A session with no "sex"

[Steve9332]

So here's my question-would it be a strange request to an escort for the whole foreplay/cuddling/making out, but no actual sexual intercourse? It seems what I want is more than what most masseurs would offer, but at the same time less then what would be a "normal" escort session (although, to be fair, is there even such a thing as a "normal" escort session?). Interested in anybody's feedback.

 

Not strange at all. We all hire to fill a need. Personally I love the intimacy of having a handsome hunk for a overnight, spend the time having dinner, talking, sitting on the couch together and feel the heat of another male body!, I love the feel and smell of a man and could be satisfied just touching and smelling the man! To touch and feel and know that he wont mind if I where to peel some of those clothes off and have a taste... that to me is such a intimate feeling that fills a need in me.

I prefer the overnights so there is lots of time to be intimate, and of course I don't mind if the hormones end up running wild and we end up doing the deed, but that is not the main point for me.

[jawjateck]

Not strange at all. We all hire to fill a need. Personally I love the intimacy of having a handsome hunk for a overnight, spend the time having dinner, talking, sitting on the couch together and feel the heat of another male body!, I love the feel and smell of a man and could be satisfied just touching and smelling the man! To touch and feel and know that he wont mind if I where to peel some of those clothes off and have a taste... that to me is such a intimate feeling that fills a need in me.

I prefer the overnights so there is lots of time to be intimate, and of course I don't mind if the hormones end up running wild and we end up doing the deed, but that is not the main point for me.

 

Dang hot...I need bvb to pour me a drink....after reading this.

[+ quoththeraven]

I'd luv to see you post a thread after that session...there are a few threads about asexuality in the forum, but nothing too detailed on misunderstandings & the invisibility factor.

 

Not to step on anyone's toes, but I have an article on this very topic saved to my tablet:

 

https://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/without-prejudice/201209/prejudice-against-group-x-asexuals

[gallahadesquire]

There are many, many things two men (apologies to quoththeraven, freshfluff, and tyro) can do together. The better escorts will determine these.

 

I had great fun "turning the tables" on a Very Well Respected Escort, when I got to rimming, and he said it was just about time for him to rim me.

I gotta get together with him again.

 

I'm almost ready to give up on hiring, but only because I'm so unsure as to what I'm looking for, and it gets messy. My mind, that is, not the local

physical space.

[Guy Fawkes]

To heck with the apology, I'll cuddle with you!

 

(How dare he look down your pants without permission)

 

We'll just leave him tied up in the corner. I'm sure someone will be along to let him loose later.

 

There are many, many things two men (apologies to quoththeraven, freshfluff, and tyro) can do together. The better escorts will determine these.

[+ Truereview]

Not to step on anyone's toes, but I have an article on this very topic saved to my tablet:

 

https://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/without-prejudice/201209/prejudice-against-group-x-asexuals

thank you, that was a good article. As I read the article, I realized that what I was hungry for something more personal - since I'm a bit of a slut and this is an experience I have little knowledge of (asexuality). A while back, I started reading Sarah K's blog - the notes that do not fit, and found this little gem of an entry called An asexual perspective on the play: In Love & Warcraft. I'm digesting a few of the comments, generalizations and connections Sarah makes, specifically that there is a difference between being sex-averse and asexual. Also that asexuality can often make asexuals feel "broken" or put them in a spotlight to be "coached" by others to "just try it." Asexual experiences can also include being diagnosed by well-intentioned friends as having a medical condition such as hypo-thyroidism. Interstingly, Sarah also talks about how asexuals often see romance and sex thru the lens of literature - which makes me wonder if that can distort partner expectations or create unrealistic ones. Muy interesante! Un besito, TR

[+ quoththeraven]

thank you, that was a good article. As I read the article, I realized that what I was hungry for something more personal - since I'm a bit of a slut and this is an experience I have little knowledge of (asexuality). A while back, I started reading Sarah K's blog - the notes that do not fit, and found this little gem of an entry called An asexual perspective on the play: In Love & Warcraft. I'm digesting a few of the comments, generalizations and connections Sarah makes, specifically that there is a difference between being sex-averse and asexual. Also that asexuality can often make asexuals feel "broken" or put them in a spotlight to be "coached" by others to "just try it." Asexual experiences can also include being diagnosed by well-intentioned friends as having a medical condition such as hypo-thyroidism. Interstingly, Sarah also talks about how asexuals often see romance and sex thru the lens of literature - which makes me wonder if that can distort partner expectations or create unrealistic ones. Muy interesante! Un besito, TR

 

I should also add that I know someone through Dreamwidth who is a romantic asexual, kinky and poly. Specifically, she's into rope bondage. Rope bondage is what she does for the high sexual people get from sex.

 

The man she connected with as her top moved away a couple of years ago and they both missed having more frequent meetings, so he asked her to move in with him. She found a job and has her own bedroom for when sexual partners come over and they get to do rope bondage on a regular basis. It's a win/win for everyone. They're in a non-exclusive romantic but nonsexual relationship; they both get physical affection and kink out of it, yet he's free to pursue sexual relationships that don't jeopardize their relationship.

[AndreFuture]

I'd luv to see you post a thread after that session...there are a few threads about asexuality in the forum, but nothing too detailed on misunderstandings & the invisibility factor.

 

Unfortunately, I wasn't able to attend that session as I was presenting at the same time But I plan to contact the presenters and maybe get their slides.

[AresEscortNYC]

Since oral IS on your menu, this sounds like only a gentle twist on a "normal" scenario. But I WOULD make sure that the guy is into kissing and being "romantic"; for some this is not their forte, as they won't or can't create a thoughtful "connection", no matter how brief. My instinct says when vetting, talk to the guy on the phone for a few to verify he has 1) an attention span, & 2) an attractive and engaged inter-personal skill set. But don't verbally ASK if he possesses these things, bc most will mindlessly answer "yes," ---- rather, silently OBSERVE whether he exhibits these traits. This should be all you need to decide whether he's a good candidate for you. Good luck!