Clients Who Speak Explicitly

[Nvr2Thick]

I tend to try to talk about what I expect from the session and avoid talking about money. Rates are listed in the ad. I avoid escorts with "ask me" rates. I don't bring them up unless he does first.

 

Escorts have different standards. I'll usually try to state, "I'm looking for an aggressive affectionate top who makes things happen and seeks out his own satisfaction. I like the intimacy of real kissing, but I understand that it's a very personal thing so I like to know whether you rule it out." I may get a variety of responses:

 

1) All of that sounds good to me.

2) Yeah I like to fuck, but when I cum it will be into a condom.

3) Yeah, OK.

4) I don't like to talk about explicit stuff.

 

1 and 2 have potential for being good scenes. 3 and 4 leave a lot to chance. 2 illustrates that you're not talking about proper decorum for clients; it's just your preference not to be explicit or vulgar. Many escorts have no problem going into detail as to what they can do with/to me.

 

When I'm dealing with a 3 or a 4 there are a number of possibilities:

 

a) He just doesn't like being vulgar.

b) He doesn't want to get caught saying something that might get him in trouble with law enforcement.

c) He will decide what we'll do together once we're together and he determines whether I'm attractive enough and there's enough chemistry for intimate acts.

d) He has no intention of kissing or fucking, so once we're together he'll perform his typical standoffish session and expect payment because he didn't explicitly agree to any of what I wanted.

 

I can appreciate your point of view. I would, however, avoid escorts with your standards. I have no way of knowing whether we can't come to agreement because good girls don't discuss such things, or whether you're just trying to get a commitment to a session with ambiguous objectives.

[hunterlee]

I think the important thing here is semantics. What is vulgarity?

 

Sex to me is not vulgar. It is a beautiful expression of human intimacy. If I am going to spend time with someone I would like to know what is it that this someone enjoys. I am not selling sex acts or bodily fluids, but I want to get an idea of whether we are compatible and whether we would have fun together or not. For me it is important to be able to ascertain that as best as I can before I accept spending time with someone.

 

When I ask "What do you enjoy?" and I get a response like: "normal things", "what all your clients like", "nothing out of the ordinary", "you know.... sex". I am unable to get a feel. Not to mention that sometimes it is the guy who responded "Normal things" the one that asks you to kick his cat hard on the face, then take a dump on the skillet and cook him a patty. Had he said that on the phone, I would have known we have nothing to do hanging out together.

 

My favourite responses sound like: "I am a very sensual guy, like intimacy and fun, love sucking cock, or bottoming or topping, really into kissing, ...." You get my drift.

 

My very least favourite responses are: "You will enter my house and disrobe upon arrival, will get yourself throbbing and writhing with passion will come to the bedroom to play with my blood engorged nips while you recite verses from the Ilyad in ancient Greek, then you will entangle your wet tongue with my hard, probing tongue, till we are both spasming in a cathartic puddle of our own endorphin laced juices...." I am sure you get my drift.

 

When I get someone like this I stop them right then and say that I am not into hot talk in any way, that I am only good in the flesh. More often than not, the ones who only want hot talk will hang up without saying anything else.

 

An ideal client for me is one who is comfortable with the whole process, who doesn't shy away to talk about himself, who won't use euphemisms such as pee pee or "We will do the act", and who will be willing and able to talk about our mutual likes and boundaries. I know right then, that he will be also communicative and respectful during the session.

 

Intimacy and relationships demand us to be able to communicate. If one wants to have sex, one has to be adult enough to talk about it.

 

Well Said!

 

Adannyboy, you are very straight forward in your thinking and I like that but here's my take. I think at one level, guys who hire, sometimes, like me, do make things a little complicated. When I was young and kind of a hottie like you (and I'm sure a lot of guys on here in their youth were hot).... haha.... .it was easy to hook up...not a lot of questions, just do it... if it was hot sex, great and if not, no problem, easy to find another. I guess as we get older and do hire, we just want things to go right when we meet, since maybe sex is not as easy to come by now and obviously we're paying money. That's why maybe we ask a few more questions. We know what we like and if an escort says he can supply that like and he doesn't, it sucks.

 

I understanding where you are coming from, i can see your point of view.

 

I think there are two issues on the OP and that's why it got confusing: vulgarity (the use of specific sexual terms) and legality (inserting $ into the vulgarity which puts both client and escort at risk). My read on this is that @hunterlee is indeed more concerned with the latter, but I can't help but feel he is also turned off by the former. Personally, I think we all have different sensibilities and in a client-provider transaction or relationship, both parties should carefully and gently feel each other out. Actually, this is the part of the hiring process that excites me the most...getting to know a stranger and discovering each other's boundaries and trigger points but within the realm of fun and connectivity (human connection, that is). This dance is cool to me...otherwise, it is just too robotic. Lord, who spiked me kawfee this morning?

 

More the latter

[hunterlee]

I don't think I've ever been with a client who was "vulgar", some have been explicit and detailed in asking what they want, but the vulgar phone sex ones never pan out. When people have request and need details it is always in a different conversation from rates.

 

I agree no phone sex.

 

When asked "what are you into? lean over and whisper in their ear, "bricks of gold and shares of Google"

 

shares of tesla or Facebook too

 

In general... I'm not vulgar. Occasionally, I will say explicit things as part of the lead up to meeting, but this only with guys I've seen a number of times and only the ones who play the game back. I will say there is one of the retired guys I see loves loves loves when I send him random dirty texts. We sext back and forth often. This however is a kind of a different subject than what the op was asking.

 

hehehe thats okay, sounds fun , I like writing fantasy texts

[hunterlee]

After the first meet, all of the sexts and snapchats are available.

 

hehe, when is our first meet

 

In general(not always) a police officer, peace office, law enforcement person is the least likely to be explicit or vulgar in their dealings with you. In fact, if I met someone who would never even speak a bad word, would never be anything but polite, refused to even give me a little kiss - the first thing I would think is oh crap I'm with a cop!

 

Hard to say! Never know these days.

 

I tend to try to talk about what I expect from the session and avoid talking about money. Rates are listed in the ad. I avoid escorts with "ask me" rates. I don't bring them up unless he does first.

 

Escorts have different standards. I'll usually try to state, "I'm looking for an aggressive affectionate top who makes things happen and seeks out his own satisfaction. I like the intimacy of real kissing, but I understand that it's a very personal thing so I like to know whether you rule it out." I may get a variety of responses:

 

1) All of that sounds good to me.

2) Yeah I like to fuck, but when I cum it will be into a condom.

3) Yeah, OK.

4) I don't like to talk about explicit stuff.

 

1 and 2 have potential for being good scenes. 3 and 4 leave a lot to chance. 2 illustrates that you're not talking about proper decorum for clients; it's just your preference not to be explicit or vulgar. Many escorts have no problem going into detail as to what they can do with/to me.

 

When I'm dealing with a 3 or a 4 there are a number of possibilities:

 

a) He just doesn't like being vulgar.

b) He doesn't want to get caught saying something that might get him in trouble with law enforcement.

c) He will decide what we'll do together once we're together and he determines whether I'm attractive enough and there's enough chemistry for intimate acts.

d) He has no intention of kissing or fucking, so once we're together he'll perform his typical standoffish session and expect payment because he didn't explicitly agree to any of what I wanted.

 

I can appreciate your point of view. I would, however, avoid escorts with your standards. I have no way of knowing whether we can't come to agreement because good girls don't discuss such things, or whether you're just trying to get a commitment to a session with ambiguous objectives.

 

#goodgirlssquad

[LookingAround]

Taking advice from others here I once called Maximum Escorts to see who might be available and who would be a good fit for me. After a brief discussion I started politely telling them what I liked and what type of guy I was interested in. The guy I was speaking with had a meltdown and said "wait wait wait you can't be so direct." I was confused but let it go. And did not hire. I'm a bit shy and can assure you I was not vulgar or insulting just trying to give information so we could be sure things were a match. Oh well. Sometimes you can't win for trying.

[calrichmond]

I get a little nervous and shy away from clients (who I have never met) who speak vulgarly explicit over text/email/calls.

 

Versus somebody who only request a time and place. Sometimes they tell me about themselves, hobbies, interests in life and what is going on in their life that has prompted them into contacting me. I usually don't hesitate to set up an appoitnment.

 

What is your take on this?

 

Maybe i'm too high-strung?

I am proud to say that when I interact with an escort, I always use respectful language and treat it as a business arrangement. I like professional escorts, and I assume they like to be treated professionally.

 

Now that it came up, I never fully realized until now that my favorite escorts don't use vulgar language or terms while we are having sex.