Prostate Cancer and a sex life

[sncalif]

Hi guys. I'm a prostate cancer survivor who's not having much luck with my sex life. I recently had a great evening of massage and oral (I climaxed quickly) with a hot guy but I couldn't stay hard enough for his enjoyment I'm sure, even with Viagra (50mg). Anyone with a simular experience have any suggestions. Can't really discuss with my doctor, not out to the world. Frustrated and looking for answers.x(

[+ Oliver]

>Can't really discuss with my doctor, not out to

>the world.

 

Yes, you can - doesn't make any difference. Neither am I and I've discussed it frankly and he knows I'm a widower. Maybe you should try a different med. Levitra works better than Viagra for me.

 

Isn't great to be a survivor? And you will find help. Besides, how do you know what his enjoyment was?

[taylorky]

why does your doctor have to know who your wanting to stick the wood to.

[Zippy]

> but I couldn't stay hard enough for his enjoyment

 

 

I wouldn't be so quick to say that you weren't able to offer him some enjoyment. I know a lot of guys really enjoy just making another guy get off. So, the fact that he was able to give you a very pleasant massage with oral and got you off, he probably had a very enjoyable time.... Don't worry about it. Sex is supposed to be fun!

[Rod Hagen]

Congratulations on beating the big C. I've seen lots of clients missing some, and often all, of their prostate. Medicines help, and maybe, like someone else said, Levitra is for you. In many of my clients' cases they've enjoyed becoming bigger bottoms. What's left of their prostate, they tell me, seems ultra sensitive, and that's easy for me, or whomever, to get to. Also, even if the prostate is entirely gone, that's not the only enjoyable element to getting fucked/fingered/explored. In addition to the gratifying mindtrip of taking a dick et al, the asshole ring itself is also pleasantly sensitive as is the skin on the inside.

 

And if all that doesn't get you hard, I don't think cockrings are unsafe. Good luck and have FUN!

 

p.s. Sorry if this posted multiple times.

[Guest]

I hate to say something which is perhaps obvious, but if you can't discuss it with your doctor, perhaps you need to find another doctor. Unless you live is some isolated village in Alaska (which I doubt from your handle), it should be possible. If Viagra 50 mg doesn't work, you have multiple options. First of all, be sure you take Viagra on an empty stomach, and at least an hour before sex. In other words, if you're having sex at bedtime, take the Viagra at least 30 minutes before dinner. Options include increasing the dose to 100 mg, trying an alternative oral agent (Cialis or Levitra), cavernal injections, urethral suppositories, vacuum-assist devices, and surgery. Most primary care physicians do not receive the reimbursement/time necessary for methods other than pills, so if pills don't work, you'll probably need to consult with a urologist.

[Guest]

I should also hasten to add that 19/20 prostate cancers found by PSA screening would never affect the life of the person whose prostate cancer is found. (Please note that I'm not saying this is how your prostate cancer was diagnosed) Prostate cancer is found in the majority of men who die of other causes (whose prostates are biopsied, of course). The United States Preventative Task Force does NOT recommend routing PSA screening, since it has not been shown to save lives or reduce morbidity (and may in fact increase morbidity).

PSA "screening" is popular with doctors and patients because it's as easy as checking a box for the doctor and a simple poke for the patient. No looking up someone's ass with a scope, no looking up a woman's box, and no tit-squeezing machine (screening tests which ARE recommended by the USPTF). Yet pre-test counseling for PSA test are usally sadly lacking in informing patients.

[Bilbo]

It's true that about 80% of the nerve endings in your anal area which enjoy stimulation are just outside the outer sphincter.

 

When practicing trancendtal sex with my Body Electric brothers, it is a maxim that a cock which is nearly hard feels what we are doing better than one which is totally hard. I think you're going one of the better directions you could go when you head towards erotic bodywork.

 

I have had prostate surgery survivors on my table who couldn't get hard, nor could they come out of a soft cock. They still enjoyed it. And So Did I! For one thing, an orgasm sort of ends that part of the session, doesn't it? And sometimes before I have had my fill.

 

Oops, that was what happened that you thought was a problem, wasn't it? Cumming too quickly. Hey, be glad that after prostrate stuff you can still come, period. And perhaps if you skipped the viagra completely ...? After all, you were taking it to encourage yourself to stay hard and then cum. Maybe it encourged you too much? And maybe it really isn't a problem if you don't stay hard the whole time?

[latlrnr]

I have a friend who is currently undergoing radiation therapy for prostate cancer. He would not consider surgery, due to the fear of losing his sexual abilities. If only I could have convinced him that lovemaking involves far more than "the act" itself. Authorities say that the sexual urges are from the brain, rather than the lower regions. Stop worrying. Realize and experience what lovemaking can and should be. Chances are that you will be happier, and that in this improved mental state, you will no longer be so concerned with performance and more able to enjoy the endless possibilities of making love.

[sncalif]

Thanks guys!! I really appreciate all the information, advice and support. :-)