Keeping Things Spicy on Extended Engagements

[+ V-Vhitner]

Hey Guys - I'm a newbie but working hard to gain experience And I'm enjoying my homework so far!

 

I'm currently building a roster of boys for local fun - but, at the same time, also looking to identify the standouts for longer term engagements, like weekend getaways and longer trips...

 

On that front, any advice for keeping your boy(s) on his toes, attentive and working hard to please you during a multi-day engagement..?

 

Any guidance appreciated!

[jjkrkwood]

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[+ Keith30309]

I'd imagine that being attentive, engaging and equally interested in him would be the most effective approach.

Treating others the way I'd like to be treated works with most reasonable people.

[+ V-Vhitner]

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Which one goes where again? 0_o

[+ Truereview]

Which one goes where again? 0_o

Ay caramba! We all know the those blue pills are suppository. The Tabasco is best served on hot dog like shapes.

[slightly]

Keep tabasco consumption to a minimum....unless you're in to that sort of play.

[+ Truereview]

Now, to your question, I've enjoyed my fair share of extended engagements. What I've learned is that it all depends on what " speed " your escort runs. Some run on the speed that in a getaway, they are working. others believe they are your sidekick and buddy, while others just wanna do what they wanna do - no agenda, just go with the flow. Here is what I do:

• I get crystal clear on what keeps things spicy & engaging for me and I communicate that in advance
  
• I ask him what keeps it spicy for him - typically, they don't know how to answer that. Help him figure it out without being pushy. It may take him a few talks to land on it.
  
• We both get on the same page and we contract on keeping each other "real" about the spicy level
  
• I'm always prepared to enjoy non-spicy moments.
  
• I try to be ready for surprises: Sometimes the most intimate, sexually charged moments happen when you least expect it
  
• I then let go of the handle bars and just stop focusing on how to keep it spicy, and just engage in that conversation when only absolutely necessary.
  

Keep it fiery without obsessing about it during the time away. Welcome to the forum and may your times be filled with mucho fuego!

[Epigonos]

I STRONGLY recommend that you plan your "longer term engagements" with someone with whom you have already spent some time. First do a lunch or dinner engagement combined with a couple of hours of play time. Doing this first will allow both you and the escort to know, in advance, what to expect from each other and thus you will not have to waste time trying to figure each other out. Additionally you will be spending time with someone you have enjoyed.

[+ V-Vhitner]

Great advice. Thanks guys.

[dlee02]

Now, to your question, I've enjoyed my fair share of extended engagements. What I've learned is that it all depends on what " speed " your escort runs. Some run on the speed that in a getaway, they are working. others believe they are your sidekick and buddy, while others just wanna do what they wanna do - no agenda, just go with the flow. Here is what I do:

• I get crystal clear on what keeps things spicy & engaging for me and I communicate that in advance
  
• I ask him what keeps it spicy for him - typically, they don't know how to answer that. Help him figure it out without being pushy. It may take him a few talks to land on it.
  
• We both get on the same page and we contract on keeping each other "real" about the spicy level
  
• I'm always prepared to enjoy non-spicy moments.
  
• I try to be ready for surprises: Sometimes the most intimate, sexually charged moments happen when you least expect it
  
• I then let go of the handle bars and just stop focusing on how to keep it spicy, and just engage in that conversation when only absolutely necessary.
  

Keep it fiery without obsessing about it during the time away. Welcome to the forum and may your times be filled with mucho fuego!

Very sage advice from TR here. Having just come back from an extended trip with a companion, relaxing without obsessing is key. I do all my clear communication before hand in terms of my expectations and my desires, then during the actual trip I just relax and go with the flow. Sometimes shit happens and you won't get everything you want, obsessing will probably ruin the rest of the trip. The sex was hot and spicy but the most memorable times for me were from the non-spicy yet equally intimate moments.

 

Also, escorts are not machines, I think in an hourly situation, you can have the expectation that they be "on" for the entire hour, but in an extended trip situation, you can't expect them to be "on" 24/7. Offer them some alone time/personal time if they need to, so then the times you have together can be that much better.

 

I STRONGLY recommend that you plan your "longer term engagements" with someone with whom you have already spent some time. First do a lunch or dinner engagement combined with a couple of hours of play time. Doing this first will allow both you and the escort to know, in advance, what to expect from each other and thus you will not have to waste time trying to figure each other out. Additionally you will be spending time with someone who you have enjoyed.

 

Also agree strongly with Epi. For this past trip, I've been with this particular companion a few times and gone on an extended trip with him before. I chose him to go on trips with because I know how laid back and low maintenance he is. I also know that our personalities are compatible, and we seemed to genuinely enjoy each other's company. Since we know each other's preferences already, it was easy to spend an extended amount of time with him.

 

I would hate to choose someone for an extended trip/overnight only to find out he is a high maintenance drama queen

[+ V-Vhitner]

Yes...Sadly, I ruined a recent trip to Italy just this way with a little Latin model...

But now I have peeps! Thanks very much guys

[dlee02]

You wouldn't happen to be the older guy from the quote below in another thread, would you? ;):p

 

I was once on a flight from Amsterdam to Florence sitting across from an escort I recognized from his ads and his older companion. They were all lovey-dovey. Fast forward a week. Return flight and there they were again on my flight. The escort was decked out in Italian designer duds and had many shopping bags. They were again across from me and sat as far apart as you can in a pair of seats. Older dudes's body language said "get this over with, now."

[+ V-Vhitner]

LOL - No

It didn't work out - but we were ok about it. He still emails me though... I think it dawned on him months later that I was kinda a catch...

 

And btw, I'm on the younger side

[slightly]

LOL - No

It didn't work out - but we were ok about it. He still emails me though... I think it dawned on him months later that I was kinda a catch...

 

And btw, I'm on the younger side

I thought this might be linked too! Glad it's not the case.

[LADoug1]

Ask him what he'd like to do. Give him periodic alone time. He's a person not a machine. Get to know him prior to the extended hire. I agree that the quiet nonsexual times can be as intimate and pleasurable as the hot times in bed. Host him as you would anyone you'd invite to your home.