Escorts who charge different rates for men vs. women

[+ Gar1eth]

Well I know I'm a rough, tough emotionally stunted male.

 

Gman

 

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You'd need a gif showing a fat bald male to represent me better.

 

Gman

[Juan Vancouver]

Fair enough. But did the few transgender clients you've seen have enough in common that you can make any generalizations (about those specific clients, not TGs in general)?

 

I can't make generalizations about transexual women based on 6 or 7 people. That is not a significant sample. What I can attempt, to the best of my ability and as far as my memory allows me, is try to state the things these 6 or 7 women had in common. So here it is:

 

They all experienced gender dysphoria. (They had been born in a body that did not matched their gender.)

 

They were all female.

 

Most of them were mostly attracted to men.

 

They were all in different stages of the sex reassignment process.

 

Aside from that, they were so different from one another that it is pretty hard to come up with more similarities. They all enjoyed different sexual practices, seemed to experience intimacy in entirely different ways, needed diametrically opposed level of closeness and communication, developed entirely different levels of attachment, wore different clothes, were of different ages. I could keep going.

 

I have the feeling that my post might have offended you and I understand why. In a culture where misogyny is the norm, a culture in which sexist statements are often disguised as "personal experience" versus personal prejudice I can understand how a post about female escort clients would feel hurtful to you. I am sorry about that. This has been, however, my experience and it was so overwhelming that I had to choose to close a profitable income avenue to avoid the hassles it brought with it. (These hassles were especially noticeable when compared to the ease with which one can do this work with men). It is possible I had bad luck, it is possible that my personal style of love making conveys the wrong message to women, it is possible even that I have so little experience with women that I misread the way in which they communicate. I am willing to consider all these possibilities.

 

As I wrote before, I don't know "the female client" behaves, I just know how most of the ones I met behaved. I am certain, based on the way you interact in this forum, that you would be that ten percent who is easy, fun and clear with boundaries. I see, also, how you may have felt stained by the big brush with which I painted my experience.

 

I am sorry.

[+ FreshFluff]

Once BA asked, I was curious about whether you could found any commonalities in your TG clients as you did for bio female clients.

 

Your statement wasn't hurtful to me personally though others might feel differently.

[+ quoththeraven]

I'd wanted to comment on this thread earlier, but it's not one that lends itself to commenting on my tablet's touchscreen, hence the delay.

 

My assumption would be that an escort who charged less for women than men wasn't really all that interested in seeing men. Even though I'm female, I've never seen an escort like that. I'm not sure I'd want to, for a whole host of reasons.

 

That's even though (as touched on in another thread) it takes longer to get me going, so I hire for periods longer than an hour. That's before even getting into preferences for intimacy over wham-bam-thank-you-ma''am sex. I don't know if women typically hire for longer periods on average than men, but it wouldn't surprise me.

 

I am sorry, Juan, that your experience with female clients was so negative. While it also feeds a negative stereotype, you have always been a straight shooter (figuratively speaking) on this forum, and I have no reason to doubt your characterization. Nor, since it is coming from your experience, am I offended. Your statements about bisexuality give me more pause, but I understand why it's not a term you identify with. Personally, I think it's mostly non-bisexuals who use it in contexts that give it its bad rep. That and society's unwillingness to recognize Kinsey's spectrum.

 

I understand why some men don't want to hire anyone who doesn't identify as gay only, but I feel bad for the bisexual escorts who like being with men as well as women. It's also possible that escorts you think are strictly gay and never see women in fact see women on the side, either as clients or otherwise.

 

By the same token, just as Juan can't generalize from his experience, it's not possible to generalize about female clients. While I will cop to taking longer to be fully aroused than a guy probably would, as I stated elsewhere, oral doesn't do a lot for me except as prep. It's also true (though less so than in the past) that some straight men gag at the idea of going down on a woman. That used to be a more prevalent reaction, to the point where it was a point of discussion and requests for advice about reciprocation (as in "he wants to be blown but won't go down on me").

 

Nor has all the sex I've had with escorts been gentle and sensuous. In fact, assume that the speed and intensity of fucking is about the same as it would be with a man of similar height, weight, and physical condition. Moreover, while I do it on occasion, I'm not that big on flirting and don't generally require a lot of seducing, especially when I hire. There's a reason why in my personal life I went from first base/barely second base (some under the shirt groping) to home plate and skipped everything in between.

 

Semi- but not entirely off-point: Even what we think of as biological sex is a more slippery concept than we think. I've read arguments that sex is a social concept too. (Gender definitely is.) At the margins, at least, that's true.