Mixed Review - How to deal with?

[KennF]

So, I gave someone, what I thought was, a mixed review. A 3 star review.

I would have liked to make it 3.5 but I didn't feel it was 4, and certainly not a 5.

 

RM reviews are limited, so when asked each question, I responded exactly how I felt. Did it happen.. yes.

Would I recommend... Probably not. ("Probably not" is not NO-I HATED IT.)

 

I felt like I wasn't the center of attention for the late afternoon encounter (he was very distracted by the game on the television). He made a couple of comments that made me totally body conscious. He stated that he didn't want to go to completion (halfway through) and when I asked it was because he had another client later that evening.

 

So, I felt I was giving an honest review.

 

The escort reached out to me. He startled me when he started with... "I'm sorry you had such a bad time" and "I thought we had a good time together".

 

I told him I would be happy to discuss it with him but to call me back the following day, since I was at work and couldn't discuss things at that moment. He immediately texted me and told me he was visiting my city again in two months and hopes he can make things better.

 

He didn't call me.

 

 

Help me out here.

 

I don't mind giving him feedback, but I'm not sure if he really wants it based on his lack of calling me back.

Is he expecting that we'll get together again? If so, what kind of expectations should I set?

 

Any feedback from you guys would be helpful.

[+ sync]

(he was very distracted by the game on the television). He made a couple of comments that made me totally body conscious. He stated that he didn't want to go to completion (halfway through) and when I asked it was because he had another client later that evening.

 

You were more than generous with "probably not." I encourage you to buck-up and move on, there are far greener pastures out there for you.

[adventurous old guy]

Oh gosh, I have a very different reaction. I give him credit for reaching out to you in a respectful way, rather than an angry or abusive one. The fact that he didn't follow up isn't great, but silence is hard to interpret. Maybe he got busy with something he had to prioritize -- or took a vacation -- or caught a cold -- or something else, you just don't know. I'd pick up from the candid tone of your last communication with a message to him offering him further feedback if he's still interested. If not move on. If he responds, gauge from there and be ready to say what you want if he offers you another session for free or some discount.

[adventurous old guy]

Oh gosh, I have a very different reaction. I give him credit for reaching out to you in a respectful way, rather than an angry or abusive one. The fact that he didn't follow up isn't great, but silence is hard to interpret. Maybe he got busy with something he had to prioritize -- or took a vacation -- or caught a cold -- or something else, you just don't know. I'd pick up from the candid tone of your last communication with a message to him offering him further feedback if he's still interested. If not move on. If he responds, gauge from there and be ready to say what you want if he offers you another session for free or some discount.

This is reminding me of recent experiences on United Airlines. I've heard people writing them off for the horrible way they treated that doctor from Louisville. Meanwhile, I'm catching a wave of great service from them -- waived change fees, free food and drinks on planes, pretty much anything I ask for within reason and their power they are eager to provide, hoping I'm sure to generate some good reviews!

[jawjateck]

When I consider a session as ok or blah or meh, I don't usually call for another round. And if it's a first meeting, regardless of the reasons or excuses, first impressions are very difficult to overcome....at least for me. Now, I'm not making any comment on what you should or shouldn't do, but I wouldn't sweat the review rating. You did your best given its limitations. Good luck and happy hunting!

[+ Keith30309]

So, I gave someone, what I thought was, a mixed review. A 3 star review.

I would have liked to make it 3.5 but I didn't feel it was 4, and certainly not a 5.

 

RM reviews are limited, so when asked each question, I responded exactly how I felt. Did it happen.. yes.

Would I recommend... Probably not. ("Probably not" is not NO-I HATED IT.)

 

I felt like I wasn't the center of attention for the late afternoon encounter (he was very distracted by the game on the television). He made a couple of comments that made me totally body conscious. He stated that he didn't want to go to completion (halfway through) and when I asked it was because he had another client later that evening.

 

So, I felt I was giving an honest review.

 

The escort reached out to me. He startled me when he started with... "I'm sorry you had such a bad time" and "I thought we had a good time together".

 

I told him I would be happy to discuss it with him but to call me back the following day, since I was at work and couldn't discuss things at that moment. He immediately texted me and told me he was visiting my city again in two months and hopes he can make things better.

 

He didn't call me.

 

 

Help me out here.

 

I don't mind giving him feedback, but I'm not sure if he really wants it based on his lack of calling me back.

Is he expecting that we'll get together again? If so, what kind of expectations should I set?

 

Any feedback from you guys would be helpful.

If I were in your shoes I would submit a written review with just the facts and then forget about it. If I had an experience where a professional was distracted by a ballgame on television I'd certainly not be interested in seeing him again so there's not much point in pursuing him to give him feedback he likely already knows.

 

I have talked only twice to guys about non-positive things I put in a review - both expressed sadness/dismay and offerred a chance to meet again. (I truly believe they were earnest and hearts in the right place but it would have been uncomfortably awkward for me and a happy, relaxed atmosphere would have been unlikely.)

 

It took a while for me to become comfortable sharing feedback immediately to a companion (instead of remaining silent then surprising him with a bad review) but I really think that's the best approach. I've found that most of the time guys are totally surprised that something wasn't going well and really wanted to fix things.