BiSexual Survey: Preferences and Roles/ Related?

[Guest Mikel]

For those who are honestly Bisexual, please feel free to respond to the following two (2) questions. 1st: Is yourr PREFERENCE for men, women, or equally split? 2nd: Is your role with men as a Top, Bottom, or Versatile?

 

For purpose of clarity and for the purpose of this survey, since there are so many definitions and understandings of Bisexuality, we will agree to the following understanding of Bisexuality: You REGULARLY have sex with members of both genders (or honestly masturbate about it), as opposed to just an occasional and rare "fling".

 

Wondering if there is any correlation between the responses of the two questions posed above. The survey is as simple as that...not pretending to be a scientic survey...and not attempting to entertain various understandings of bisexuality or whether there is legitimately such a thing.

 

Would love to hear from all of you who meet the criteria of bisexuality as stated for the purpose of this survey.

[ready182]

Alot of gays disapprove of bisexuality, so don't know if you'll get alot of responses. However, I'm not one of them, so here goes:

 

1. I definitely think about men more than women, although I enjoy sex with both.

 

2. With men, I am versitile.

[Guest Mikel]

Thanks for your reply. It makes me aware I better again stress that the purpose of the post is NOT to debate the legitimacy of Bisexuality. We have all heard those arguments to the point of redundancy. I understand that no one has an interest in rehashing them all over again.

 

This post and the survey is for those who, despite what a vast number of gays contend, honestly consider themselves bisexuals. In otherwords, for those whose experiences compel them to accept bisexuality as legitimate no matter what the rest of us say!

 

Thanks for the opportunity to clarify that again, early on, so the post would not have to re-argue the sentiments against bisexuality.

[axebahia]

>For those who are honestly Bisexual, please feel free to

>respond to the following two (2) questions. 1st: Is yourr

>PREFERENCE for men, women, or equally split? 2nd: Is your

>role with men as a Top, Bottom, or Versatile?

 

1. My peference is for beauty, and on the escort market price. I think if presented with an equivalent male and female escort in terms of beauty and price, I would opt for the female one. It's a hard thesis to test, but as close as I can come to testing it is in Rio where I rent exclusively women.

 

2. Exclusivey top with men, but I do like to give the "rump pump" to women on occasion too.

[Will]

As I have always lived at the extreme end of the famous Kinsey Scale, I'm not remotely qualified to answer these questions. However, I certainly applaud Mikel for drafting them. This is something I've always wondered about myself -- particularly because I can't imagine what it would be like, even though I've tried.

[Guest ncm2169]

Hi Mikel. Nice to see ya again. Let's not discuss escort reports. ;-)

 

I'm not sure I accept your strict definition of bi-sexual. I've gone back and forth over the years, and I've had periods where I was exclusively with one gender or the other, as well as periods where I was in a m2f relationship AND had frequent anonymous m2m hookups. These days I'm pretty much exclusively into m2m, but occasionally I fantasize about past m2f sex.

 

Does that help? :*

[Guest Cumbee]

Mikel

 

These two questions are not as easily answered as you think. Am I the only one on these boards who finds himself to have had wide swings back and forth in sexual preferences over the years.

 

QUESTION ONE:

There was a period of time where I was almost exclusively STRAIGHT in action if not in fantasy. I freely admit that this period was at least in part my reaction to the then perceived "gay health crisis" and the apprehension it caused me.

 

At other times, both before and after the above "straight period", I would be 60%-40% GAY for a while, followed by 60%-40% STRAIGHT for a while. I found myself swinging back and forth every few months or so. In retrospect I think this fluctuation was based upon whomever I could find as a partner. I always was attracted to the young and beautiful. Hard to score, but when I was successful I stayed with them until after a few months I became bored and resumed looking. I guess I basically took advantage of whatever I could find.

 

Now as I get older, I find myself primarily GAY oriented. I still have a eye for really beautiful young female. I don't act on these attractions much any more (except in my imagination). In my gay life I'm currently involved in a "friendship with benefits". That pretty much satisfies my physical needs. My gay fantasies still run wild though.

 

QUESTION TWO:

I have ranged from PRIMARILY A TOP through to SLUT BOTTOM, and back again, over the years. I really like to screw twinks. If I encounter a well-hung, willing and dominate top, I can turn submissive very quickly. Even with broads I can become orally submissive very readily. I like sex a little rough, and can swing a little kinky if I get the right signals!

 

So what does all this make me in your survey, besides CONFUSED?!!

[Guest Mikel]

Yes, it helps. Thanks. And good to hear from you.

 

And we can talk about anything we want to talk about. Anytime. I promise I'll be civil! (LOL)

[Guest ncm2169]

Oops sorry. Forgot about the top/bottom deal.

 

For years, ever since my first awful experience with m2m anal sex as a top (think very messy), I considered anal sex gross, although I did top a couple of other guys who wanted it bad. }(

 

It was only after I began hiring escorts that I resumed my topping activities, thanks to a very talented escort who really showed me what I could and should do as a good top.

 

Since then (about a year ago), I've gotten very bottom curious and have only recently begun acting on that curiousity. All I can say is, why didn't somebody tell me what I was missing? :9

 

It's fun to think that at advancing middle age one can still explore new sexual frontiers. :+

[Rick Munroe]

>I do like to give the "rump

>pump" to women on occasion

 

Is the Rump Pump anything like the Ronco Dial-O-Matic Food Slicer? At $29.95 plus shipping and handling, that's very generous of you.

 

http://store.ronco.com/includes/images/dialomatic195x211.jpg

[FrancoDiSantisxxx]

Clarity

 

For the two gentlemen who responded as to "regularly" having sex, I believe it could include a historical element; that is, throughout these gentlemen's sexual history, they have enjoyed sex mutually with women and men out of clear and obvious preference (rather than say a predominantly straight man who, while in prison or due to a lack of female companionship, pursued sexual release with men for a period of time).

 

Finally, I think a more interesting aspect is whether the preference is emotional or purely sexual. I have a fair number of bisexual clients and the ones whom I have gotten to know well or whom have volunteered this information, often find themselves emotionally attached to women but sexually drawn to men. This is opposed to the gay man who married a women but always was both drawn emotionally and physically to gay men. I do not consider these men bisexual in anything other than deed, particularly since once married, they rarely seek other women either for emotional relationships or sexual ones.

[Trixie]

Personally, my sexual escapades have been solely with les testosteronis, never have I explored the mystic Delta of Venus. Even my half-hearted attempts at "having a girlfriend" in high school never got any farther than embarrassed hand-holding and the eventual hurt-feelings of one or both parties as the artificial relationship decayed into one of avoidance.

However, I've been with some bisexual men... two married men, a few guys who "swing both ways", and one man who discovered the pleasures of m/m sexuality while serving a prison term. Each of them approached their bisexuality a different way.

It ranged from a secretive, guilt-ridden compulsion on the part of one of the married men to the feeling that finding willing male partners was "just easier" on the part of the ex-con. (No doubt!! I sure was one!)

I always ask similar questions as those stated in the poll when I find myself with a bisexual partner. It seems that no one ever has real concrete answers to these sorts of questions, no more so than I can fully explain my fetish for tickling.

"Fires of Unknown Origin..."

La Trix

[Guest soccerstud]

Great question/survey. Although gay, I participated in a bi-sexual group therapy group for about 6 months. (Everyone except me was bi; I told them up front first time that I was gay.) There were 6 men in the group. At one session, I asked the same question in a slightly different form: when you masterbate, do you fantasize about men or women more often? Every one of them said they mostly fantasized about men. (I had my theories, but the "why" was not your question.) Was a really interesting, good group and gave me a lot of insights into myself and the others.

[Guest Mikel]

Just curious...any reason why, as a gay man, you participated in a bi-therapy group...not implying anything was wrong with it...more, I'm wondering if there wasn't a gay group available...not that bi's aren't gay