Is it an Organized Life?

[FourAces]

This thread is mainly for the single guys who also live alone. As I look around my place this evening I'm wondering what your place looks like.

 

Do you have unpacked boxes laying about after a year? Do you have stacks of paper everywhere or bills laying all over the coffee table? Do you take care of your place, are you concerned about the appearance? Do you buy little things to accent your place?

 

I look at my place again and think what a fucking mess. Boxes that have not been unpacked in nearly a year, papers stacked up all over the place, bills that need to be paid laying all over the coffee table and mis-matched furniture.

 

So how organized is your life? How do you feel about your place in life at this time?

 

RT

[marc anthony]

>I look at my place again and think what a fucking mess. Boxes

>that have not been unpacked in nearly a year, papers stacked

>up all over the place, bills that need to be paid laying all

>over the coffee table and mis-matched furniture.

>

 

 

Time for a houseboy, aces. Try http://www.houseboy.com

 

:7

[FourAces]

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>Time for a houseboy, aces. Try http://www.houseboy.com

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> :7

 

LOL I think I have found the right one or maybe two

 

RT

[jack]

FourAces, Marc said it all and most diplomatically. You have to discipline yourself to not muddle up your life with "little" things and find freedom of time and effort in an uncluttered homestead. You are actually clining to things that don't do you any good, that weight you down, that distract you from seeing the bright clear horizons around you. Freedom in life starts with simplicity. Get Marc's houseboy to clean out the place, you toss out those old boxes of stuff, then you get his twin brother in for the nicest suck and fuck you've ever had. You'll think you are a new man. I have more than one residence and, trust me, I make sure I'm not walking from dump to dump: everything, everywhere is standing tall, with a fresh, new feeling everytime you walk in. Today, my masseur arrives for a three o'clocker to include mutuals (touching, hands milking, lips sucking) -- why shouldn't the place look nice for that when he walks in. A nifty homestead extends your horizons. This, a very interesting thead, FourAces, with plenty of psychology on both sides but I'd rather err with my hand stroking and milking his cock in a well-kept inspiring abode while he sucks me off. :9

[+ Hoover42]

I lived under similar conditions for many years, with clutter so bad that I couldn't see the floor.

 

I was saved by a great book called Clutter's Last Stand: It's Time to De-Junk Your Life! by Don Aslett. The book has a number of simple strategies that really worked for me; I felt like I had lifted an enormous weight off my shoulders.

 

Now, I spend about ten minutes a day and about an hour or two on the weekends cleaning, and my place looks like an Arhitectural Digest photo (albeit of a very small condo!).

 

...Hoover

[Samai139]

Single guy here, living alone and have for more years than I care to admit. Organised? Yes, as much as I want to be. Is there some clutter? Yes, but it's under control

Suggestion: Pick an area or a room and tackle that first. If it's the bills on the coffee table, then buy a stacking holder that you can use to organise the bills---those that HAVE to be paid; those that have been paid, etc., etc. Gaining control of one area/room should give you a sense of satisfaction and motivation to go on to the next area. Trying to tackle the whole house/flat/apartment at a time is overwhelming and I think self-defeating.

Good Luck and don't give up---there's hope )

[bigguyinpasadena]

I live in a small house on a large estate,in the midst of gardens.It is lovely-but-dust and pollen everywhere!And I have a cat(someoneelse got bored with him and pawned it of to me-and I have grown very found of him)so there is cat dander/hair/litter to clean.

As well as all the above the white carpet is totally innapropriate for this setting(the folks I work for have this obsession with white carpet)And I have a lot of art/collectables(think art glass and oriental pieces-not hummmel figurines)In other words-keeping this small house clean is a hassle and I need to devote 1 day a week to the upkeep.

Am I always faithfull to this regime-no.

I do whatever maitenance/cleaning I need to so that I am not disgusted by the condition of my own abode-and then do thourough cleaning(I mean really thourough-pulling the furniture out-beating the cushions-vacuming the upolstered pieces-polishing metal surfaces-scrubbing bathrooms flor to celing-vacuming/dusting walls and celings-cleaning windows inside and out-cleaning exterior walls-etc,,,)about once every 4 months or so.

I used to have a boy come into clean every week-but he moved away and I never found another-and I don't want a cleaning woman in here.

So I force myself to clean-by having guest over or a party.

As Quentin Crisp said-Once the dust is 1/8 of an inch thick no one will notice if it gets thicker!

[+ deej]

I did the cardboard box thing for many years.

 

A few years ago, while preparing for a cross-counry move, I realized I had stuff in cardboard boxes that hadn't been opened in the 3 years I'd been in that apartment. And then I realized they hadn't been opened in my previous apartment either!

 

They went in the dumpster, as did most of the furniture I'd had for 10 years (and it was used when I got it). I went on a crusade to rid myself of junk because I was tired of lifting it on/off moving trucks.

 

These days, my houseboy keeps most of the house tidy and neat. The desk is generally a disaster area, but it's off in a room of its own so I can just close the door on it. (And much of the clutter is actually work in progress.)

 

I still have to actively fight the packrat tendency, but I surely do prefer not being laden with "stuff".

[Guest zipperzone]

When I first left home (after my mother had died) and got my own apartment, I was a real slob. Like........ dishes from my birthday party were still in the sink 30 days later, dirty laundry was strewn all over the floor, and the Banting Institute would kill for what was growing in my fridge! - the place was a real pig sty - no other word for it.

 

One day I told myself that this was not the way I wanted to live. Not the way I wanted to spend my life! And I realized that nobody was going to come in and pick it up for me. So, if I didn't want to live like that, I had better get my ass in gear and change my slobby habits.

 

So I did. It ptobably took a while and I'm sure there was some back-sliding. But today, my condo is immaculate amd I can't imagine it any other way.

 

You might investigate the services of a cleaning lady. I was too young and broke to afford that luxury when I was in my slobby period, but I presume you are well pasted the penury phase of life.

It doesn;t even have to be weekly. You'd ne surprised at what twice a month can achieve.

 

Good luck on your GQing of your abode.

[Will]

You mean I'm not the only one? What a relief!

 

For years, I "kept house." The cleaning woman came once a week and tidied the whole place, but I did my bit while she was out. I could ask people over on the spur of the moment and not have to worry. Then, eleven years ago my life fell apart when a relationship fell apart, and I haven't been able to put Humpty-Dumpty together again, despite the best efforts of friends, shrinks, and -- not least -- myself.

 

Professionally I am committed to visual beauty. And I actually own some very nice things. But there are the boxes, the cast-off newspapers, the un-thrown-away junk mail. I feel so much better knowing that I'm not unique, however, that I may now have the cajones to attack it. Especially with that book that somebody mentioned. I'm going to get it this afternoon.

 

Thanks for this thread!

 

P.S. I notice that this is my Post #0. I wonder what marker I've passed.

[+ Hoover42]

Just call me "nameless"

 

...Hoover

[BARR1965]

>Time for a houseboy, aces. Try http://www.houseboy.com

>

Thanks for the site. I usually hire a maid twice a month to clean my whole house but after checking this site, I have found a better alternate than those molly maids And in between weeks the maids does not clean, I do a the minor houseworks.

[eastbayguy]

>This thread is mainly for the single guys who also live

>alone. As I look around my place this evening I'm wondering

>what your place looks like.

>

>Do you have unpacked boxes laying about after a year? Do you

>have stacks of paper everywhere or bills laying all over the

>coffee table? Do you take care of your place, are you

>concerned about the appearance? Do you buy little things to

>accent your place?

 

Very interesting question. My last house had some clutter issues. However, once a quarter or so, I'd go through and dump stuff. Over the last year, I've consolidated three residences in to one and again have some issues. But, at any time, a guest can walk in my house and most of the house looks neat as a pin. (I don't let guests go in my garage.)

 

My family has a large number of treasured items. A fair number of them have found their way here now. These are things that go back three or four generations or farther. Not sure exactly how this will all get dealt with when I die.

 

Anyway, I do my best to fight my packrat tendencies and keep things organized. The house is neat. My office is a mess. My garage is a mess. I try to spend some time at least every few days in the garage. Slowly but surely the garage is attaining neatness once more. During the summer, it is so wretchedly hot that you really can't spend time in the garage. Summer is winding down so hopefully in a month or so, I'll have held a garage sale and the clutter will again be managed.

 

--EBG

[FourAces]

deej what happened to your family symbol? what's with the canned image?

 

RT

[FourAces]

Man you guys have offered some exceptional advice. I truly appreciate it as it has given me incentive to take the next few days and begin my quest toward something I can call home.

 

At 51 I feel like I'm still hanging on to my youth by neglecting things like unpacking, throwing all the junk away or even organizing my documents.

 

As another poster had mentioned the reality of someone doing this for me is zero. I need to take care of it myself.

 

Thanks once again guys for all of the insight includin the recommended books. I wasn't even aware there were such books out there.

 

RT

[+ deej]

>deej what happened to your family symbol? what's with the

>canned image?

 

My server went down. I like the canned image better than a red X. :-)