"5 things I hate about being bisexual."

[marylander1940]

5 things I hate about BEING bisexual, excuse the typo... damn dyslexia too.

I can't push (!) and ask for it to be corrected.

 

[video=youtube;eqx3Q0dQaKE]https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=eqx3Q0dQaKE

[+ purplekow]

It seems there is only one thing he hates about being bisexual, that is other people's reaction to it. Once he is comfortable in his sexuality and less concerned about the reaction of others, he will do fine, whatever his sexuality.

[Dave]

It seems there is only one thing he hates about being bisexual, that is other people's reaction to it. Once he is comfortable in his sexuality and less concerned about the reaction of others, he will do fine, whatever his sexuality.

 

awesome video - thanks for posting. that kid said it quite well.

 

I'm bi and comfortable in my sexuality, and have been out about it since I was 18. but - it took me 20 years to not be concerned about the reaction of others. I still run into all of the things he mentioned. and if I'm being perfectly honest, it still bothers me, sometimes.

 

I think that gay guys from my generation who came out around the same time as me had it *somewhat* easier, in that over these years, acceptance of gay culture/lifestyle/relationships has increased at a much greater rate than bi acceptance. biphobia is alive and well, in large part due to bi-invisibility. bisexual people have different challenges than homosexual people.

 

some links, if anyone's interested:

Bi Any Other Name book: http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Bi_Any_Other_Name

BiNet USA bisexual US-based national group: http://www.binetusa.org

Dr. Fritz Klein, bisexual pioneer: http://bisexuality.wikia.com/wiki/Fritz_Klein

Klein Sexual Orientation Grid online quiz: http://www.youngsouthampton.org/children-and-young-people/advice/relationships/sexuality/klein-sexual-orientation-grid-quiz.aspx

The Problem of Bisexual Invisibility article: http://www.bilerico.com/2013/07/bi_invisibility.php

[Guest]

Interesting that in the comments to his video, those commenting on the video didn't criticize his bisexuality, but rather his apparent disparaging of "fat" and "ugly" chicks. In a response to one of the comments, he writes ahahaha funny thing is i have a boyfriend and have had for 7 months! you two are just jealous sorrrrryyyy about itttttt! now i suggest you both hoot away to your boring depressing lives. BYEEEEEE. If I were bisexual, I'm not sure why it would be important for me to bring it up early in a relationship. I wonder if there's a certain amount of bragging going on here. If there are guys out there who enjoy sex with both men and women with as much pleasure as I enjoy sex with men, then I'll be the first to admit that I'm jealous of those guys. Who wouldn't be? When a guy I'm dating mentions it early in the relationship, I think "Great, the guy could dump me because he wants to start a traditional family, even if there's nothing wrong with me. There's no way I can bear children. How can I compete with that?".

[+ quoththeraven]

I figure I might as well use this thread to correct some misinformation I passed along earlier on a different thread. I've been made acutely aware after a discussion with a friend of mine from LiveJournal that despite its origins and etymological roots, many -- maybe even most -- people who identify as bisexual are attracted to or open to attraction to anyone regardless of gender expression rather than limiting themselves to cismen and ciswomen. That would make bisexuality and pansexuality the same, just different terms. From what I understand, this is the subject of much discussion and controversy within the bisexual community itself.

 

I dislike both terms because of their connotation and etymology, but if I had to, I'd identify as pansexual rather than bisexual even though bisexual is the more understandable to the public (who would nevertheless take it to mean attracted to ciswomen and cismen, which is one of the reasons I don't like it). But it doesn't mean "attracted to anyone," which is why statements that there's more to be jealous of or that "competition" for the bi/pansexual's affections are doubled or infinite are so infuriating. I can't think of anything more insulting to say -- basically, that bi/pansexuals are less trustworthy in relationships than others. But I see it all the time.

 

Also, he could have made his point about the breadth of his attraction to women vs. men without being insulting by saying he's physically attracted to a narrower group of women than men (which to my mind means he's probably closer to a Kinsey 6 than a Kinsey 0). Gender preferences are probably something most (not all) bi/pansexuals have. But yes, let's not further contribute to society's opinion about who's hot enough to fuck (to put it in blunt terms), especially when hotness is not always the only consideration.