Escorts and texts

[alexslaveboy]

Hello All

 

I was not sure where to post this thread here or under Ask the Escort

But would really appreciate feedback from both Escorts and Clients

 

I have a very troubling habit that's suddenly gotten very noticeable lately.....

 

I see SEVERAL escorts who range in age from 20 to almost 30 that I have been seeing over 6 months now and see at the very least twice a month or more.

Those who know me on the forums know that I am into muscle worship and mild domination nothing hardcore and no pentration sex.

 

Well these escorts have been answering texts very very often before our sessions while we're chatting, after our sessions when we're settling the fees, BUT MOST TROUBLING they will excuse themselves and check a text DURING the actual session!!!!!

 

I am getting very frustrated by this as to me it's disrepectful as a client

I am paying for an hour of undivided attention....am I overreacting?

Have I made these escorts to comfortable in my home with drinks snacks and little gifts? I feel very much that the phone should be left in the other room during the paid session but do not want to seem like a little bitch

 

Sorry for rambling but would appreciate some opinions from both sides!!!

 

Thanks so much

Alex

[jjkrkwood]

Simply from what you have written, YES it seems the escorts have gotten TOO comfortable with you, and are treating you more like a "friend" who pays them for sex than a client.

 

If you do have an open, honest type relationship with them, you should be able to communicate your concerns about them conducting business "on your dome"... If the are reasonable gentlemen, they will understand and adjust their behavior. Because of their comfort level with you, they just may not realize their behavior is inappropriate.

[marylander1940]

Hello All

 

I was not sure where to post this thread here or under Ask the Escort

But would really appreciate feedback from both Escorts and Clients

 

I have a very troubling habit that's suddenly gotten very noticeable lately.....

 

I see SEVERAL escorts who range in age from 20 to almost 30 that I have been seeing over 6 months now and see at the very least twice a month or more.

Those who know me on the forums know that I am into muscle worship and mild domination nothing hardcore and no pentration sex.

 

Well these escorts have been answering texts very very often before our sessions while we're chatting, after our sessions when we're settling the fees, BUT MOST TROUBLING they will excuse themselves and check a text DURING the actual session!!!!!

 

I am getting very frustrated by this as to me it's disrepectful as a client

I am paying for an hour of undivided attention....am I overreacting?

Have I made these escorts to comfortable in my home with drinks snacks and little gifts? I feel very much that the phone should be left in the other room during the paid session but do not want to seem like a little bitch

 

Sorry for rambling but would appreciate some opinions from both sides!!!

 

Thanks so much

Alex

 

I'm sure they were in other sessions while you were texting them and answering your texts while those sessions were on. LOL

 

I was once called "thick and slow" by an escort (by PM and on a thread) when I said I'd rather talk for 2 mins instead of endless texting... but that ain't the subject of your thread.

 

Yes, it is disrespectful. Just tell them to put the phone away and silent next time you hire any of them, I'm sure they don't even realized they're doing something wrong and some might even get offended with you and leave your place because of your awkward demand.

 

There was well-talked case of an escort who got hired for 24 hours, after the client (during lunch) told him to put his phone away and stop texting, he decided to leave and not have the $ because of how bossy the client was. He was even defended by many posters on here saying the escort "was doing a favor to the client because of leaving his other more important business away to go fuck the client" and "it was implied the escort (with other more important businesses) had the right to constantly check his iPhone during the appointment, and I got pack attacked because of saying the phone had to be silent and the escort had the right to check this phone from the restaurant's restroom or whenever the client wasn't around.

 

let's see if you get the same reply after your bossy demands.

[Beancounter]

You're right to feel as you do. If an escort can't put his phone away for an hour or two he has an addiction problem. Communicate your wishes to the escort and if the escort doesn't accept your terms then you should drop the escort. You owe him no further explanations.

 

I think many of us here in the Forum are from a different generation. I find texting to be very rude in certain situations (your case smacks of rudeness) while younger guys simply accept it as matter-of-course and see no problem with it to which I say I'll take my money elsewhere. And I have on several occasions.

[+ José Soplanucas]

Yep. People younger than 25 is just helplessly addicted. So I do not fight wars I am not going to win. I do not discuss or argue about it. My technique is simple but effective, although I am not into multiple hours sessions or chatting and getting to know each other like many of our friends here, so it may not work for everyone.

I get quickly busy, monopolizing his attention, in my living room coach. As soon as he is naked (quite soon), I take him to my bedroom making sure his device is left behind. This technique has proven to be very effective.

[+ saminseattle]

Maybe they think it’s part of the “scene” you’re looking for. That appears to be the case in the video @marylander1940 posted in this thread: http://www.companyofmen.org/threads/servicing-have-youve-done-it-would-you-tape-it.116312/

 

If it's not, tell them, not us. Cultural norms around what is considered rude are not absolute and can certainly vary between generations (just watch an episode or two of Downton Abby to see how perspectives about appropriate behavior can change over time). The answer here is clear communication. Tell them you want them to turn the phone off for an hour; if they can’t or are unwilling to do this, move on.

[+ DERRIK]

typically we go out for dinner before our time together

 

If I see texting (sometimes covertly) I usually stop the conversation and say "I'll just wait while you finish"

 

Typically he get the hint

[Juan Vancouver]

You are not overreacting. Actually you are entitled to feel whatever way you feel, feelings don't need to be rational.

 

If I were you, instead of waiting any longer, making my emotions get bigger and my discomfort grow till the point I explode and become rude, I would just call him before my next appointment and would politely say something like:

 

"Hey, by the way, I wanted to tell you that I feel very uncomfortable when you are on your phone while you are with me. I much rather your phone stayed in your bag for the whole duration of our session. Do you think that is possible?"

 

Listen to him, and according to his answer, book him or not. If the phone comes out again, gently, with a smile, remind him of your agreement.

 

Escorts are not psychics, and even though for most of us who are not of his generation using your phone while you are with someone else is a grave breech of social grace, they don't think twice about it.

 

 

The other thing that occurs to me is that in many muscle worship sessions there is an unspoken current of humiliation. The muscle god is so much higher than the worshiper that rules do not apply to them. One of the tools to exact this humiliation is answering the phone while the worshipper is going crazy with lust. There are many other ways in which the muscle god makes clear the different status they have. A lot of muscle worshippers LOVE this shit and are very grateful whenever one finds a different way to create this status imbalance. Maybe he might be trying to be creative, so don't necessarily think he is just a rude child.

 

 

Either way, kindly talk to him. Speak up. Don't suffer, for God's sakes!

 

You are paying a lot of money. If you are not happy with the service you are getting, do whatever you need to do till do are.

[Juan Vancouver]

typically we go out for dinner before our time together

 

If I see texting (sometimes covertly) I usually stop the conversation and say "I'll just wait while you finish"

 

Typically he get the hint

 

But that is passive aggressive and creates discomfort.

 

Why not directly say that would would rather he didn't answer his phone when on a session with you?

[+ Keith30309]

I think in a similar thread that a poster said that his practice was to begin to get dressed, if he wasn't, and head for the door. That doesn't work very well for an outcall, though.

 

It's funny now but I remember a case where a companion was chattering with his roommate on his cell after "our time" had begun and I got frustrated & bored and very slowly turned up the TV volume. It wasn't a good idea in retrospect but it seemed like it at the time. At the point at which something like this happens any opportunity for meaningful intimacy is gone.

[marylander1940]

Yep. People younger than 25 is just helplessly addicted. So I do not fight wars I am not going to win. I do not discuss or argue about it. My technique is simple but effective, although I am not into multiple hours sessions or chatting and getting to know each other like many of our friends here, so it may not work for everyone.

I get quickly busy, monopolizing his attention, in my living room coach. As soon as he is naked (quite soon), I take him to my bedroom making sure his device is left behind. This technique has proven to be very effective.

 

[alexslaveboy]

Thank you all so much for the replies!!

Special thanks to @Juan Vancouver as a highly respected escort I really appreciated your comments very much!!!!

 

I do think that a few guys that I am seeing are too comfortable sitting in the recliner and relaxing before the sessions. I am going raise my concerns with the offenders during their next visits.

Alex

[marylander1940]

Maybe they think it’s part of the “scene” you’re looking for. That appears to be the case in the video @marylander1940 posted in this thread: http://www.companyofmen.org/threads/servicing-have-youve-done-it-would-you-tape-it.116312/

 

If it's not, tell them, not us. Cultural norms around what is considered rude are not absolute and can certainly vary between generations (just watch an episode or two of Downton Abby to see how perspectives about appropriate behavior can change over time). The answer here is clear communication. Tell them you want them to turn the phone off for an hour; if they can’t or are unwilling to do this, move on.

 

In theory... that guy is a real straight guy being sucked off by a gay man who allegedly taped him without his consent... real or not, that's the story, he's watching a porno video of a woman getting fucked by a guy to inspire himself. I see his thumb moving, maybe he's typing too or just looking for a better inspiration.

 

I did plenty of that with straight guys in the Navy, there usually had a playboy in their hands and lights were dark, there were no cellphones back then in the late 50's early 60's.

[+ José Soplanucas]

Mmmmmm, Barak!

[bimbosavant]

Hello All

 

I was not sure where to post this thread here or under Ask the Escort

But would really appreciate feedback from both Escorts and Clients

 

I have a very troubling habit that's suddenly gotten very noticeable lately.....

 

I see SEVERAL escorts who range in age from 20 to almost 30 that I have been seeing over 6 months now and see at the very least twice a month or more.

Those who know me on the forums know that I am into muscle worship and mild domination nothing hardcore and no pentration sex.

 

Well these escorts have been answering texts very very often before our sessions while we're chatting, after our sessions when we're settling the fees, BUT MOST TROUBLING they will excuse themselves and check a text DURING the actual session!!!!!

 

I am getting very frustrated by this as to me it's disrepectful as a client

I am paying for an hour of undivided attention....am I overreacting?

Have I made these escorts to comfortable in my home with drinks snacks and little gifts? I feel very much that the phone should be left in the other room during the paid session but do not want to seem like a little bitch

 

Sorry for rambling but would appreciate some opinions from both sides!!!

 

Thanks so much

Alex

 

Millennials.

[gezellig4u]

Interesting, because once I have a guy's wrists consensually restrained to the headboard (or have the lad hog tied, or restrained x4 over a coffee table), no silly texting takes place.

[AdamSmith]

(Thread title has me hard imagining it as the topic of a literature grad school seminar. )

[+ José Soplanucas]

(Thread title has me hard imagining it as the topic of a literature grad school seminar. )

 

Let's write that lecture, Dr. Smith!

[AdamSmith]

Let's write that lecture, Dr. Smith!

We must do some joint research at Rockhard Sundays.

[alexslaveboy]

Speaking of straight boys that's who most of my guys are straight or bi

And that's the problem straight guys are cock slaves to their bitches and when the whores text they must respond!!!!

[+ José Soplanucas]

We must do some joint research at Rockhard Sundays.

 

You got me Cheering!

[Guest]

There was well-talked case of an escort who got hired for 24 hours, after the client (during lunch) told him to put his phone away and stop texting, he decided to leave and not have the $ because of how bossy the client was. He was even defended by many posters on here saying the escort "was doing a favor to the client because of leaving his other more important business away to go fuck the client" and "it was implied the escort (with other more important businesses) had the right to constantly check his iPhone during the appointment, and I got pack attacked because of saying the phone had to be silent and the escort had the right to check this phone from the restaurant's restroom or whenever the client wasn't around.

 

Texting during the act is inexcusable. But hiring someone for 24 hours doesn't mean he should be giving the client every second of those 24 hours' attention. If at lunch, the escort should be able to text back briefly, probably to say "At lunch--I'll get back to you later." Constantly texting during a meal, though, is rude. If you have a lot to communicate, use e-mail.

[marylander1940]

Texting during the act is inexcusable. But hiring someone for 24 hours doesn't mean he should be giving the client every second of those 24 hours' attention. If at lunch, the escort should be able to text back briefly, probably to say "At lunch--I'll get back to you later." Constantly texting during a meal, though, is rude. If you have a lot to communicate, use e-mail.

 

I agree with you but don't forget the bathroom breaks for texting or talking if Millennials still talk on the phone...

[LADoug1]

For 24 hour sessions it is okay for an escort to have some alone time to communicate be it text, email, or even calls if people still do that. Lol.

 

But otherwise such behavior is verboten.

 

I agree with others here. Communication is key. Escorts need to know how you feel and what your expectations are.

[oscarkin]

(Thread title has me hard imagining it as the topic of a literature grad school seminar. )

Sweet are the uses of perversity