Finding an escort's Facebook or other social media

[RSully94]

We live in the day and age where technology has come to the point where you can import an email or a phone number into Facebook to see if someone is on there or not, or any other type of social media. Sometimes, unknowingly, you'll end up seeing an escort's real Facebook page under people you may know. It's happened to me without even trying. And not gonna lie, I have gotten results from importing phone contacts or email addresses to Facebook.

 

Do you think it's a double edged-sword? On one hand, if a potential client finds your Facebook or other social media, it might at least give them a better sense that you're not one of those fakes that are posted on Rentboy and Backpage. On the other hand though, a client finding your real profile could be scary because you never know what they'll do.

 

How do you guys feel about this?

[maninsoma]

I think that people need to be mindful about the information they post on Facebook as well as information they put in their profiles there. I'm not anti-Facebook. I quite like it for keeping in touch with people I know. I'd never share anything extremely personal there, though; my profile does not contain my phone number; and I refuse to log into Facebook on my mobile phone. The result: I just searched for my phone numbers and FB couldn't find a record of either of them. Any escort who wants to keep his business separate from his private life should also limit what he shares with FB. That includes photos. I once found an escort's real name and FB page by doing a Google Image Search on one of the photos in his Rentboy ad since he had also posted that same photo on Facebook. Given that he was using a "stage name" on Rentboy, I doubt he wanted people to discover his real name (and more) so easily.

[big-n-tall]

I'm not against social media. Its pretty damned useful for a myriad of reasons. However, a lot of people abuse it or use it for the most frivolous and misguided things.

 

To me, unless the escort is using social media for "business purposes," purposely seeking out personal info of an escort starts to cross the line IMHO. If he doesn't tell you his real name... invites you into his social media world, he's probably trying to keep his escort life and private life separate. Now if the escort tells you all his private info and invites you into his private life (tells you his real name, facebook, etc.)... to me that's ok. :-)

 

As maninsoma posts people need to be mindful across the board if they want to avoid a lot of issues.

[Nvr2Thick]

I think it's fair game. I always search by an escort's phone number and pics to see what I can find. I would never take it further than reviewing information online in spite of the fact that I've easily found real name, family, address, and employment information for some escorts. It's helped me to find that some guys are using very old photos for their ads. I've determined that a few "total top" or straight escorts were not what they advertised.

 

Funny story, I was heading back to a city I had visited before. In preparation for the trip I called a few hung top escorts to see if any were into what I was looking for. One guy, let's call him "Pete", turned out to be easy to talk to and a must-see escort. His scene was "straight but freaky" - friendly but non-versatile top. I asked if he could recommend any escort for a three-way with another top and he immediately suggested an escort named "Alex". I had met Alex on my prior trip; he was an amazing well-built horsehung stud and I had intended to see him again on this trip. When I arrived I called Alex to see how his schedule looked, and I brought up the idea of a three-way. Alex recommended three guys, none of whom was Pete. When I suggested Pete, Alex was hesitant. He said he'd do the three-way with him if I insisted and it all worked out, but he said that one of the other guys would be a better fit. On that trip I gave up on the idea of a three-way. I hired Pete for an amazing fuck on my first night, then a professional masseur, then a not-so-professional masseur who had the perfect dick for an extended blowjob scene, then a repeat but verbal blowjob only scene with Pete again, and then Alex on my last night for a reunion fuck.

 

A few weeks after I got home I started searching phone numbers and pictures and turned up a lot of details of both Pete and Alex. They're brothers. Each is married with kids. Facebook shows ongoing happy family lives. Each is in a somewhat freelance day job, and they've been starting up a business together. As easy as it was to find these guys online I can't believe their families don't know that they've escorted. I have great regrets now about not insisting on the three-way scene. It would have been wild to have discovered after being worked over by two hung studs that they were brothers, and that one was really into the idea of sharing the same bottom with his brother while the other had been tentative. Pete has since retired, so this remains as a fantasy missed-opportunity.

[SteveEscort]

Sometimes, unknowingly, you'll end up seeing an escort's real Facebook page under people you may know. It's happened to me without even trying.

 

If this comes up and you've never attempted to look for them it's because they've looked for you and found you. Facebook has recorded the search and is now subconsciously asking you if you know them.

[SteveEscort]

I think it's fair game. I always search by an escort's phone number and pics to see what I can find. I would never take it further than reviewing information online in spite of the fact that I've easily found real name, family, address, and employment information for some escorts. It's helped me to find that some guys are using very old photos for their ads. I've determined that a few "total top" or straight escorts were not what they advertised.

 

We use it the other way. A few days ago I had a very dodgy sounding bloke on the phone (sounded a bit rough) and I tapped his number into google and then into facebook and bingo up he came on Facebook with a pic of his new car and he looked very nice, he was a nightclub bouncer type and a gentle giant and it set my mind at rest. He arrived, we did the appointment and left. Any escort that says they've never put a clients number into google or facebook to see what it brings up is not being honest, of course they have. Store the number of an enquirer and then hop over to whatsapp and you can usually see a picture of him.

 

My facebook is in my proper full name. I don't have a face picture on my profile and my header does not identify the cats or anything I have ever posted on twitter. I have it completely locked down, including my friends list. I have a private life outside of escort work and do work for companies that would not find my association with sex work to be particularly amusing so I keep these aspects of my life separate. This is also a reason why I never show face pictures on the open internet. I am simply not interested in showing unblurred pictures to make their decision easier, clients remain anonymous, we should have privacy too. If it means I lose 10 appointments a year then I'd rather lose them. I have to work for another 30 years and once your pics are online, they can never be fully erased. You never know where life may take you and you don't want things to haunt your career path in the future, especially if you're doing this work to get through studies.

 

The only clients who know my true identity are the gentlemen who purchase flights for me. If they're willing to fly me 2000 miles then they're entitled to know a bit more about me.

[SteveEscort]

 

A few weeks after I got home I started searching phone numbers and pictures and turned up a lot of details of both Pete and Alex. They're brothers. Each is married with kids. Facebook shows ongoing happy family lives. Each is in a somewhat freelance day job, and they've been starting up a business together. As easy as it was to find these guys online I can't believe their families don't know that they've escorted. I have great regrets now about not insisting on the three-way scene. It would have been wild to have discovered after being worked over by two hung studs that they were brothers, and that one was really into the idea of sharing the same bottom with his brother while the other had been tentative. Pete has since retired, so this remains as a fantasy missed-opportunity.

 

Very similar to my experience as an escort back in April 2012

 

http://stevegayescort.blogspot.co.uk/2013/05/brothers-in-law.html,

 

I met two guys for a threesome (them both as clients) and it turned out they were married to two sisters and whilst away on stag trips and weekends away with other guys, they always shared a room and had another guy in for fun. It started when one of them walked in on the other, masturbating when sharing a room together on an overnight ferry. They decided to give each other a helping hand.

[needbodywork]

I actually won't meet anyone unless I can verify their real name and at least one social media account. The few times I haven't done this I've regretted it. So yes, everyone I meet I already know their full name, age, friends, lifestyle, place of origin, and current pics. I don't do anything with the information, it just helps avoid fakes and worse. About 80% of the time I can find out all the above on anyone I want to meet.

[SteveEscort]

I actually won't meet anyone unless I can verify their real name and at least one social media account. The few times I haven't done this I've regretted it. So yes, everyone I meet I already know their full name, age, friends, lifestyle, place of origin, and current pics. I don't do anything with the information, it just helps avoid fakes and worse. About 80% of the time I can find out all the above on anyone I want to meet.

 

What....... you need to know an escorts real name

[needbodywork]

Yes. I mean it's not 100% necessary, but the few times I haven't done a thorough background check the experiences have been sketchy. This is just recently though when looking up people became way easier.

[SteveEscort]

I don't understand then, your earlier post said you wouldn't meet without a real name and background and the second said its not 100% necessary.

 

I've been a gay escort now for coming up to 16 years and in all of that time I have told my full private personal details to less than a dozen clients and it's usually only been because they were paying for flights, trains or hotels for me. Only three of my current regular guys know my real name. It hasn't bothered the thousands of other guys who have booked with me and who continue to be regular gentlemen. For example, this Friday I am going to Germany for a weekend appointment. This guy knows my real name because he has access to my British Airways account. He pays for my flights and drops them into my online account. He needs to know my real name, however he didn't know my real name until foreign trips became part of our ongoing arrangement. He never once asked me nor questioned my details before making an initial appointment with me.

 

If you approached me and wanted private personal details and verified social media before an initial appointment you'd be told which running jump to go for. That information is private and allows me me to have some sort of privacy in my own life away from escorting. My facebook account is for my family and friends, it's not open season for clients to have a look in and see me interacting with my sister, cousin and uncle, nor see me in friends and family pictures with people who have no idea about my other life. If handing over personal information like that is a condition of an appointment with you, that appointment wouldn't happen. I worry about how many escorts you've approached and frightened to death because they've wondered whether you an employer, co-worker, police , neighbour or family trying to ascertain if Brian Mulgrove is Brad Escort. You really really do not need to know private information for an intitial meet and this revelation has thrown me a little if I am perfectly honest. No client has ever asked me on an initial phone call, email or text for my private details as a condition of the appointment in all of the years I have worked as an escort. That information is mine to give, not yours to obtain.

 

I think I'm a little shocked.

[MiamiLooker]

I don't understand then, your earlier post said you wouldn't meet without a real name and background and the second said its not 100% necessary.

 

I've been a gay escort now for coming up to 16 years and in all of that time I have told my full private personal details to less than a dozen clients and it's usually only been because they were paying for flights, trains or hotels for me. Only three of my current regular guys know my real name. It hasn't bothered the thousands of other guys who have booked with me and who continue to be regular gentlemen. For example, this Friday I am going to Germany for a weekend appointment. This guy knows my real name because he has access to my British Airways account. He pays for my flights and drops them into my online account. He needs to know my real name, however he didn't know my real name until foreign trips became part of our ongoing arrangement. He never once asked me nor questioned my details before making an initial appointment with me.

 

If you approached me and wanted private personal details and verified social media before an initial appointment you'd be told which running jump to go for. That information is private and allows me me to have some sort of privacy in my own life away from escorting. My facebook account is for my family and friends, it's not open season for clients to have a look in and see me interacting with my sister, cousin and uncle, nor see me in friends and family pictures with people who have no idea about my other life. If handing over personal information like that is a condition of an appointment with you, that appointment wouldn't happen. I worry about how many escorts you've approached and frightened to death because they've wondered whether you an employer, co-worker, police , neighbour or family trying to ascertain if Brian Mulgrove is Brad Escort. You really really do not need to know private information for an intitial meet and this revelation has thrown me a little if I am perfectly honest. No client has ever asked me on an initial phone call, email or text for my private details as a condition of the appointment in all of the years I have worked as an escort. That information is mine to give, not yours to obtain.

 

I think I'm a little shocked.

 

Poster needbodywork never says or implies that he asks the escort for the personal information. As Gilda Radner once complained “there’s too much violins on television.”

[SteveEscort]

Poster needbodywork never says or implies that he asks the escort for the personal information. As Gilda Radner once complained “there’s too much violins on television.”

 

 

I think you'll find he did. I questioned wether this was an escort he was referring to

 

He replied

 

Yes. I mean it's not 100% necessary, but the few times I haven't done a thorough background check the experiences have been sketchy. This is just recently though when looking up people became way easier.

 

How else would he find it, I am sure clients wouldn't divulge personal names and private social media details to other clients about an escort. That would just be so wrong.

 

We need to find out from him exactly what he's asking escorts and how eager they are to divulge it. Either he hires escorts who leave personal traces of themselves all over the Internet or there's some other way of doing this. I know the police can find out my name and address from my phone number because my escort phone is on contract. That's the only thing I have listed in my real name everything is registered to and listed under my business name. Escorting is legal here, so I trade as a business under a business identity.

[MiamiLooker]

How else would he find it...

 

He'd find it by searching information from the escort's ad or communication, such as googling a pic from the ad or an email address from an email from the escort, just like others have suggested in this thread.

[+ VeryHappyCustomer]

Steve, it's easy to find an escort or client's personal information online. Some of the guys on this forum are quite skillful detectives... as are the friend-suggesting automata at facebook and other social media sites. Dwelling, as you do, in the penumbra of EU privacy laws, you may see slightly less personal info about yourself and your customers online. Here in the US, privacy is more social convention than reality.

[needbodywork]

No, they never tell me, and I never use the information maliciously. There are many ways to find out information about people who post an online ad.

 

Most people know about basic Googling, Google image search, paying for reverse phone number lookups, importing numbers into Facebook.

 

Sometimes the Google image search is so specific it's like finding a needle in a haystack.

 

Sometimes there are other random ways like seeing the person in public somewhere or finding their personal dating profiles.

[SteveEscort]

Oh ok, I apologise

 

Your post made made it look like you wouldn't hire without obtaining personal Information

 

I take back what I said

 

But for your information. Reverse look up is illegal here.