Don't know how or if to bring this up with an escort

[Wolfer]

So reverse image searching is standard practice for a lot of clients on here to get a feeling for whether the pics in an ad could be real or fake.

 

So I'm meeting with a guy for a second time who I can see has gone to great lenghts to protect his privacy and keep his personal and escort life seperate.

All but one of his pictures are untraceable with reverse search. But that one image does link to his model mayhem, revealing his real name (and face).

 

Seeing as the guy is unaware of this I'm debating whether to tell him or not since obviously he wouldn't want someone to make that connection.

I'm just scared it'll backfire, like maybe he won't understand why I reverse searched the images. And also best after the session? 'Cause I don't want him going into the session with that on his mind.

[+ azdr0710]

on the one hand, he's a big boy now and doesn't need anybody holding his hand or blowing his nose....

 

and on the other hand, if you are friendly enough with him by now to talk honestly, you could oh-so-casually mention that you were looking at his ad pictures, clicked a little bit and, lo and behold, you found his modelmayhem profile and did he not want that to be showing up?.....don't mention that you did a technical thing like a "reverse image Google search" as that certainly sounds like you were heavily investigating him.....if he's still speaking to you, just tell him to keep the modelmayhem shots entirely separate from his ad pictures (none the same)....

 

and on the other hand (!), he may pursue how exactly did you find the modelmayhem page...so be ready for that eventuality!

[AdamSmith]

If you intend/hope to keep seeing him, you might wait a couple more meetings, when he may have some surer sense that you are acting out of concern for him, and are not just a stalker in the making or the like.

[Wolfer]

on the one hand, he's a big boy now and doesn't need anybody holding his hand or blowing his nose....

Thanks for the reality check. You're absolutely right... I sometimes let my enthusiasm to get the better of me. I'm so desperate to be of value to people that I sometimes (sometimes, HAH!) stick my nose in where I shouldn't.

 

Don't say you reverse image searche just say in the process of trying to confirm you really were THAT HOT in person, you came across model mayhem and you're genuinely concerned. I know if I were him I'd be grateful.

That's a great suggestion, I could actually have a perfectly plausible explanation for finding his model mayhem profile: I'm actually on model mayhem myself and we are in the same area. So I could've come across his page while browsing local listings (which I actually, genuinely do for real too!).

The problem with that is, there's no real reason to bring up that he has the same picture on his page as his ad because he has very recognizable torso tattoo's. So even if his face is cropped out in his ad, if someone were to find his model mayhem page by accident, they'd still be able to make the connection without there being the same pictures in the ad and his page... I feel like I'm not explaining it right... what I mean is that if reverse image search isn't mentioned, there's no reason to be concerned of people making a connection that way (via the same picture) because he's clearly recognizable just from his torso pics alone.

 

I know if I were him I'd be grateful.

D'aaaw, one of these days I'm gonna get myself on a plane to New York. This guy, though, he's guarded when it comes to stuff like this I've noticed.

 

Maybe not mention it yet and see how our client/escort relationship develops? I could always bring it up later via mentioning I was browsing local listings on model mayhem.

[dcguy20]

You've seen this guy before, and know that the photos in the ad match up. Not sure why you are now reverse searching the photos when you have already seen the guy. OK, so you found out that one of the photos links to his personal information. Leave it be.

[Luvmuscle]

I'd tell him…I think he'd appreciate it.

[LookingAround]

Kinda creepy telling a guy you were googling his pics and found out his personal info. I say drop it s d don't discuss it with him. NOYB

[Wolfer]

You've seen this guy before, and know that the photos in the ad match up. Not sure why you are now reverse searching the photos when you have already seen the guy. OK, so you found out that one of the photos links to his personal information. Leave it be.

I reverse searched the images before we met the first time... It's only now, when our second meeting was coming up that it crossed my mind to maybe let him know.

[+ WmClarke]

Make a new email account and tell him anonymously. Then he knows and doesn't have to know that you know.

[+ VeryHappyCustomer]

This has been discussed recently. http://www.companyofmen.org/threads/if-escorts-are-concerned-with-their-privacy.105552/

[Juan Vancouver]

Tell him please.

God knows that if that were the case with me I would be eternally grateful.

 

Just tell him.

[m.yi]

Agree with telling him. How and when though is the tricky part. Not sure if you should just text, call, email or just tell him before/after your session. I would personally call, ask him how he's doing, if he remembers you.. then let him know your concern.

 

Letting him know just before your session might bother him, thus affecting his performance. If after, he might be annoyed that you only told him after the session.

 

If I were in his shoes, I'd be like.."Geez..thanks! I need to take some photos down and change them NOW. How did you find out? Wish I knew earlier. But thanks again though".

[Wolfer]

Thanks for all the feedback, guys! I decided to not tell him during our second meeting. Couple of reasons: I was browsing local listings and found an ad of his where he advertised with a fellow escort for threeways. In every picture in that ad his face is visible, so it makes it seem odd that he would crop out his face in his solo ad. Even though I would like this situation to be one where the escort would be grateful, my gut told me it wouldn't be a good idea to be the messenger of this particular news to this particular escort.

[jawjateck]

Wolfer, that's good discernment. Not all escorts are equally needy or appreciative of our attempts to help. On occasions, I notice a situation where an escort may be approaching a pitfall. Based on my connection and experience with him, I will offer counsel or assistance, and in other situations, I conclude that it's not my place to be his caretaker.

 

Just know that in the future, you may encounter another escort with a blind spot about something, you may feel differently and choose to intervene. That's ok too.