touching agreement, but he may put himself in a position where you clearly can do that. A few times, I started with a small kiss on it. That sometimes lead to a lot more, sometimes lead to him pushing me gently back on the table, his way to say no.

 

I am not into pinching, so I don't know how welcome that would be, I guess if you do anything that could hurt, even a little, you should discuss.

 

If at any point, he pushes your hands away, or withdraws from what you are trying to do, immediately respect that and stop. He shouldn't be embarrassed if mutual touching was mentioned, it is a regular thing for them to be with a naked horny client, he understands that the border between massage and sex is not very clear, and that is by design!

[JayJonathan]

This is a difficult question to answer as mentioned above because it really varies. I've had masseurs right across the spectrum - some that stay clothed and don't allow mutual touch, some that allow mutual touch but with very clear limitations, and others that go much further and border on an escort experience. Often you can get an idea from the ad, but sometimes you can't. I've seen ads with half naked photos and promise of an erotic experience, and then received a very formal massage from a fully clothed guy with no HE.

 

I will sometimes ask the masseur ahead of time what they wear for the massage and if they allow mutual touch. Normally though, I just go expecting a nice relaxing massage, and if more happens then it's a bonus. I generally let the masseur take the lead. If they remove their clothes, rub their dick against me etc., it's a pretty clear sign.

[Mydavid]

I never went to a pure therapeutic massage. All masseurs I met allowed mutual touch, and allowed me to touch their private parts. Just do it slowly and naturally, I was only refused one time when I tried to suck a guy, all masseurs I met were open-mind and friendly.

[Jose Anmo]

I almost always wait for "the sign". It can be anywhere from him placing his penis on your hand to shoving his dick in your mouth. Some will even climb on top and start rubbing their dick on your butt.

 

Other masseurs will plainly say you can touch me if your want.

 

I typically ask what the massage entails when I book. The ones that allows mutual touch are not shy to say sensual mutual touch nude

[Kody S]

All good advice from those who have weighed in. I let it unfold naturally. However one strategy is to ask on this site if anyone has had experience with the masseur you are interest in. If you ask, some guys (if they have had experience) will send you a private message with any details that may answer your questions.

 

I always want to respect the masseur. Many of the really good ones --in my experience--want to give you a good massage and not be excessively distracted by mutual play (that may come toward the end). So if the masseur allows more you will know it. There will hints here and there, a brush up against you, or a clue that says it's ok to touch. Of course there are always exceptions.

[samK]

I have hired a lot of massuers and love being massaged. It is so relaxing and feels amazing... even bad massages are good massages to me. Everyone shares valuable insight and information here and I hope this helps you navagate your way around M4M Massage.

 

The only thing I would add, is what I learned after chatting with many massuers over the years and that is if you are looking for more... then hire those who are out there doing more then massage. This way you can ask before or during and get whatever it is your looking for and sometimes even a good massage. Don't hire by attraction only and hope for something more or use sites like this to find out information about a certain massuers. All to many of them share horror stories of disrespect and rude clients that literally shock me.

 

I joined this site so I can find out more about a massuer before I hire them. Some massuers will reply "theraputic only" or "nothing sexual" and then try and get there P in your A. If that is not what you are looking for, it can be a little concerning. I am all about a hot guy massage me, but I personally am not looking for the extras. I have my 2 go-to's and sadly they travel around alot, so I am always looking for a stunt double. There are several to choose from, and I hope this site will help me narrow down my choices so I can just relax and enjoy my massage.

 

Like some of the guys shared before this comment, I have hired a few guys who I actually had to say "STOP" to and get off the table, as it was going places that I Never asked for or wanted. At the same time, there was one or two that I was totally okay with anything that happened, as I am a healthy gay male... but I was only looking for a massage, paying for the massage and I get a little pissed when I dont get my massage. So basicaly, set your own boundaires before hiring and have clear expectations as you move forward with your massuer and I suggest going into it with no expectations except what was discussed and just enjoy it. Massage is a wonderful thing (or hire from rentmen or sites that obviously offer guys selling everything and massage and have total control of getting everything you want and then some)

 

Hope this helps and I hope you enjoy your massage. Let us know, here on this thread, which massure you hired and how did your first massage go. Best!!