Not quite "Deli" but nowhere else to post

[gallahadesquire]

I'm asking opinions regarding a website, seekingarrangment.com:

 

Any comments? A lot of young kids there. I put up a profile, and I've had more "hits" than a decade-long membership at match.com.

 

I find it mostly interesting. Has anyone had any experience with it?

[Guest]

I tried seeking arrangements, but I found that it was nothing but kids (myself included) who were looking to get rich quick (I have since changed), and men who tried getting everything for free with no sense of balance or compromise.

[+ Keith30309]

Entitlement!

 

http://www.companyofmen.org/threads/seeking-arrangements-success.111203/page-3#post-1052477

[+ harey]

My antivirus program didn't like the website.

 

[Guest]

Entitlement!

 

http://www.companyofmen.org/threads/seeking-arrangements-success.111203/page-3#post-1052477

 

It's a real problem on that site. Both ends want more from the other and aren't willing to budge. In fact it's stupidly easy to fake your "income" on there to either attract the more desperate boys or to downplay and try to get more out of them for less.

 

Not trying to blame the daddy side, the boys on there (at least locally) I've seen have been slightly on the greedier side. It wasn't as much like rentmen where there was a set fee. Too much room for negotiation brought out the ugly side in some boys.

 

Speaking completely from experience I've seen men on there who would swear off even attempting to "compensate" with money/typical "arrangements" and instead buy a nice dinner, etc. That isn't an arrangement, that's dating. And on the other end of the spectrum I've seen boys practically rob some poor men blind by demanding so many things in return for affection. That isn't an arrangement either. That's called being a gold digger.

 

I'm certain there ARE success stories, but in the pocket of life I was in while on that site (a broke college boy surrounded by equally desperate broke college boys), that seemed to be the main issue with the site.

[american executive]

I have been a member of Seeking Arrangement since last fall. I have had both good and bad experiences. I think, like anything, much of it will depend on how you respond and handle yourself. Here are some general thoughts:

 

The cons:

• You will recieve LOTS of contacts
  
• Many of the guys are inexperienced.
  
• Many lack sophistication, understanding, etc.
  
• Some will flake on appointments, start an email/text exchange and then stop reponding, etc.
  
• Many of them are greedy
  
• They seem to hoping to land a desperate "daddy" who will pay, purchase, etc.
  

 

The pros:

• You will recieve LOTS of contacts
  
• Some of the guys are sincere
  
• The donations you might offer for time are far lower than escort donations
  
• Some of the guys are truly sweet and looking for a nice arrangment
  

 

Suggestions:

• DO NOT allow any of them to hustle you; many have tried with me and I had to be firm and say no
  
• Don't respond to anyone who starts the "sob story" about medical bills, problems, etc.
  
• Build an understanding via email first. Interview them. Get photos. Ask lots of questions.
  
• Avoid the straight guys. It never works out.
  
• Take your time to get to know the guy first before you agree to meet
  
• Make the first meeting in public. Keep it simple, like going for coffee. Continue the interview process.
  
• If something feels wrong/uncomfortable end it quickly
  

 

My experiences:

• An averge looking jock type gay guy who was really great at first but then let my kindness go to his head - fired
  
• An very hot straight muscle guy who tried to hustle me for money - fired
  
• A very nice guy who looked hot and ended up being a little too femme for me - that was my fault for not interviewing him better
  
• An amazingly hot gay muscle guy that seemed so great. We met and he chickened out and left during our first meeting
  
• Currently a super cute, super kind gay guy who I am seeing who seems to be fair, nice, a good guy, and maybe a keeper
  

 

I hope this helps.

[gallahadesquire]

I have been a member of Seeking Arrangement since last fall. I have had both good and bad experiences. I think, like anything, much of it will depend on how you respond and handle yourself. Here are some general thoughts:

 

The cons:

• You will recieve LOTS of contacts
  
• Many of the guys are inexperienced.
  
• Many lack sophistication, understanding, etc.
  
• Some will flake on appointments, start an email/text exchange and then stop reponding, etc.
  
• Many of them are greedy
  
• They seem to hoping to land a desperate "daddy" who will pay, purchase, etc.
  

 

The pros:

• You will recieve LOTS of contacts
  
• Some of the guys are sincere
  
• The donations you might offer for time are far lower than escort donations
  
• Some of the guys are truly sweet and looking for a nice arrangment
  

 

Suggestions:

• DO NOT allow any of them to hustle you; many have tried with me and I had to be firm and say no
  
• Don't respond to anyone who starts the "sob story" about medical bills, problems, etc.
  
• Build an understanding via email first. Interview them. Get photos. Ask lots of questions.
  
• Avoid the straight guys. It never works out.
  
• Take your time to get to know the guy first before you agree to meet
  
• Make the first meeting in public. Keep it simple, like going for coffee. Continue the interview process.
  
• If something feels wrong/uncomfortable end it quickly
  

 

My experiences:

• An averge looking jock type gay guy who was really great at first but then let my kindness go to his head - fired
  
• An very hot straight muscle guy who tried to hustle me for money - fired
  
• A very nice guy who looked hot and ended up being a little too femme for me - that was my fault for not interviewing him better
  
• An amazingly hot gay muscle guy that seemed so great. We met and he chickened out and left during our first meeting
  
• Currently a super cute, super kind gay guy who I am seeing who seems to be fair, nice, a good guy, and maybe a keeper
  

 

I hope this helps.

 

thanks so very much

[jawjateck]

Mutually beneficial opportunities commingled with predators and thieves. Step carefully.

[jjkrkwood]

I'm not that desperate YET that I would ever allow a hot, young, virile stud who is more than capable of earning a living, but too lazy to do so FEED off of me.... This old carcass worked too damn hard to be taken advantage of. No SIREE ! If it's companionship I need, I'll get a puppy....

[+ sniper]

I joke that I've given up on love and am just saving up for the houseboy. I suspect by the time I can really afford one I'll have lost interest.