What's a good website for meeting other men?

[Guest]

Some of you who may spend a lot of time on this message forum may know that my partner of 12 1/2 years left me suddenly in October. Most people who know me were (or seemed to be) a lot more shocked than I was. He was very distant in the last year or two, and had spent several months taking a keen interest in losing weight and getting in shape, which I knew was not for my benefit. As my next-door neighbor said, "My, but Unicorn, you're such a great catch!". But I have a problem. I'm rarely attracted to guys my age, unless they're Tom Cruise or Brad Pitt. On the plus side, I could offer someone financial stability, and I'm an honest guy who's in good shape for my age. I'm not sure where to meet someone. Regular gay dating sites? Which are good ones? I looked into gaysugardaddys, but I'm really not interested in hooking up with someone in his early 20s, and a lot of guys seemed to be turned off at living in the burbs anyways. Also, I would prefer being in an open relationship, at least as far as one-time hook-ups are concerned. I can offer a pleasant, fairly care-free life for someone, and I'm not even asking the man to give up his sex life (as long as it's a one-time hook-up). Any suggestions?

[Guest]

I just saw this 27 year-old guy on the gaysugardaddys website:

http://s.dvipcdn.com/data/dating/a1/photos1/80/2/6151802_1_4_1_39ffa737.jpg

 

But his budget is: Budget: $3000 - $5000/mo. Yikes! That plus living expenses??

[rguer]

 

But his budget is: Budget: $3000 - $5000/mo. Yikes! That plus living expenses??

 

It seem there are many guys on those sites with an exaggerated valuation of their own worth.

 

Other places to try are gayarrangement.com (which redirects to a straight porn site about half the time - what's up with that?), houseboy.com, and houseboi.com

[+ FreshFluff]

Unicorn, I'm really sorry to hear about your break up. That must have hurt a lot.

 

From your posts, I agree with your neighbor; you seem like an alpha, highly intelligent, successful guy. Dating can be challenging for those of us who are only attracted to a certain type of guy. But the attributes I mentioned will draw younger guys too, especially as you're relaxed about exclusivity. Of course, your chances depend on the demographics and dating scene where you live. But if you're in a place with plenty of young gay men, I'd bet that eventually, you will meet a younger guy (or several) who will want to be with you, with or without support.

[anotherjohnindupont]

I just saw this 27 year-old guy on the gaysugardaddys website:

http://s.dvipcdn.com/data/dating/a1/photos1/80/2/6151802_1_4_1_39ffa737.jpg

 

But his budget is: Budget: $3000 - $5000/mo. Yikes! That plus living expenses??

 

if I had the money I would hire him right away, but I would make him work for it and have sex with him everyday....

[+ VeryHappyCustomer]

if I had the money I would hire him right away, but I would make him work for the money and have sex with him everyday....

 

At a daily cost of just $100 to $167 he's quite a bargain. Buy in bulk and save!

[anotherjohnindupont]

At a daily cost of just $100 to $167 he's quite a bargain. Buy in bulk and save!

Exactly... but you need to consider the "living expenses" but I am sure they're negotiable. Obviously a house boy is cheaper than paying for his rent and he's always available at home. he's very handsome maybe a car and some college education are on his list.

[Guest]

Thanks for all of the advice. I really appreciate it. I was kidding a bit about that 27 year-old guy. I really don't expect to hook up with someone that handsome, and 27 is kind of on the low end of what would be reasonable, although at least he's not less than half my age. Although, strangely enough, there's a 28 year-old former escort (I say former, because he hasn't run an ad in months) who I feel would be really great for me. Over the last few months, he's sent me a number of e-mails telling me how much he's enjoyed our times together (I've taken him on two extended trips, which were some of the most wonderful trips in my life), often signing "Love, <escort's name>." He even wrote me a Christmas card, telling me that he cherishes the memory of the trips we've taken together, again signing it "Love, <escort's name>." I've told him that my ex and I have broken up. I know him quite well. I would love to ask him if we could be together somehow, but he won't answer any of my texts or phone calls. When I e-mail, he keeps saying "not this week" or "we should get together in the new year" and now I haven't heard from him in 2 weeks. It's really driving me a bit nuts. He's a struggling artist, and I would love to be his benefactor, but I can only surmise that he has another relationship he's working on, and doesn't want to talk to me while he's working on the other person, but perhaps would like to keep me available (or at least know that he's fond of me?). Well, I'm certainly not putting my search on hold while I wait for him, but I would definitely be extremely grateful if he would at least talk to me...

(Incidentally, I'm pretty confident that this former escort doesn't follow this message center)

[Diverdan]

Unicorn,

I think you are taking the right approach. It is impossible to know exactly what your friend is going through at the moment, and your reminders to him that you enjoy his company, etc. is the best thing you can do at the moment. But glad you are not just sitting waiting for him. Even if he reads this forum, there is nothing in any of the posts that is untrue or negative about him or you. I do feel badly for you in this situation, as 12.5 years is a long time. I am sure you spent some time thinking about the signs that a break up might occur and my only other suggestion would be to perhaps spend some time on why that break up finally occurred. Having gone through some separations, I found that in retrospect I could have done more to keep our relationship together. In any event, I do wish you well, and know that one of these days the right guy will come along for you. As your neighbor said, "You are a great catch"...

[+ honcho]

I met my regular squeeze for the past 6 years through http://www.silverdaddies.com (we're still together).

 

He's the younger man (but only by 5 months).

[Guest]

Thanks again for that website! I guess since I'm over 50, I can consider myself a "silver daddy," although I don't have a gray hair on my head, and, no, I don't dye it. Just virtuous living, I guess!

[Tonyko]

I just checked out Silver Daddies and was about to say WOW I should join this they're hot they put me to shame I gotta moisturize more! (then I realized I was in the "admirers" gallery :-)