Choice

[Trixie]

Here's a theoretical question, posed to me today... I thought I might pass it on to the Board... .

 

You're at a bar, Friday night, and there are two guys there whom you know from seeing at the gym. The first is your dream guy... he's hot as hell. Gorgeous, built, late twenties... if G*d asked you to make an ideal physical specimen, this guy is what you'd come up with. But, you've heard thru the grapevine that he

is a bit of a slut, is arrogant, likes to play unsafe, and is poz. Despite that, you can't help but melt a little every time you see him. And tonight, after six months of him being totally oblivious to your existence, he's flirting up a storm with you.

 

Also there, at the bar, is a guy who's about your age, maybe 5 or so years older. He works hard at the gym, but can't quite seem to get rid of the paunch. He's average looking, a touch of grey at the temple, nothing special... you've had a casual conversation with him once or twice... he's smart, and such a NICE guy. You know he's relationship oriented, and has been totally smitten with you for the past six months.

 

You've been horny as a goat for weeks now, and these are the two guys who

seem to be available tonight. If you're going to bring someone home, would it be A) the shallow adonis, or B) the boring but kind mensch?

 

Trix

[jackhammer91406]

As long as we are talking hypothetically here;

I think I would go for the guy who is interested in me. There was a time when i would only see the candy and go with that. I like to think I have more depth now. Anyway, that's my choice, someone who seems interested in me. It feels like it might have more to it in the long run.

[AaronScottDC]

Hey Trix,

 

I hate to be a party pooper and go outside the rules to answer your question, but I never was very good at coloring within the lines, anyway....

 

So, if I were to honestly answer your question, I would have to say, that given the choices that you provided, I wouldn't choose either one.

 

I would, instead, keep looking around for someone else for the evening. And, if I didn't find anyone that I thought was better than the two fellas that you offered, then I would just go home and have fun spankin' the monkey all by myself. I must say that I give a mean hand job and definitely enjoy pleasuring myself more than endangering myself with the likes of choice (a) or dealing with the possible infatuation of choice (b).

 

Now, if you said that (b) wasn't the type of guy who was looking for a relationship, but was very good at giving massages and offered to provide me with some soothing "release", then I would go with him in a heartbeat. (I love massages... both giving and receiving!) However, I am just not interested in a relationship right now and don't feel like playing games with guys who really are looking for the love of their life. Hence the choice to jerk off.

 

Aaron Scott DC

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[Guest Tampa Yankee]

Tonight: A

 

Tomorrow... let's get past tonight.

[+ deej]

Talk up B, get his phone number, and tell him A is pretty much a sure thing if he's up for a 3-way. }(

[noviceny]

Im with Aaron :neither

 

But if I had to (b)

[Trixie]

It's always amazing to me how many of the East-coasters are up at 3:00 in the AM! Whatever happened to beauty sleep?

Was it replaced by the Internet and 24-Hour Fitness?

 

Trix

[Trixie]

Aaron,

Going outside the rules is always the very best thing to do!

 

Trix

[Guest Tampa Yankee]

Mirror mirror on the wall...

 

WTF happened to it all? :o

 

>Whatever happened to beauty sleep?

 

Long after the beauty faded, it seems a bit superfluous.

[HotdadENYC]

WHY NOT talk to each one, buy each one a drink and find out (1) if the grapevine bears fruit (as far as the guy being poz) and (2) if the other guy is ONLY interested in a relationship and nothing more.

 

Consider yourself lucky. Two prospects are better than none. I guess you just have to decide if you want to go with either one of them.

 

If not, Aaron's advice about the handjob is right on target. I always enjoy a good self indulgence.

 

But, Aaron, I could ALSO use a good massage. Are you coming to NYC anytime soon?

 

Regards

 

hd NYC

[guyinsf]

Hypothetically speaking, I think you might as well choose A since you find B a "boring" guy who's "nothing special" and whose body isn't sufficiently lean for you. B deserves better than to be led on by someone who has already decided he isn't worthy.

[HotdadENYC]

>It's always amazing to me how many of the East-coasters are

>up at 3:00 in the AM! Whatever happened to beauty sleep?

>Was it replaced by the Internet and 24-Hour Fitness?

>

>Trix

 

 

East coasters don't need beauty sleep !

 

 

LMAO

 

 

hd NYC

[JT Brooklyn]

Totally Agree with Aaron. Spanking the Monkey at the end of the evening, would be the best choice. Guy #1 The "Unobtainable" is the Challenge..BUT he does presumeably have Limits.. Guy #2 sounds like he definitely is Looking for more than a few hours of Fun. BUT If YOUR NOT, WHY START a situation that eventually would probably turn to a Hurtful scene, just so you could get "your" cookies off? OF course this is what you probably "would do" if you were, very young and had little experience in Life anyway! :+ :+ :+

[Athan]

All of you are caught in the illusions of Failure and Superiority.

No offense intended, of course.

 

There is no right answer here because there is no absolute right (or wrong for that matter). There is only "What works for Me" and "What does not work for Me".

 

So, in any moment of indecision it helps to ask yourself 3 questions, which will lead you to your answer: (1) "Who Am I?" (2) "Who Do I Want To Be?" (3) "What would Love Do?"

 

Answer these questions and your decision will become clear and the outcome will be in harmony with Who You Are.

 

Now, though this is simple, it is not easy.

First you must go through the proccess of defining your self. "Who Am I?" This requires a certain level of awareness and honesty. For if you lie to yourself then you lie to everyone. Just remember, Who You Are is not Who You Have Been. You are not governed by your past. You may be the result of your past, but your past does not have to govern your future.

Then you must decide "Who Do I Want To Be?" this is a bit easier, but requires more resposnibility. You must decide who you want to be and be aware of the potential consequences. You must see past your choices. Then decide what outcome you are willing to experience, but never invest in any particular outcome because that would lead to disappointment.

Finally, given Who You Are and Who You Want to Be...ask yourself "What would Love Do?". Love is who we are...it is what we are made of (according to my thoughts) so, in order to behave in a loving way you must ask What would Love Do as if Love was personified and would act a certain way...because in fact You Are the personification of Love...but you have forgotten because the Illusions of Forgettfulness is very potent.

 

So, take these three answers and you will have made your choice. No one can make your choice for you because the choices others will make are based on where they are in Life, Who they Are and Who They Want To Be. But, these 3 questions will help you to make your own choices based on You and You alone.

 

I hope this helps.

[Guest Tampa Yankee]

>BUT If YOUR NOT, WHY START a

>situation that eventually would probably turn to a Hurtful

>scene, just so you could get "your" cookies off?

 

Exactly.

[Casteran]

Well keeping in mind the situation is hypothetical and would "never" happen to me and as you state "horny as a goat" the answer is BOTH OF THEM - three ways can be fun too

 

"Don't judge me, I won't judge you"

[Guest skrubber]

The shallow adonis - for sure.