Thank You, Sailor!

[+ Gar1eth]

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When the M.P.s came for him in 1944, Melvin Dwork was in class, a 22-year-old gay Navy enlisted man in officer candidate school in Charleston, S.C. His companion, under arrest in New Orleans, had given him away. Jailed, found “deviant” by psychiatrists, he was discharged in World War II as “undesirable.”

The word stuck in his craw after the war, an insult that never went away. As years passed, Mr. Dwork became a successful interior designer in New York City, and he and a prominent choreographer were companions for many years. He eventually forgave the man who betrayed him, but not the Navy.

In 2011, after years of trying to remove the blot on his record, Mr. Dwork, supported by advocates for gay and lesbian military personnel and veterans, won his point. The Navy officially changed his discharge to honorable.

“It meant an awful lot to me because I know I never did anything disgraceful or dishonest,” Mr. Dwork said in a 2014 interview for this obituary, in which he spoke of painful military policies and glacially slow changes toward gay and lesbian service members.

Mr. Dwork, who became a hero to gay people for his persistence in fighting the dishonorable discharge, died on Tuesday in Manhattan, Alan Salz, the executor of his estate, said. He was 94.

Mr. Dwork was believed to be the first veteran of World War II to have an “undesirable” discharge for being gay expunged, although his case may have opened the floodgates for appeals in hundreds of similar cases. His was resolved shortly before the military ended its 18-year-old “don’t ask, don’t tell” policy, which barred openly gay people from service but prohibited discrimination against those not open about their sexuality.

While gay men and lesbians were explicitly barred by the military during World War II, many were quietly admitted to serve, especially in the war’s early stages to meet enlistment quotas, with a tacit understanding that they would be discreet. But later in the war purges rose, and Mr. Dwork and his companion were caught in them.

Both men were inducted in 1942 and, in 1943, they joined the Navy hospital corps, which was known to be more tolerant of gays. Mr. Dwork worked at the Naval Hospital at Parris Island, S.C. His partner, whom Mr. Dwork would never publicly identify, went to New Orleans. They exchanged love letters and phone calls, and once had a discreet rendezvous.

With excellent work ratings, Mr. Dwork applied for officer candidate school and, in 1944, was accepted for classes at the Medical University of South Carolina in Charleston. Gay friends warned him and his companion to forgo exchanging letters because of the dangers of exposure in campaigns against gays.

“We stopped writing, but it was too late,” Mr. Dwork said. At the time of his arrest, he believed that intercepted letters had given them away. He said it was not until many years later that he learned that his partner had been arrested, and had identified Mr. Dwork under the pressure of prolonged interrogations.

“I had not taken many classes when the military police came for me,” Mr. Dwork recalled. “They took me to the brig originally, then to the psychiatric brig. They kept me there for weeks.

“It was not pleasant, I can tell you that. The doctors were freakish. The psychiatrists were so stupid and asked such stupid questions. It was disgusting. They had no feeling for who I was and why I was there.”

After his discharge, Mr. Dwork returned to New York. He studied at the Parsons School of Design, worked for antiques dealers and from 1956 to 1959 was a partner in Altman-Dwork, a decorating and antiques concern.

He assisted the designer Yale R. Burge in the 1960s and was a design partner of James Maguire in the early 1970s. He then worked independently for many clients, including the RCA chairman Robert W. Sarnoff and the film director Milos Forman.

His work was featured in The New York Times, House & Garden, Town & Country and Architectural Digest. In 1993, he was inducted into the Interior Design Hall of Fame.

Mr. Dwork said that he and John Butler, a choreographer and former dancer with the Martha Graham Dance Company, were companions and friends from 1961 until Mr. Butler’s death in 1993.

After failing on his own to overturn the Navy’s “undesirable” discharge, Mr. Dwork got help from the Servicemembers Legal Defense Network, founded in 1993 to fight discrimination against gay and lesbian military personnel affected by the “don’t ask, don’t tell” policy. It interceded on his behalf.

On Aug. 17, 2011, the Board for Correction of Naval Records in Arlington, Va., changed Mr. Dwork’s discharge to honorable. A record of the proceedings, obtained by The Associated Press, said the Navy had undergone a “radical departure” from its wartime ban on gays. It noted Mr. Dwork’s “exemplary period of active duty” and said it was acting “in the interests of justice.”

Melvin Dwork was born in Kansas City, Mo., on Feb. 9, 1922, one of four children of Henry Dwork and the former Esther Brown. He graduated from Southeast High School in 1939 and attended the Kansas City Art Institute for two years.

After moving to New York, he attended the Parsons School in 1941 and 1942. On a summer break, he returned to Kansas City and met his wartime partner. Their plans for a life together were obliterated by the war and their exposure in the crackdown on gay servicemen.

Mr. Dwork, who lived in Manhattan, is survived by a brother, Irvin.

A documentary on his case, “The Undesirable,” was made by Michael Jacoby. It has not been released.

The ruling on Mr. Dwork’s discharge entitled him to veterans benefits, including a military burial. But he said he probably would forgo that honor.

Years after Mr. Butler’s death, Mr. Dwork and his wartime partner met to catch up on the passage of six decades. The partner had married and had children, but had never told his family about Mr. Dwork.

“He had always denied his sexuality,” Mr. Dwork said. “He didn’t want to be exposed. After all those years in denial, and your own family doesn’t know who you are? I said: ‘Let them know. They’ll love you anyway.’ But he couldn’t do it. I forgave him, but we don’t speak any longer.”

Daniel E. Slotnik contributed reporting.

 

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Gman

[+ glennnn]

An amazing, touching story. Thank you, indeed, Sailor. And thank you, Gar1eth! I needed a boost right now and you provided it.

[MsGuy]

Thanks, Gman. It;s always good to read of folks who managed through sheer cussedness to live a decent, successful life despite all the crap.

[+ bigjoey]

He is from Kansas City and I know his first cousin who is still alive in a senior facility in the independent living part in her 90's. I think there is a genetic part to a person being gay and his family is an example. I know of four other family members (all second cousins) who are gay and scheduled to have dinner with one this weekend!

 

As a decorator he was highly successful and his own homes and those of clients were constantly in Architectural Digest. He would come back to KC occasionally and I was in one cousin's home that he did and it was a great job.

[Bearofdistinction]

An amazing, touching story. Thank you, indeed, Sailor. And thank you, Gar1eth! I needed a boost right now and you provided it.

 

Agreed - An amazing story indeed - Thank you Sailor - The sad part for every Melvin Dwork there were 100s if not 1000s whose lives were ruined by the brand of dishonorably discharged.

 

Rest in Peace Melvin --- the Pearly Gates could use a little updating (wink)

 

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