What to say...

[big-n-tall]

So there is a webcam and porn guy I'm really really interesting in seeing. As far as I can tell, he does not have an ad on any of the sites. However, he does have an email listed for "bookings" on his twitter page.

 

So what should I write to him? Usually, I have some notion of what to do. I think because I want so much not fuck up possibly meeting... I'm nervous about what to write... to ask if he escorts and if he would be willing to see me.

 

I guess I just need words of wisdom to get me out of my own head and stop the nervousness.

[+ azdr0710]

is the twitter "bookings" email the only means of communication you've found?

 

no words of revelation here, but....

 

if you haven't communicated at all, just try the ol' "you're looking great/good work/I admire your dedication/thanks for offering the shows"-type stuff......then see how he replies....

 

don't appear to be a creepy/hovering weirdo or stalker....

 

if he replies at all, be discreet and simply ask if he's open to low-key, respectful private meetings (I think you're SOL if he doesn't reply, but can try one more time after several days).....he may honestly ask what you mean by that.....I wouldn't use the word "escort" for this....then, without discussing money or specific stuff yet, you can step it up to mentioning private posing sessions/physique modeling or similar...say you're not a professional photog or agent, that you just admire guys in great shape.....

 

he may already have received previous offers and, therefore, will know how to proceed.....

 

if all is moving along, carefully say you'd be glad to compensate him for his time and always keep money talk away from other talk.....you/he may want to meet for coffee first (compensating him for his time, of course)

[+ Truereview]

I like Azdrs wise approach.

I'm going to take a slightly different path.

 

First, a visual directed at you,@big-n-tall:

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You, sir, know some of the finest escort & porn talent around.

I've been in awe of your expertise and savoir-faire

You can talk to any of these guys, and from reading your posts,

I know you've become friends and buddies with many of them.

Don't tip-toe around this. Be respectful, but be direct. Don't

overthink the approach. Grab that big shaft between your legs, and

adjust those big balls, and just trust you know how to handle this.

You know how! You've got this!

[+ azdr0710]

was thinking the same as TR as I wrote my little how-to post.....big-n-tall?.....asking US about how to approach this?....does he really need us to hold his hand and blow his nose?

[+ Truereview]

does he really need us to hold his hand and blow his nose?

No, he doesn't need us,

but he has our unwavering support

regardless of how it turns out.

BnT is one of the good guys.

We are cheering for a great outcome!

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[big-n-tall]

Thanks for the support. No, i don't need to have my hand held or nose blown , but sometimes... just sometimes I get hella nervous when approaching new/certain people. For some reason, this guy I got a bit nervous about.

 

I do appreciate the kick in the ass though. I just needed to hear/read it.

[Jock123]

Do it. You only live once. Worse that can happen is he says no/doesnt respoond. But at least You know You tried

[BabyBoomer]

Worse that can happen is he says no/doesnt respoond.

 

Isn't that what you do when forum members PM you asking for a link to your ad?

 

~ Boomer ~

[big-n-tall]

Do it. You only live once. Worse that can happen is he says no/doesnt respoond. But at least You know You tried

 

Oh, I did it. No response, as of yet.

 

Everyone doubts themselves about even minor things at times. I couldn't really tell you why I got nervous over this one particular guy. I mean I just needed a kick in the pants. Thanks @Truereview and @azdr0710.

[Epigonos]

Frankly I prefer a more direct approach. Ask him point blank if he escorts. If he's offended and doesn't answer or tells you to fuck off -- What have you lost? - Nothing. If he does escort and is interested he will answer in the positive and you are good to go.

[big-n-tall]

Frankly I prefer a more direct approach. Ask him point blank if he escorts. If he's offended and doesn't answer or tells you to fuck off -- What have you lost? - Nothing. If he does escort and is interested he will answer in the positive and you are good to go.

 

I plan to send a follow email later in the week. I'll be a bit more direct. The first email was to butter him up and see if there is any interest. As you and @Jock123 said, I don't really have anything to lose. If it works out... great. If not, I still get to see all the great guys I've met before.

[topinla]

I follow a guy on Instagram. He regularly posts pictures of him on the beach, working out, etc. Mostly shirtless and he does have one hot body. About a month ago I made a comment on one of his posts and he replied back (but not a private message). I didn't take any special notice to it as he does reply to a lot of people who comments on his post. Two weeks ago I made another comment on his post. This time he followed me on Instagram and sent me a private message to say thanks. I replied back. Nothing flirty. Just normal banter. On the weekend I saw him in a coffee shop. He was walking his dog. We said Hi and Hello and had a chat for about half an hour. He is a nice guy. Very charming and very hot in person. I did get a bit of a vibe from him but that's just my dick talking. We exchanged a few messages today ending with me inviting him for coffee and his reply with his mobile number. Who knows where this one will lead.