But I Don't Want To Be A Daddy!!!

[+ Gar1eth]

I'm not in the PNW right now. I've been away visiting family for three weeks. It must be that I'm new meat in the area because guys seem more interested in me here. Although when I lived here awhile back, I was the closest thing to a leper with a bell around my neck. It was very rare for anyone to be interested. And the funny thing is how many of these guys have been from Grindr -where the young and also older but really in-shape guys reside.

 

While here I've managed to have Bill Clinton-like relations with 2 guys, 'complete' sex with three (one was an old friend), and rolled around in bed with one guy. Strangely enough 4 of the guys I was with have 1st names that start with D.

 

But, and I realize I shouldn't look gift relations in the mouth, all these guys-even the old friend-are into Daddy-types. A few are even 'into' more of a dominant Daddy persona. I'm pretty vanilla. But depending on if guys just want a bit of dominance with me telling them what to do-or possibly a bit more-I can do it. But unless I'm being totally clue-less about myself, it's not really me.

 

I mean I am what most would think of as a Daddy/Bear shape. So I guess I should just accept that most guys interested in me are going to like guys with that type of (non:confused:) physique. It's the Daddy dominant attitude though that isn't me. On one hand while I certainly like things to go the way I want outside the bedroom, most of these guys really wanted me to be dominant. Some of them wanting dominance to cross over into some kink. I can't say it was totally awful. But all the time I'm thinking, "Why do you want me to do this to you?" "This is really weird!! I can't believe you like this!!"

 

 

Gman

[jjkrkwood]

I'm not in the PNW right now. I've been away visiting family for three weeks. It must be that I'm new meat in the area because guys seem more interested in me here. Although when I lived here awhile back, I was the closest thing to a leper with a bell around my neck. It was very rare for anyone to be interested. And the funny thing is how many of these guys have been from Grindr -where the young and also older but really in-shape guys reside.

 

While here I've managed to have Bill Clinton-like relations with 2 guys, 'complete' sex with three (one was an old friend), and rolled around in bed with one guy. Strangely enough 4 of the guys I was with have 1st names that start with D.

 

But, and I realize I shouldn't look gift relations in the mouth, all these guys-even the old friend-are into Daddy-types. A few are even 'into' more of a dominant Daddy persona. I'm pretty vanilla. But depending on if guys just want a bit of dominance with me telling them what to do-or possibly a bit more-I can do it. But unless I'm being totally clue-less about myself, it's not really me.

 

I mean I am what most would think of as a Daddy/Bear shape. So I guess I should just accept that most guys interested in me are going to like guys with that type of (non:confused:) physique. It's the Daddy dominant attitude though that isn't me. On one hand while I certainly like things to go the way I want outside the bedroom, most of these guys really wanted me to be dominant. Some of them wanting dominance to cross over into some kink. I can't say it was totally awful. But all the time I'm thinking, "Why do you want me to do this to you?" "This is really weird!! I can't believe you like this!!"

 

 

Gman

 

 

Even if the guys were trolls, I would say you are doing pretty good for yourself. And think of ALL the money you SAVED ! Just STOP thinking so much..

[MikeBiDude]

I'm not in the PNW right now. I've been away visiting family for three weeks. It must be that I'm new meat in the area because guys seem more interested in me here. Although when I lived here awhile back, I was the closest thing to a leper with a bell around my neck. It was very rare for anyone to be interested. And the funny thing is how many of these guys have been from Grindr -where the young and also older but really in-shape guys reside.

 

While here I've managed to have Bill Clinton-like relations with 2 guys, 'complete' sex with three (one was an old friend), and rolled around in bed with one guy. Strangely enough 4 of the guys I was with have 1st names that start with D.

 

But, and I realize I shouldn't look gift relations in the mouth, all these guys-even the old friend-are into Daddy-types. A few are even 'into' more of a dominant Daddy persona. I'm pretty vanilla. But depending on if guys just want a bit of dominance with me telling them what to do-or possibly a bit more-I can do it. But unless I'm being totally clue-less about myself, it's not really me.

 

I mean I am what most would think of as a Daddy/Bear shape. So I guess I should just accept that most guys interested in me are going to like guys with that type of (non:confused:) physique. It's the Daddy dominant attitude though that isn't me. On one hand while I certainly like things to go the way I want outside the bedroom, most of these guys really wanted me to be dominant. Some of them wanting dominance to cross over into some kink. I can't say it was totally awful. But all the time I'm thinking, "Why do you want me to do this to you?" "This is really weird!! I can't believe you like this!!"

 

 

Gman

Relax and go for it, enjoy....

[+ quoththeraven]

Gman, I consider my foray into dating/casual sex via OKCupid successful - so successful that I've had sex more mind-blowing than with any escort and I'm constantly having my looks complimented and told I don't look my age - and yet you've been more successful in terms of frequency over time than me.

 

Don't do what you don't want to do, but what is the problem here? Sometimes people make tradeoffs to get something they want, like sex. Not saying you have to, but not to and then remark on how little you're getting is inconsistent.

 

Btw, congrats! Enjoy!

[+ Truereview]

I join the train of thought of not overthinking it, being grateful, and exploring!

 

And Gman, please remember that with great daddy power comes great responsibility. Don't forget your gadgets...

http://www.fabulousmommy.com/wp-content/uploads/2009/08/DADDY-DIAPER-812x1024.jpg

[+ Gar1eth]

Even if the guys were trolls, I would say you are doing pretty good for yourself.

 

They weren't trolls by any means. I usually have to have a certain level of attraction for guys, or my tallywacker, even with Vitamin V, won't work very well.

 

And think of ALL the money you SAVED !

 

That's a good thing since I can't afford to hire.

 

Just STOP thinking so much..

 

It's my curse. A dancer dances and a thinker thinks!!

 

 

Gman, I consider my foray into dating/casual sex via OKCupid successful - so successful that I've had sex more mind-blowing than with any escort and I'm constantly having my looks complimented and told I don't look my age -

 

Congratulations to you, QTR. If you only consider OKCupid, you are doing better than I am. I never had any success on that site. It would match me up with other guys by the questions, but the guys apparently didn't like my looks. Also can I assume that at least some of these guys from OKCupid might be wanting more than just a quick roll in the hay and that they might even want a second and third date with you?

 

 

 

 

Don't do what you don't want to do, but what is the problem here? Sometimes people make tradeoffs to get something they want, like sex. Not saying you have to, but not to and then remark on how little you're getting is inconsistent.

 

Btw, congrats! Enjoy!

 

Some of the situations are just weird. There is one guy in particular. I have him convinced I'm an extremely dominant Daddy. He thinks I totally 'get' him and his need for subservience. I will admit it's a bit of a mild turn on. But he along with the guy I rolled around with really, really like dominance. And when I was with them I do have a tendency to conduct an internal monologue on how this is not really me. I don't think I'm going to able to change that.

 

Addendum-I just realized there was an additional guy I was with that I had forgotten.

 

I just wish most of these guys weren't only looking for one time meetings.

 

Still I agree with the sentiment that I should just be glad they happened at all.

 

Tomorrow (Wednesday) I'm back home where if past events predict the future accurately, I'm in for a dry spell.

 

Gman

[jjkrkwood]

As I have written many, many times, I usually find guys at the sex club. It's $17 admission, and all the cock you can suck. The $17 makes them so much more attractive, even if they aren't... I am not so much into a facial esthetic , but a pleasant body and a big cock are my Achilles heels....

[+ Gar1eth]

I join the train of thought of not overthinking it, being grateful, and exploring!

 

And Gman, please remember that with great daddy power comes great responsibility. Don't forget your gadgets...

http://www.fabulousmommy.com/wp-content/uploads/2009/08/DADDY-DIAPER-812x1024.jpg

 

You aren't wrong. The guy I described as an old friend-although he is a young guy-is a diaper fetishist. In his case he knows me well enough to know, I'm not into diapers. But I put up with his (clean) diapers because he's cute. He used to be a baristi at a Starbucks I occasionally went to. When I first saw him, I thought to myself, "Boy, is he cute!!" But I didn't know he was gay. Then a few months later I saw him at a Dallas gay event. Unfortunately he was with his (daddy-bear) boyfriend. They've since broken up. But we both know I'm not kinky enough for him. He describes vanilla sex as boring. So we only get together occasionally when I visit Dallas.

 

Gman

[+ Gar1eth]

As I have written many, many times, I usually find guys at the sex club. It's $17 admission, and all the cock you can suck. The $17 makes them so much more attractive, even if they aren't... I am not so much into a facial esthetic , but a pleasant body and a big cock are my Achilles heels....

 

That's nice. I wish it were that easy for me.

 

Gman

[+ Truereview]

You aren't wrong. The guy I described as an old friend-although he is a young guy-is a diaper fetishist. In his case he knows me well enough to know, I'm not into diapers. But I put up with his (clean) diapers because he's cute. He used to be a baristi at a Starbucks I occasionally went to. When I first saw him, I thought to myself, "Boy, is he cute!!" But I didn't know he was gay. Then a few months later I saw him at a Dallas gay event. Unfortunately he was with his (daddy-bear) boyfriend. They've since broken up. But we both know I'm not kinky enough for him. He describes vanilla sex as boring. So we only get together occasionally when I visit Dallas.

 

Gman

What's the worst that can happen if you (safely) play and explore different fetishes?

[+ Gar1eth]

What's the worst that can happen if you (safely) play and explore different fetishes?

 

True-it's just I feel I'm being inauthentic.

 

Gman

[+ Truereview]

True-it's just I feel I'm being inauthentic.

 

Gman

I respect that. Just wanted to make sure you are not excluding yourself out of an opportunity to try something new just bc it is new or it makes you uncomfortable at first. I've seen some of the smartest, most accomplished men forgo experimentation or exploration simply bc it was foreign to them. To me, the beauty of being human is that there is always something new to experience, and we often have the choice to opt in or out of it. I've noticed that the older I get and the more I say "yes" to things I would never have contemplated to do, the more I learn about my own boundaries and the less I regret.

 

All that said, I'm just tickled that you are getting the attention you deserve bc one of man's greatest fears is being vulnerable, and you my friend, are fearless about that.

 

Now about the diaper thingy...are you sure you don't wanna give it a try with a short Latino who needs his binky?

[+ Gar1eth]

 

Now about the diaper thingy...are you sure you don't wanna give it a try with a short Latino who needs his binky?

 

Before I answer that, do you mind if I ask whether your Forum Avatar is showing the tuchus of the Latino in question? And if it is, may I say it looks quite delectable!!!

 

Gman

[+ Truereview]

Before I answer that, do you mind if I ask whether your Forum Avatar is showing the tuchus of the Latino in question? And if it is, may I say it looks quite delectable!!!

 

Gman

It might just be the case, señor.

[+ FreshFluff]

I respect that. Just wanted to make sure you are not excluding yourself out of an opportunity to try something new just bc it is new or it makes you uncomfortable at first. I've seen some of the smartest, most accomplished men forgo experimentation or exploration simply bc it was foreign to them. To me, the beauty of being human is that there is always something new to experience, and we often have the choice to opt in or out of it. I've noticed that the older I get and the more I say "yes" to things I would never have contemplated to do, the more I learn about my own boundaries and the less I regret.

 

All that said, I'm just tickled that you are getting the attention you deserve bc one of man's greatest fears is being vulnerable, and you my friend, are fearless about that.

 

Now about the diaper thingy...are you sure you don't wanna give it a try with a short Latino who needs his binky?

 

I know where Gman is coming from. Some things can be fun in an amusement park sort of way. That doesn't make them turn ons though.

 

I'd still say, though, that there's something to be gained by just going for it and seeing what happens.

[AdamSmith]

I know where Gman is coming from. Some things can be fun in an amusement park sort of way. That doesn't make them turn ons though.

 

I'd still say, though, that there's something to be gained by just going for it and seeing what happens.

Agree!

 

For this gentleman will someday take care of all these problems for us...

 

http://media.gettyimages.com/photos/ficasket10201israymond-silvas-president-of-direct-casket-in-showroom-picture-id567376905

[+ Gar1eth]

Agree!

 

For this gentleman will someday take care of all these problems for us...

 

http://media.gettyimages.com/photos/ficasket10201israymond-silvas-president-of-direct-casket-in-showroom-picture-id567376905

If the guy pictured were 30 years younger, 100 to 150 pounds lighter, and much cuter than he is, he would resemble very slightly one of the guys I described in my initial post. (And in saying that let me assure the viewing audience that my guy was definitely of legal age-quite a good kisser too. )

 

Gman

[+ Truereview]

I know where Gman is coming from. Some things can be fun in an amusement park sort of way. That doesn't make them turn ons though.

 

I'd still say, though, that there's something to be gained by just going for it and seeing what happens.

I think we are pretty much the same thing. Just one little a clarification: what some of us consider amusement park type of things, others may actually view very seriously to achieve sexual fulfillment. To your point, getting into it to play and explore is good, but if we don't feel that we are authentically engaged/turned on, maybe we do opt out politely - as Gman

 

I also think every situation is unique. To me, it is really important that I look at the bigger picture. I've engaged in some stuff I didn't personally find to be a turn-on, but I knew it was giving my partner pleasure. I went with it bc, in the bigger picture, we were both deriving pleasure from meeting each other where we were. I have also found myself in situations where going with it has confirmed it to be a turn off. The conversation that ensues from that situation is also important bc I'd hate to minimize how important that activity is for my partner - no matter how silly or unnecessary I consider it to be

[+ Truereview]

Agree!

 

For this gentleman will someday take care of all these problems for us...

 

http://media.gettyimages.com/photos/ficasket10201israymond-silvas-president-of-direct-casket-in-showroom-picture-id567376905

It is all about the last supper coffin! Sign me up!

[Phil_musc]

First of all let me say, "G-man, you stud, you animal, you! You are my new idol." And all this time you painted this picture of yourself as being basically pretty sexually dysfunctional (and I say that with the greatest respect and love for you as a fellow poster). As far as being authentic to yourself in your new role, you're going home in a few days where you can be as authentic to yourself as you please. Why not think of this as a trip to Venice - it isn't real but so what? Everyone needs a little fantasy now and again. It sounds like your fantasy ship has come in. Enjoy it. On a brief little stopover in Chicago, I just recently went to the Steamworks baths where I had some "inauthentic to myself" sex. It was wonderfully restoring and affirming (saved me some money too). Now I'm back home (sort of) and thinking of ways to have more inauthentic sex. I think I need another gondola ride but alas there are no canals around here - not munch else either. Gosh, I might even have to resort to some "authentic to myself" sex - probably involving Father Thumb and his 4 handsome sons.

[Phil_musc]

It is all about the last supper coffin! Sign me up!

 

For my taste, that guy is a little much of a bear. I'll wait for the next ship, if you please.

[+ Truereview]

... I might even have to resort to some "authentic to myself" sex - probably involving Father Thumb and his 4 handsome sons.

You, father thumb and his sons too? Lord, these guys get around! We are talking about the same guys, right?

http://zehirablog.files.wordpress.com/2013/06/hands.jpg

[marylander1940]

I'm not in the PNW right now. I've been away visiting family for three weeks. It must be that I'm new meat in the area because guys seem more interested in me here. Although when I lived here awhile back, I was the closest thing to a leper with a bell around my neck. It was very rare for anyone to be interested. And the funny thing is how many of these guys have been from Grindr -where the young and also older but really in-shape guys reside.

 

While here I've managed to have Bill Clinton-like relations with 2 guys, 'complete' sex with three (one was an old friend), and rolled around in bed with one guy. Strangely enough 4 of the guys I was with have 1st names that start with D.

 

But, and I realize I shouldn't look gift relations in the mouth, all these guys-even the old friend-are into Daddy-types. A few are even 'into' more of a dominant Daddy persona. I'm pretty vanilla. But depending on if guys just want a bit of dominance with me telling them what to do-or possibly a bit more-I can do it. But unless I'm being totally clue-less about myself, it's not really me.

 

I mean I am what most would think of as a Daddy/Bear shape. So I guess I should just accept that most guys interested in me are going to like guys with that type of (non:confused:) physique. It's the Daddy dominant attitude though that isn't me. On one hand while I certainly like things to go the way I want outside the bedroom, most of these guys really wanted me to be dominant. Some of them wanting dominance to cross over into some kink. I can't say it was totally awful. But all the time I'm thinking, "Why do you want me to do this to you?" "This is really weird!! I can't believe you like this!!"

 

 

Gman

 

You're a top who doesn't rim, right?

 

Aren't tops usually more in charge kind of guys?

[+ quoththeraven]

You're a top who doesn't rim, right?

 

Aren't tops usually more in charge kind of guys?

 

Not necessarily.

[marylander1940]

Not necessarily.

 

maybe not with a power bottom jumping on top of them... in that case the bottom is the guy who's in charge.