Barebacking and Self-control

[Guest tinman]

The recent posts about barebacking made me think that rather than railing against the practice, it would be useful if folks would offer tips on self-control. To the serial barebacker, there may well be no easy answer, but in my case, on two separate occasions while topping an escort while lying on my back, an escort has slipped my dick inside "raw". In each case, I found it difficult to withdraw. Does anyone have ny tips to offer the casual and reluctant barebacker in such circumstances?

[Guest endoman31]

It has happened to me twice. After cuming I gave a lecture to the escort, and have returned to the same escorts when they did not do it with me that way again. I do not want a top to bareback me, but the other way is much safer for me.

 

When you are atrappeda like that it is hard to withdraw.

[Guest HOTnySTUDRYAN]

Work on your self-esteem and self-discipline. The more you love yourself, the less you will engage in experiences that can kill you. - RYAN

[Guest HOTnySTUDRYAN]

I do not want a top to

>bareback me, but the other way is much safer for me.

>

 

This may be true, and it probably is NOT true. See the thread discussion "Escorts and clients into death-chasing sex"...

 

You are almost certainly deluded about being safer being a bareback top because you are sticking your dick into an anal soup of feces, blood, foreign proteins (which are immunosuppressive), and whatever microbes your partner is carrying. And your dick is taking a bath in it, abrasively, rubbing and rubbing... And if your partner was a stranger and wanted you to do this, it is far more likely than unlikely he is carrying various STDs. Once again, the issue is not HIV so much as it is all the other much easier to transmit STDs like syphilis, gonorrhea, Hepatitis A, B, C, Ameobas, Crabs, Herpes, Human Papilloma Virus (Anal Warts, VERY easy to transmit), etc.

 

Once again, condoms don't protect you from these, at least there is no evidence they do that I've ever seen. So the issue is trying to screen out people who lead high-risk lifetsyles, as opposed to thinking condoms protect you...

 

And a stranger who wants you to bareback him is high-risk, plain and simple.

 

And the bottom line is, since HIV is hard to transmit, where HIV goes, there goes tons of STDs usually. This is simple probability. And since about half the escorts I know are HIV positive, they are high-risk for all the other STDS too. Thus, condoms or no condoms, I don't sleep with them.

 

RYAN

[Prime Muscle]

Look at it this way. Going raw does feel better than wrapped. That said, most guys probally can fuck longer if they wear a condom. And fucking longer is always a good thing.

[guptasa1]

I dunno about everybody, but there are interesting condom designs now that actually feel as good or maybe even *better* to me for anal sex. Inspiral is one of these brands (tried that one...very nice), and there are others - I've heard good thing about Pleasure Plus condoms too.

[FrancoDiSantisxxx]

Condoms and Personal Behavior

 

This has been discussed before, to death, to use what is likely a poor choice of words.

 

The consensus for both clients and escorts has been that condoms should be READILY visible and available. When I check into a hotel room, a supply of lube and condoms goes in to the night stand and when a client comes over, several towels, lubes and condoms are readily within reach.

 

The same material is both in my night stand and there is also a vase full of condoms in plain sight in my bedroom.

 

There are a number of threads which have run about whose responsibility it is to bring this material. While I would agree that the escort should come prepared to perform, were I the client, I would make sure I would have the supplies even if the escort stated he would bring them. I have a personal preference for the type of condom I would prefer to use. The importance of this cannot be stressed, especially with the surveys which indicate that even when a condom is used, often the condom is not used properly, often due to poor fit or to a lack of familiarity.

 

Proper condom use, thus far is the most effective means of STD prevention. This has been proven clinically and increased condom use amongst sexually active gay men since the early 1980s is probably one of the biggest behaviorial modification changes effected through a broad based campaign.

 

In this regard, poor condom use is actually a significant issue. But the issue of personal behavior is far more complex and difficult to both carefully discern and navigate.

 

People know drugs and alcohol are bad and many, even with first hand knowledge and experience of some of the potential negative consequences, continue to abuse them. Likewise with tobacco

 

Assuming personality responsibility for ones own behavior is the best first step one can take. This includes vigilance, consistency, and follow through.

 

No one ever said it is easy. It is human nature to take the path of least resistance and, often, this path involves doing nothing.

[Guest tinman]

RE: Condoms and Personal Behavior

 

>Assuming personality responsibility for ones own behavior is

>the best first step one can take. This includes vigilance,

>consistency, and follow through.

>

>No one ever said it is easy. It is human nature to take the

>path of least resistance and, often, this path involves doing

>nothing.

 

Ok, assuming one has done all of the above, how would you react to the situation posited in the initial post?

[guptasa1]

RE: Condoms and Personal Behavior

 

I guess I don't understand the situation. Assuming you're the top (and so I'd think the one with the most control), how do they just...slip you inside them? I suppose I'd generally approach that by putting a condom on when things start to get even near the point of where penetration might be expected.

 

Since I'm usually a bottom, I will say most of my experiences as soon as the escort starts playing around that area, I say something about a condom to remind him. In every case so far, it's been pleasant enough. (Usually a reassurance he'll put on a condom before mounting me if he's not there yet or he'll put it on immediately).